counterman Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 There was this girl I asked out earlier in the year. Actually, I called her and it went into VM. I left a message and she never got back to me. Anyways, throughout the last couple of months, I have bumped into her a few times. Just the other day though, she mentioned that we should do something together, so I agreed and said we'll do something next month but haven't set up anything yet. It was kind of random since I hadn't seen her for weeks before that or even spoken to her. I thought she was just being friendly because the last time I remembered, she had a boyfriend. So, that's why I didn't make any immediate plans but rather left the door open for future meetings with her. Well, now I found out she doesn't have a boyfriend. I find her attractive and do want to go out with her. But I am going to be really busy for the next week. When should I ask her out? I do not want to leave it hanging too long because she might think I am uninterested but then again I did say we'll do something over the holidays. Also, should I be concerned that I might be a rebound?
lostsoul27 Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 Hello firstly, how did she ask you about "doing something together"? often people just say that when they bump into people they havent seen in a while. well at least where i come from. you see someone and its .."omw we must do something!" thats why i asked how she said it - not implying that thats what she meant lol when u asked her out at the beginning of the year, she didnt contact u back, so rather let it chill for a while. give her a call when ur finished with ur busy week. if u dont call her straight away, she'll wonder why not, and she'll probly want u more. im a girl - it irritates the living daylights out of me when ur waiting for that call!! but when u get it its like HELL YES! about being a rebound - how serious were her and this other guy? if they were serious, u could possibly be a rebound but remember that u have to start off somewhere. ur not together (just yet ) good luck!
Author counterman Posted November 12, 2010 Author Posted November 12, 2010 Hi:) Thanks for your reply. I do not think she was saying merely for the sake of saying it, but she might have been. We txted a few times too and she said she would love to do something. I do not want to look too much into it. I asked her out like 3 months or so ago, and it was through VM. I moved on pretty much straight away and never gave it a second thought. I didn't ask her out in person because, at the time, I didn't know what times I would be available. So, I told her I would like to go out with her sometime and I grabbed her number. Called her the next day and that was that. I don't know if they were in a serious one but I would say they were. I think I will meet with her and see how it goes. I'm not sure how to approach it though. Just friendly, I guess.
Author counterman Posted November 18, 2010 Author Posted November 18, 2010 Well, it's been over a week since that meeting... I'm still contemplating whether to call her or not to ask to go out next week. What do you guys think?
sanskrit Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 Go for it, nothing to lose. Sometimes this happens, sometimes they come back. Only one chance though, if she boots again, forget her and move on. The best advice I can give is to ask her out, and ask out two other women you've had your eye on at the same time. Good luck whatever happens.
John018 Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 Well, it's been over a week since that meeting... I'm still contemplating whether to call her or not to ask to go out next week. What do you guys think? If you like her then yes, definitely call and suggest a date. But make sure it's a date and that you set a definite date and time. Don't be wishy washy. Good luck.
Author counterman Posted November 18, 2010 Author Posted November 18, 2010 Yeah, I think I'll just go for it and see what happens. It can't be that bad. You're right, there's only this. If she doesn't respond or anything again, I'm moving on. I'll give her a call. But, only issue I can see is that this is a "friendly" meeting and not a date... Should I just use the word "date" when asking her out?
John018 Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 I'll give her a call. But, only issue I can see is that this is a "friendly" meeting and not a date... Should I just use the word "date" when asking her out? No, you don't need to call it a date. You've got a variety of options all based around activities for two people. If you want to make it really obvious ask her ou to dinner. Or get 2 tickets to some event and ask her if she wants to join you. As long as you let her know it'll just be the two of you then she'll get the picture.
Author counterman Posted November 18, 2010 Author Posted November 18, 2010 Alright, I can do that. I'll give her a call tomorrow and set something up. Probably won't go for dinner but might go for a nice lunch or coffee. She brought up coffee because the first time I asked her I said let's go for coffee but I ended up calling and not setting it up in person because I didn't know my schedule. Coffee or lunch?
sanskrit Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 Try to come up with something more interesting than either just coffee or lunch. Find out something that's going on in your area that you would enjoy and would enjoy company doing it. Could be a concert at a college, a farmer's market, a walk by a river, town fair, Thanksgiving event, volunteer event, something active that will provide an environment for you both to play off of. Good luck.
Author counterman Posted November 18, 2010 Author Posted November 18, 2010 I was thinking about a walk by a harbour and/or garden after lunch or doing an interactive activity like bowling or pool after coffee... hmmm. I'll see, she may not even be up for it
sanskrit Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 Those both sound good. Bowling can be lots of fun if neither of you are any good at it.
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