Mikki Mars Posted November 13, 2010 Posted November 13, 2010 so there was this girl at school who I kept seeing around, and we eventually got lunch after I got her number. She facebooked me afterwards, tho when I looked at it, it said she had a boyfriend who goes to another school. Then I kept seeing her around school, but nothing too much. Three weeks later, yesterday, I see her behind me in the lunch line, I'm like "wanna catch up?" She says yes, we sit and eat lunch together. We have a great convo, and at a point, she notices I wasn't eating my food, which might make her think I'm really interested. She asks me what I'm doing on the weekend, I say nothing definite, but I might be going to a party saturday. Then I invite her, she is going with her roommates somewhere. The convo continues anyway, and she notices a flyer on the table for a showing of a movie on campus, and I tell her "i might go to this, lemme know if u wanna come." she then says she'll text me if she wants to. So all day, no text. So about half an hour ago, I text her "i might go to (the movie)..." and then she replies 7 mins later "awh I'm not going!" WHAT DO I DO? WHAT DID I DO WRONG? When around her, she never talks about her boyfriend nor does she ever use that word. What could it have been? Could her roommates have cockblocked me? How should I respond to her text? What is my next move?
Cracker Jack Posted November 13, 2010 Posted November 13, 2010 Next move? Probably focus on another girl. She has a boyfriend. You did nothing wrong; it has nothing to do with you. On the bright-side, at least you tried. If she's interested in going out to places with you, let her be the one to let you know.
Sabali Posted November 13, 2010 Posted November 13, 2010 Next move? Probably focus on another girl. She has a boyfriend. You did nothing wrong; it has nothing to do with you. On the bright-side, at least you tried. If she's interested in going out to places with you, let her be the one to let you know. ^ Yep. This is pretty much what it boils down to.
bac Posted November 13, 2010 Posted November 13, 2010 Ask her about her BF. When she answers, focus on her body language. Then, If you still do not get it, ask her again. The best way to deal with rejection is to consider it as a blessing.
Author Mikki Mars Posted November 13, 2010 Author Posted November 13, 2010 WHAT DID I DO WRONG? You expected a positive outcome. I hoped for one. When will I be accepted by girls instead of rejected?
veggirl Posted November 13, 2010 Posted November 13, 2010 What outcome are you looking for? SHE HAS A BOYFRIEND. Whether she discusses him with you or not, she has one. Are you hoping she will dump him for you? Cheat on him with you? Perhaps she didn't go to the movie cause she was with her BOYFRIEND? What you do is find a girl who doesn't have a boyfriend and try to take HER on a date.
lululucy Posted November 13, 2010 Posted November 13, 2010 Yep. She isn't interested. Maybe it was fun flirting, maybe she just thought of you as a friend from the get-go. Either way, she isn't concerned about your feelings because it never entered her mind from the beginning that you guys would ever be something. Hence why she just said "aw I'm not going!" instead of "let's reschedule!" -- it was not a date. And you didn't really ask her out, you just said you might go to a movie. Not the same thing.
Author Mikki Mars Posted November 13, 2010 Author Posted November 13, 2010 It also sounds like this girl is very immature and was looking for an ego boost at the behest of your feelings. Drop her like a hot potatoe. yea I'm thinkin don't talk to her unless I see her around campus and she talks to me, as my plan of action.
sagetalk Posted November 13, 2010 Posted November 13, 2010 If she had a boyfriend, yet Brad Pitt asked her out, do you think she would say no? I doubt it. Take the hint and find a girl that says yes.
Author Mikki Mars Posted November 13, 2010 Author Posted November 13, 2010 (edited) If she had a boyfriend, yet Brad Pitt asked her out, do you think she would say no? I doubt it. Take the hint and find a girl that says yes. when and where can I find that?? WHAT DON'T I HAVE OTHER THAN HEIGHT???!!! Edited November 13, 2010 by Mikki Mars
zengirl Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 OP, regardless of any of her other factors, what you do when a girl rejects you is not take it so personally (how does beating anyone -- yourself or her -- up hurt?) and move along. There are lots of girls in the world, and this wasn't the one for you. The end. If she had a boyfriend, yet Brad Pitt asked her out, do you think she would say no? I doubt it. Take the hint and find a girl that says yes. I'd say no if Brad Pitt asked me out. Or anyone else. I'm very happy with my boyfriend. When people are unhappy, that's another story. But it's silly to think people will just jump at something new----people in healthy relationships really don't do that. If you'd just jump at something new, if it were "better," then the relationship you're in isn't worth being in --- that's the way I see it.
Akherousia Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 If she had a boyfriend, yet Brad Pitt asked her out, do you think she would say no? I doubt it. Take the hint and find a girl that says yes. What for? Brad Pitt might appear and there she goes. Seems like we can't control ourselves .
sagetalk Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 I'd say no if Brad Pitt asked me out. That's what every girl would say and I hope it's true, but I seriously doubt you would just say no. It would probably be more like, "I would love to date you, but I have a boyfriend already. Maybe if we breakup I'll give you a call".
zengirl Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 That's what every girl would say and I hope it's true, but I seriously doubt you would just say no. It would probably be more like, "I would love to date you, but I have a boyfriend already. Maybe if we breakup I'll give you a call". No is no. I wouldn't say that exactly, but, yes, if a fellow I'd otherwise like asked me out, I might point out, "You're fantastic, but I've got a boyfriend." (I'd have to know him a bit to say that, though, I'd think.) Because that's the truth. Generally, I say, I'm flattered but taken.
Akherousia Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 (edited) That's what every girl would say and I hope it's true, but I seriously doubt you would just say no. It would probably be more like, "I would love to date you, but I have a boyfriend already. Maybe if we breakup I'll give you a call". Maybe you should consider leaving dating to other people. This certainty that people are completely void of self - control is very creepy. I'm also loving the assumptions several guys on LS have made on the female gender and what we really think about men and how we function in real life. It's nice to know that I am just a little child inside a woman's body, so say the men on LS. Edited November 14, 2010 by Akherousia
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