Woggle Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 I know this is surprising seeing a thead like this from me but it is true. The internet is one of the few places a man can freely vent so there tends to be a lot of horror stories on this forum but not all women are bad. My wife is great even if I am working on opening up and a few of her friends are just as great as she is. Seeing her best friend's marriage actually gives me hope that we are not the only ones. I also have to give thanks to the women on this board who have been very supportive despite my more bitter and angry moments.
D-Jam Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 Hell yeah. There are bonna-fide good women out there. Guys just need to calm down in life and find their own balance. I can't explain why, but they just pop up out of nowhere then.
johan Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 I thank God this stuff isn't on my mind all the time.
allina Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 I'm glad that your outlook is improving, especially when it comes to having trust in your wife While I sometimes do find what you say hurtful, I think you're a good man.
theBrokenMuse Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 While I sometimes do find what you say hurtful, I think you're a good man. I agree. Woggle does have his moments but my spidey sense doesn't tingle with a bad person vibe at all when I read his writings unlike some of the other folks around here.
Mad Max Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 Good women don't get enough credit Neither do good men.
Author Woggle Posted November 12, 2010 Author Posted November 12, 2010 Neither do good men. This is true but over the past few days I have seen a few threads from women praising good men so I thought I would return the love. You are good to me and I am good to you.
carhill Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 IME, there are *a lot* of good women in the world. The hard part is finding a compatible one for a romantic, emotional and sexual relationship. I could reel off a list of them right now who likely treat me better than my wife ever did and she really didn't treat me horribly. I make sure they know it, too. The common denominator is that they've been married to the same man for a large portion of their lives. There's a reason for that
Green Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 I made my thread about slender women for the same reason. I'm tired of seeing good looking women not get any credit. (society has become so backward)
Mad Max Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 I made my thread about slender women for the same reason. I'm tired of seeing good looking women not get any credit. (society has become so backward) What do you expect when 2/3 of the population is overweight to some extent? In some states, the obesity rate is nearly 1/3!! Canada isn't far behind.
Green Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 What do you expect when 2/3 of the population is overweight to some extent? In some states, the obesity rate is nearly 1/3!! Canada isn't far behind. It really pisses me off, thats why I celebrate the good women. Make going to the beach less of a nightmare haha. BUt seriously obesity in both men and women upsets me and HIGH SUGAR/HIGHLY PROCESSED FOOD AND DRINK should be MORE EXPENSIVE and NOT SUBSIDISED BY THE GOVERNMENT and MY TAX dollars. Vegatables, fruits and raw nuts should be CHEAPER and SUBSIDISED move the SUBSIDY MONEY AROUND this would also bring up the price of meat YAY! I'm JUST TIRED of people having their priorities ASS BACKWARDS. GOOD WOMEN/MEN are hard to find because people are MORONS and HAVE NO RESPECT FOR THEMSELVES (mind/body/soul)
Citizen Erased Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 Um Green, I think this thread was about their personalities being good, not their bodies.
Green Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 Um Green, I think this thread was about their personalities being good, not their bodies. haha yeah well "Good Looking" women don't get enough credit and "good looking" women are "good" women
underpants Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 You go Woggles! I actually feel alot of your rants. While I of course don't agree all the time, I can see why you are easy to jump the gun on conclusions based on experiences. I don't gender judge so much as I tend to just throw all of humanity into the furnace. It's less dissappointing when you just condemn everyone. However, that is kind of a drag after a while. It's nice to let yourself be pleasantly surprised, and it takes effort on our (collective our) parts to let that be a possibility. I do admire my married/partnered friends that nurture a bond. It is a rare and beautiful thing to witness.
Titania22 Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 Banks will give credit to anyone, even good women.
Untouchable_Fire Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 I know this is surprising seeing a thead like this from me but it is true. The internet is one of the few places a man can freely vent so there tends to be a lot of horror stories on this forum but not all women are bad. My wife is great even if I am working on opening up and a few of her friends are just as great as she is. Seeing her best friend's marriage actually gives me hope that we are not the only ones. I also have to give thanks to the women on this board who have been very supportive despite my more bitter and angry moments. Hear, Hear! Too often we focus only on the negative. This is a good reminder for me to be less cynical. Thanks Woggle!
Alma Mobley Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 I agree. Woggle does have his moments but my spidey sense doesn't tingle with a bad person vibe at all when I read his writings unlike some of the other folks around here. I don't usually respond to Woggle, but that is my impression as well. Cheers to you, Woggle.
