SoccerPlaya Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 I just pulled a totally psycho ex-girlfriend move. It's so ridiculous that I'm too ashamed to even admit it on here!!! ahhh when did I BECOME this person?! I swear I was normal before! It's like one minute I'm fine and the next I'm crazy - I feel freaking bipolar. Sorry I just had to let that out....
ppge4 Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 Now you've got my curiosity. What did you do?
Author SoccerPlaya Posted November 12, 2010 Author Posted November 12, 2010 Now you've got my curiosity. What did you do? Too shameful to post on the board. Private message me if you're that interested.
Author SoccerPlaya Posted November 12, 2010 Author Posted November 12, 2010 thats too bad SP I know AM. I really do feel awful about it. I felt terrible inside and had to let it out. It's nice to have a sounding board on LS because I have a hard time discussing all this with my friends and family.
alwaysoverthinking Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 Don't be too hard on yourself. All ex-girlfriends are psycho. Mine is.
just1guy Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 It's okay..we all go thru a moment of weakness when all we feel like is that there's nothing else to do. I did when my ex decided to break up with me. Mine was a pretty pyscho move too, but you know what, it happened. Now it's time to keep yourself busy and know that you are better than that and it won't happen again. Eleven months later, I finally found closure tonight, and even though I had handled it well, my friends were there to talk me thru back on track. It gets better and soon, your pyscho moment will be nothing more than just a blip in your memory.
lapse Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 Aww ha! Wouldn't a thread of psycho ex stories be entertaining. I have a few that I could post. Seriously. Ah, the memories! On another note... it worked out for me a week ago. I break NC to ask ex a simple question about stuff I have in his garage. I start a conversation, explain that I'm still very angry and that this is unacceptable to me; "I can't lock up the last 4 years of my life in a little black box" etc. Then - then - I ask if he wants to go out to dinner or something. He hems and haws and I figure out he has a date... the day that I moved out he put up a profile on Match.com and it turned out he had a first date with one of them. So I say, "Oh... I understand completely. I hope you have a *wonderful* time! You should have just said that!" Now... knowing he has a date and its less than 2 weeks since I moved out, I'm feeling really confident. I was almost excited about his date. I knew she wasn't going to be anything like me and, whether he likes it or not, he loves me. LOL So anyway. I went out to shoot pool and got home around midnight. Then I started thinking about him and check to see if he is active on his online profile... he isn't, which makes me wonder if he's "still out" with her and I couldn't stop thinking about how it went. So, there I am at 1:00 in the morning... and I see myself pick up the phone... and I'm watching my fingers dial his number and I said, out loud to myself, "You psycho ex girlfriend!" He answers, I act all casual and then say cheerfully, "So how was your date?!" To which he replies, "Eh. It was odd..." Conversation goes on, he starts talking about what he wants from our relationship, how frustrating it was that we are everything we want in another person, etc. and he goes on to say that he sat there at dinner with his date thinking that there was no one he'd rather be out eating sushi with than me, no one he'd rather go hiking with, and that it is so Frustrating. Anyway, we are now working on things and having a great time at it. Monday morning, after an awesome weekend, he called me and said, "Thanks for the phone call." And I asked which one and he said, "The 1am phone call..." Turns out my psycho moment worked out well... of course that's not even close to the craziest of my moments. I was just like... geez, you crazy ex... angry, sad, cold, friendly, 1-oclock-in-the-morning-friendly! But that is one thing I've always really liked about him. He's never held my craziness against me... has always laughed *appreciatively* about it... the time I ripped up my herb garden, the time I cut up the bathing suits he bought me on vacation. I'm telling you - I let my feelings roll and, of all of the arguments we've had, he's never pulled those times out as 'problems' with me. Come to think of it, I've never had anyone try to begrudge me my moments of excessive intensity (who knows what they said behind my back tho lol). There was one guy... whose wooden handled knives I soft-scrubbed (long story) who said that was 'psycho,' but who 3 years later admitted it was really witty. Point is - I don't think you should kick yourself for whatever it was. I don't know how destructive your moment was, but if it's within the normal range of psycho (LMAO), just consider that it's you being you. Having your moment... and better luck next time.
ReturnToSender Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 Dont be embarrassed..if its any consolation, none of us know who you are LoL! Also, we've all had our moments. I did some phycho-ex stuff. With next to no gas in my car and I wasnt getting paid for a cpl days, I drove 40m to his place to see if he was actually home like he said he was, or out on a date. I had even planned to sit there and wait however long it took for him to get home to see if he was alone when he got back... He was home though. I would also systematically call him every fri and sat night...and then tell him off in vm or text "oh so sorry, dont mean to interrupt your date with your slut!" Aye! Or call repeatedly at 3 in the am, hoping to break whatever mood they are in from hearing his phone go off so many times. I was pretty bad for the first couple months there, before I stopped doing that. Hes always maintained though that he doesnt blame me for it and even tho yeah it was kinda out there, he doesnt consider anything I did phycho...he understood I was angry and flat out of my mind, and I could have done much much worse...I didnt key up his car or set anything on fire afterall LoL! But I had lots of friends advising me and willing to be my alibi...Aye!
lapse Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 You crack me up, RTS! Just to supplement my comment about 'normal range of psycho', I think pretty much anything non-violent falls within this range. Outliers are things like boiling an ex's child's rabbit (ahem what a great movie, I could kinda relate up to that point... "I will NOT BE IGNORED!"), losing your job because you're too busy stalking... lol I mean seriously. Who has such flat emotions and is so well adjusted that they just move along contentedly when they lose someone they love, someone they wanted intimately in their lives... speaking of which... another movie: "What kind of creature takes such a thing, such a gift, a trust? Who does this? Takes advantage of a... woman? What kind of creature leaves this woman waiting like a fool? A man does this, so men must pay."
collegeguy_24 Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 How about you tell us what you did? Besides, I am curious and I can't PM you.
Author SoccerPlaya Posted November 12, 2010 Author Posted November 12, 2010 Wow, I got a chuckle out of some of your stories. I agree lapse, I think a "pscyho ex moves" thread might give us a good chance to laugh at ourselves. I REALLY REALLY want to share my story with you guys but I'm too paranoid. It's pretty specific and I know he's online a lot. I can't bear the thought of him reading it!!! I didn't realize the PM feature doesn't exist.... [email protected] is my email Thanks everyone for sharing. I still feel like a crazy person, but at least I feel better!
lapse Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 You can change little insignificant details. I did shoot you an email. I have more stories for the psycho thread. lol
summerl0vesyou Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 I just pulled a totally psycho ex-girlfriend move. It's so ridiculous that I'm too ashamed to even admit it on here!!! ahhh when did I BECOME this person?! I swear I was normal before! It's like one minute I'm fine and the next I'm crazy - I feel freaking bipolar. Sorry I just had to let that out.... i totally know how you feel sister. its just funny that everyone is so quick to call us psycho though. were hurting inside. theres a reason behind the "crazy" things we do. as long as ur not trying to hurt or threaten him and arent showing up against his will and harrassing him, you arent THAT crazy. being sad, missing someone, yelling at them...it happens. i pulled an ex gf psycho move the other day and now he blocked me on everything and said he wont talk to me again. ho hum
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