Why is my ex GF suddeny using our pet names???

[poorguy]

We broke up in May after 3 years. She moved on really quickly. So I stoppped talking to her all together. Until maybe a month or so agoo because enough time had gone by where I was more comfortable and not at all upset. Well now she texts me thing randomly about whatever-things that she could figure out on her own or about something that's going on with her in general. Sometimes she's very flirty. So now she's using pet names (stupid I know but everyone does it) when she's emailing or texting me. So with all of that-why???

[quankanne]

she's trying very hard to cultivate a relationship using those things you used to respond to. To get back together? To mess with your head? No telling, and it really doesn't matter at this point – if she's old news, you need to tell her so, and to stop with the "honey" crap because you're no longer a couple.

[Hhhh]

she's trying very hard to cultivate a relationship using those things you used to respond to. To get back together? To mess with your head? No telling, and it really doesn't matter at this point – if she's old news, you need to tell her so, and to stop with the "honey" crap because you're no longer a couple.

 

Agreed, tell her to stop walking all over you. You need to show her she can't just walk back into the relationship

[brown03]

Unless of course a relationship is what you want then you might wanna go a different route. Maybe what he said about making it hard for her thou girls hate whenthings are to easy.

[poorguy]

I would possibly get back together with her if we are not both seeing other people...I was just sort of wondering if that was a subtle sign on her part of putting it out there without saying it???

[carhill]

So with all of that-why???

 

She wants something, as of yet unknown. Absent that behavior, how do you feel about her? This is key. Disassociating otherwise manipulative behaviors from your authentic feelings can balance the process. If she wasn't 'flirting' with you, how would you feel? She moved on quickly after your R and has been banging another guy in the interim. Is that more indicative of her true feelings than the mindless carbon dioxide and electrons you've been getting? You decide.

 

Then, examine *why* you broke up. The devil is in the details....

[poorguy]

We broke up because of the crowd she was hanging out with. They were just garbage...I forgot to mention she's emailing me every single day too...Sometimes about us and then sometimes about whatever....I keep it all super casual..I just rarely bother talking to any of my exes...So I was looking for thepossible reason behind it all

[carhill]

She wants something, as of yet unknown.

 

You could be a tool to manipulate a third party via those 'discovered daily e-mails' we on LS know only too well. We could spend hours here postulating.

 

How about this:

 

'We're broken up and you've moved on to other men and relationships. Why are you e-mailing me every day?'

[poorguy]

No if I wrote that it would i"m sure start some sort of bickering and I don't even want to get into any of that....So now she just emailed me and said she wants to go hunting with me because she's never been and how she only wanted or would want to go with me??? I would invite her if we were together but as of right now it's my alone time lol..So why's she now asking about that???

[carhill]

'Why do you want to go hunting with me now?'

 

'Do you want to get back together?'

 

BTW, you'll never make it in the married world if you're afraid of 'bickering'. Challenging a partner is part of the process of intimacy and balance.

 

It's up to you whether you want to remain engaged or not. Only you know the nuances of your past relationship and what boundaries are healthy for you.

[poorguy]

I don't at this point want ot come out and ask-I feel like it's not time to yet...I was just really wondering why now she emails me all day long...I would think if she could'nt be bothered she wouldn't??