Pyro Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 Good people in general get ignored because people would rather focus on the negatives in life than the positives. If I was still obsessed over my ex's and the negative experiences I had with them then I'm sure I wouldn't be engaged to such a perfect person.
Taramere Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 I agree. Woggle does have his moments but my spidey sense doesn't tingle with a bad person vibe at all when I read his writings unlike some of the other folks around here. Agreed. My brother went through a bit of a Woggle phase in his twenties. I was very earnest and supportive, as I was doing a social work course at the time. We'd sit there smoking a spliff and he'd pour it all out as I analysed everything. I probably encouraged him, with my earnest ways, to stay entrenched in that place for longer than he needed to be. LS kind of reminds me of those days. From time to time I've seen posts from men that make me think of my brother during his dark time...and it does touch me, because sometimes good people go through tough times that they have difficulty managing...and that's all there is to it. It's difficult to know what the appropriate way of responding is. People might be looking for the earnest, big eyed carer's aproach, but it might be that what they really need is to be hauled out of it and encouraged to play. To have some fun. Regarding the spidey sense that you can get about some people....yes, there are definitely one or two lately I've had that about. I'm not sure it's a spidey sense, or simply the ability to process information they're giving out quite freely about themselves and what they're about.
Author Woggle Posted November 12, 2010 Author Posted November 12, 2010 You go Woggles! I actually feel alot of your rants. While I of course don't agree all the time, I can see why you are easy to jump the gun on conclusions based on experiences. I don't gender judge so much as I tend to just throw all of humanity into the furnace. It's less dissappointing when you just condemn everyone. However, that is kind of a drag after a while. It's nice to let yourself be pleasantly surprised, and it takes effort on our (collective our) parts to let that be a possibility. I do admire my married/partnered friends that nurture a bond. It is a rare and beautiful thing to witness. I think you are right. Of course I focus on women because that is who I have always dated and this is a relationship board but people in general just let me down sometimes.
theBrokenMuse Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 Regarding the spidey sense that you can get about some people....yes, there are definitely one or two lately I've had that about. I'm not sure it's a spidey sense, or simply the ability to process information they're giving out quite freely about themselves and what they're about. I realize it's a cognitive process but I took the liberty of indulging in a little bit of creative wording because I thought the phrase sounded more interesting then describing the real mechanics. In other words, I just wanted to sound cooler in my own geeky way
LittleTiger Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 I know this is surprising seeing a thead like this from me but it is true. The internet is one of the few places a man can freely vent so there tends to be a lot of horror stories on this forum but not all women are bad. My wife is great even if I am working on opening up and a few of her friends are just as great as she is. Seeing her best friend's marriage actually gives me hope that we are not the only ones. I also have to give thanks to the women on this board who have been very supportive despite my more bitter and angry moments. It's really lovely to see this side of you Woggle. I always knew it was there.
Author Woggle Posted November 12, 2010 Author Posted November 12, 2010 It has always been there. I am trying to fuse the two sides of me into a better man and leave all the crap behind but it is very hard. I think most men who have been a doormat for a while and have given up self respect and dignity for a horrible relationship have to go through a period of being somewhat of a misogynist jerk before they grow a pair of balls.
Taramere Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 I realize it's a cognitive process but I took the liberty of indulging in a little bit of creative wording because I thought the phrase sounded more interesting then describing the real mechanics. In other words, I just wanted to sound cooler in my own geeky way The notion of a sixth sense is definitely intriguing. When I was a kid, these people came round to for a party my parents were having. The dog we had at the time wouldn't let one of them in. He was barking furiously at this guy. Really just took a hatred to him, and had to be dragged through to sit in disgrace in the back garden. My parents didn't stay friends with those people. My dad went off the guy after the dog incident, because he felt there must be something wrong with the man that the dog had sensed (that's the way he is. As far as he's concerned, if dogs don't like you then there's probably a good reason for it). They later heard that the guy's wife had divorced him, and he was rumoured to be a wife-beater. Regardless of whether or not one should believe rumours, we were all convinced of the veracity of these reports. The dog, who was normally well behaved around visitors, obviously sensed the guy was a wrong 'un and rightly didn't want to let him into its home. It was wrong to punish it by making it sit outside in the garden.
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