ryanw115 Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 My girl friend and her best friend have been friends since elementary school. Before I started dating my girl friend they were very close and were always hanging out after school. I am also friends with both of them and have been for two years. I didn't know that both of them wanted to date me until after i started dating my girl friend. Now that me and my girl friend are dating they hardly ever hang out anymore. I feel bad that I made this happen because I'm the kind of shy and nice guy and I don't like seeing people that I'm friends with fight. I need some way to get them back together, but I don't know how without creating an awkward situation or getting in the middle of them and having to choose between them. Someone please help me.
quankanne Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 that's a good question ... with a difficult answer, because no two situations are alike. I'm guessing y'all are still in school? There's a very strong code of "honor" where you don't dare look at the boy your friend is sweet on, because it's a friendship-breaker. And I imagine these two girls are more intent on being angry with each other right now (the friend because your GF has something she wants, your GF because her friend's being a dummy) that nothing is going to make them attempt to mend the friendship. But, if your GF misses her friend, maybe encouraging her to reach out would be the first move. you might also point out that while you're dating this girl, it doesn't mean the friendship for ANY of y'all has to fall by the wayside, that mature men and women find a way to make the friendship work, and that this is worth fighting for. Especially when friendships usually outlast romances ...
skydiveaddict Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 Leave it alone. If you try to mend this you will be in the middle of a cat fight of epic proportions . They will figure it out if they want to.
renogirl4 Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 There isn't much you can do to mend this relationship. The two girls have to work it out theirselves. The only thing you can do is sugguest to your g/f that she should have a non confrontational conversation with her friend. Stay out of it!
that girl Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 This is something they have to work out between the two of them.
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