redhound13 Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 this really is all attempts to, eventually, maybe get my ex back in the future. I wont lie. I know i still love her. anyway. she? she has gigs, (from what is said here, and to what ive compiled). she also has an eating disorder, which makes things more...complicated. loves attention, easily influenced. she broke up with me for another guy, plain and simple. I wrote on here before what happened, just to see if im doing the right thing. This is the 2nd time she did this, only last time it wasnt for another guy, it was for friends, friends who drink every night, dropped out of school, do drugs. Now she is with a guy, has his own place, and new friends. Who all do the same stuff. I ignored her, atleast the best to my ability, blew her off, didnt respond to her callls, texts, until i needed my stuff. She wouldnt take "leave me alone" for an answer, and kept baiting me into seeing her. I really just wanted my stuff at this point, cuz i knew a fight was comming. I meet her, was awkward, then she started out of NOWHERE going off on what was wrong in our relationship, belittling me, making me out to be the bad guy, trying to get me to say she wasnt a bad person. She had a remark and response for EVERYTHING. then when she realized i really wasnt listening and it wasnt going anywhere, he friends showed, she left saying she will just go and get drunk, and drive into a ditch. I just got in my truck and laughed and drove away. So she called, and i tore her a knew one. I wasnt a jerk, i told her she needs help. She said she was going to rehab for her eating disorder, but i knew she wasnt doing it for herself, she is doing it for her new boyfriend. She tried to make me jealous by talking about her "scratch marks" and "rug burns" on her back. I payed no mind to it. Im getting off track. Told her she's easily influenced by other people, and she is just trying to impress everyone around her. She cant make her own choices, i could go on. But she listened, until she said she had to go. at this point, that wasnt enough for me. I needed my closure and to catch her in this giant lie she was in. I sent her a long text, explaining she was lying about not leaving me for another guy, and a bunch of stuff. I didnt call her any names. I told her i still loved her, but im not going to stick around and watch her crumble with the trash she is running around with. She copes at the bottom of a bottle. It ended with me asking her what she wanted. and she avoided it over and over. Then i say its done, i dont care anymore, keep running away. Prove me wrong and get help, i might be here when you get back, but i doubt it. She IMMEDIATLY called me, asking me to call her back. i never did. havent responded. dont intend to, not for awhile. 2 days, so far so good. i hope.
bl22 Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 she sounds very unstable at the moment, there is not a chance in hell of you 2 getting together again anytime soon. seems like you've got the right idea, NC. She has to sort herself out, hopefully this is just a phase and you an expect a massive apology 6 months - 1 year+ down the line, but by then you may not even want to bother. Just stay cool, dont react to her horrible behavior n the fact shes suddenly with someone else, i think karma will have something to say about that...hopefully the same in my situation.
Author redhound13 Posted November 12, 2010 Author Posted November 12, 2010 the 1st time we split, she also said she was getting help, told her parents about it. She never did. We got back together because she said she wanted to change, stop being depressed and being drunk all the time. Her grandfather had passed away, who she was close to. I was the only "friend" at the time, who would go. We hadnt spoken in over a month, after i once again told her to leave me alone multiple times. I asked her to stop, and to day by day try and stop her disorder...she denies i ever asked her, and it was all in my head. i dont think she is getting help. i may be wrong.
Author redhound13 Posted November 12, 2010 Author Posted November 12, 2010 she sounds very unstable at the moment, there is not a chance in hell of you 2 getting together again anytime soon. seems like you've got the right idea, NC. She has to sort herself out, hopefully this is just a phase and you an expect a massive apology 6 months - 1 year+ down the line, but by then you may not even want to bother. Just stay cool, dont react to her horrible behavior n the fact shes suddenly with someone else, i think karma will have something to say about that...hopefully the same in my situation. im quite aware of this. and i understand she wont see it for a long time. But overall...even if i dont get her back...i think i did the right thing. atleast if it doesnt work, over time ill get over it. Im in love with the person i saw she wanted to be, not who she was or the bad things she did. that person? lost and gone, for the time being.
poorguy Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 Wow..Thats the same story as my ex GF and I, if not very close. With the drugs and alchol and hanging out with loosers. What I did is go NC all the way for 2 months and I think that all of the partying got old. Next thing you know she's all apologies a few months down road
Author redhound13 Posted November 12, 2010 Author Posted November 12, 2010 did i do the right thing? im very good at second guessing myself...or did i make things worse?
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