sweetnsexyfem Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 Hello all, Im a lesbian and i am un comfortable with my gf's best friend. Her bf will see her 5 days outof the week, and i will see my gf for maybe 1 or 2 days if im lucky. one day i was ove rmy gf's house and her bf came unexpectedly and asked my gfr to go to the docs, and my gf said no and now my gf and her bf are arguing because the bef feels shes not there for her and chooses me over her. Now today is out 4 mnth anniversary, and shes spending it with her bf. I ve felt pushed aside for her bf plenty of times, i have an odd feeling about it and im jus sadd now. I feel like her bf has no right to complain to my gf about time wen i barely get any of it! i jus dunno wut to do and idk if im crazy or not but plz help!
ComputerJock Posted January 4, 2011 Posted January 4, 2011 This usually applies to women or men with male or female best friends, but if your are uncomfortable with their relationship then it is a red flag no matter what the gender. Have you thought of counciling? Even marriage councling? You might want to spend time on this site looing into the different signs of cheating, how to do 180, and follow references to marriagebuilders and the divorce sites. 4 months isn't that long to form a deep relationship and you have to ask yourself if she is cheating, is it worth it to you to put any more time and effort into this relationships.
sally4sara Posted January 4, 2011 Posted January 4, 2011 Hello all, Im a lesbian and i am un comfortable with my gf's best friend. Her bf will see her 5 days outof the week, and i will see my gf for maybe 1 or 2 days if im lucky. one day i was ove rmy gf's house and her bf came unexpectedly and asked my gfr to go to the docs, and my gf said no and now my gf and her bf are arguing because the bef feels shes not there for her and chooses me over her. Now today is out 4 mnth anniversary, and shes spending it with her bf. I ve felt pushed aside for her bf plenty of times, i have an odd feeling about it and im jus sadd now. I feel like her bf has no right to complain to my gf about time wen i barely get any of it! i jus dunno wut to do and idk if im crazy or not but plz help! Well, unless every month you're celebrating the day you met to some grand level, you might not want to make a mountain out of a molehill over her not being with you on this particular day. You don't like something about this friend period and you're going to feel this way no matter what day it is. Its not a mile marker anniversary or anything any more than each individual day of the relationship would be. But it could be the friendship is a manipulative one. I find it odd that her friend, rather than saying "I really needed someone to be there for me and you let me down" instead jumped the focus to your GF's time with you. Its suspicious. If the bstfriend is upset about your GF not being there for her as a friend only, why it is about your GF's relationship with you unless the bstfriend is wanting the kind of attention YOU get as her GF? Even if your GF was single, she might not have been able to go to the appointment with her friend. Claiming offense by siting the time spent with you rather than just not being there for her says a lot about why it bothered her. It wasn't just not being there as a friend, it was about the time you get in comparison. Now why would she be comparing the two of you in your GF's life if her expectations are just about being a platonic friend?
missdependant Posted January 5, 2011 Posted January 5, 2011 How long have they been friends? You haven't really been together that long so I don't really know if you have a right to be telling her who she can and cannot be friends with.
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