andyohyeah Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 (edited) I thought it would share this with all of you that are having a tough time at the moment. You may think that you cannot live without this person but that is not true at all. The best thing anyone can do is move on with your life and make positive changes everyday towards YOURSELF. The funny part is I am going through a breakup at the moment and I am acting calm, cool, and well not acting for a reason of getting them back. I've been in 3 long term relationships and I kid you not each one of them has came back begging, but guess what by that point I have moved on, have a great job, a new dog, wonderful friends & family. Each time they came back they always said I don't know what I was thinking at the time. Well you know what unless you cheated on your ex or called them names they are always going to remember you and I promise they come back (some take weeks, months or years). Last week I had one of my ex's from about 3.5 years come try and get back into my life and I didn't even want to give her the time of day. Although I did get some good advice about the real reasons about our relationship and some things to work on in the future. Keep your head up it will be fine, just takes time and well you taking care of you first and foremost. Edited November 12, 2010 by andyohyeah
Am4Real Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 I thought it would share this with all of you that are having a tough time at the moment. You may think that you cannot live without this person but that is not true at all. The best thing anyone can do is move on with your life and make positive changes everyday towards YOURSELF. The funny part is I am going through a breakup at the moment and I am acting calm, cool, and well not acting for a reason of getting them back. I've been in 3 long term relationships and I kid you not each one of them has came back begging, but guess what by that point I have moved on, have a great job, a new dog, wonderful friends & family. Each time they came back they always said I don't know what I was thinking at the time. Well you know what unless you cheated on your ex or called them names they are always going to remember you and I promise they come back (some take weeks, months or years). Last week I had one of my ex's from about 3.5 years come try and get back into my life and I didn't even want to give her the time of day. Although I did get some good advice about the real reasons about our relationship and some things to work on in the future. Keep your head up it will be fine, just takes time and well you taking care of you first and foremost. I'm confused with your post. I understand your accomplishments in healing and holding tough in no contact with relatioNships from the past, however what is the relevance of past partners returning to your life and your good words? It seems you're telling your DUMPERS to "shove it" and although it might be deserving, I can't make the connection between your opening sentence of this post telling recent break up posters their life will get better and the rest of information about your past DUMPERS attempting to re-enter your life. Seriously, if one is healed who cares about their DUMPERS?
cerridwen Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 Andyohyeah I get your point and agree. I've had the same pattern occur in my life with ex's coming back into my life after an extended period of time. Some dumped me, others I dumped. Either way, I get your point that breaking up may feel bad in the beginning but don't be surprised if in the future, that person you're pining over now, comes knocking on your door and you're not at all interested.
Author andyohyeah Posted November 12, 2010 Author Posted November 12, 2010 just was trying to say things take time and you really realize it wasn't a great relationship as you may have thought... maybe a great learning experience and yes i don't have regrets from dating them. i have learned something from every relationship i have been in. just saying that at first you expect someone to come back but after a while you realize you are fine and don't really need a person or that person. you need to take care of yourself.
Am4Real Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 just was trying to say things take time and you really realize it wasn't a great relationship as you may have thought... maybe a great learning experience and yes i don't have regrets from dating them. i have learned something from every relationship i have been in. just saying that at first you expect someone to come back but after a while you realize you are fine and don't really need a person or that person. you need to take care of yourself. Got it now -- thanks.
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