pandagirl Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 It's been almost 10 weeks since we broke up. Things are fine, but I still miss him. I think I've pretty much come to terms with the break up and accepting everything, but I still get really sad that he's not in my life anymore. I'm afraid this sadness will never go away. Any words of wisdom?
alwayshoping Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 It's been almost 10 weeks since we broke up. Things are fine, but I still miss him. I think I've pretty much come to terms with the break up and accepting everything, but I still get really sad that he's not in my life anymore. I'm afraid this sadness will never go away. Any words of wisdom? Its better to have loved and lost? I wish I could help, its been the same length of time since me and my gf split and I still miss her like crazy some days Im glad she left others I hate myself because I feel like she was my world!
Author pandagirl Posted November 11, 2010 Author Posted November 11, 2010 I think it's for the best that we broke up. But it doesn't mean that I don't love him. Hopefully, one day this shall all pass, and picking up the phone and calling him won't seem like a big deal anymore.
cozenedindigo Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 Trust me when I say this shall pass. It will. It will! Get him off that pedestal, girl. There's a million hunky, reliable, smart amazing AVAILABLE gorgeous men out there once you get over Stinky Stinkerson. And what's more, they have substance. Source: all the heartbreaks I've been through when I thought "this pain will never go away." Fast forward to 1 month, 3 months, 5 months, 8 months later -- they email/call/don't email/don't call -- someone mentions them, you're like, "Who? Oh."
strangeways Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 I think it's for the best that we broke up. But it doesn't mean that I don't love him. Hopefully, one day this shall all pass, and picking up the phone and calling him won't seem like a big deal anymore. Been about the same amount of time for me too. NC for about 7/8 weeks has made me see things a bit more clearly. Good days and bad days. I think it was for the best too. Shame. Still think about her all the time, still love and miss her but the pain is easing slowly. Not sure I've got any words of wisdom but I've learnt a lot. Just after we broke up I felt our time together was a total waste. Started to realise it wasn't and I'll take the lessons into the next relationship.
Leandro Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 Been about the same amount of time for me too. NC for about 7/8 weeks has made me see things a bit more clearly. Good days and bad days. I think it was for the best too. Shame. Still think about her all the time, still love and miss her but the pain is easing slowly. Not sure I've got any words of wisdom but I've learnt a lot. Just after we broke up I felt our time together was a total waste. Started to realise it wasn't and I'll take the lessons into the next relationship. Same thing here, but I've been in NC for 9 weeks and the break up was 3 months ago. Pandagirl, your username reminds me of my ex, because she loved pandas. lol, I use to be her panda, but not anymore. . Oh well.
alwayshoping Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 Dear Pandagirl, I think your doing really well. It must be so hard for you not to contact him and I know the guilt and Love for him must be astronomical. I think people sometimes give harsh answers to threads when they are in a different phase of the greiving process. They tend to forget that they once felt the exact same way, or perhaps you remind them of how they used to feel and it brings back negative emotions. Dont feel like you should be over this by now. Thats not fair on yourself. Just take it one day at a time and see what happens. Your only human and you have a heart that needs time to heal. Yes you want to call him, yes you miss his voice, but why isnt he missing you the same way and begging for you back? if he loves you then he will otherwise you will find someone 1000 times better. But for now just try one day at a time. Even if you do end up calling him you will probably realise it was a mistake and you will learn from it. Anyways I just wanted you to know that LS is here for you when you need us and whatever happens we will always offer advice and support! Good luck x
thatsonlyme Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 Hey Pandagirl, I'm glad you're doing better, and I'm sure as the time goes buy it will get even better. I feel the same now, I'm OK being alone, I even feel excited sometimes when I think about next amazing person who will eventually enter my life, but then again I miss her so much most of the time. Now I'm worried about her because her new guy is a firearms smuggler and he's in jail now! I hope he stays there for a long time so he doesn't ruin her life. your title is so sad it almost made me cry. even though I don't know you I could imagine your face as you were writing it . I swear I'll do my best to never break anybody's heart, nobody deserves that!
rebeccajones Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 I too hope the sadness goes away. I get glimmers of hope of moving on when I am attracted to someone. I hope to meet the right one for me. I'm excited about new love yet I know what the consequences can be! I miss my ex, you are not alone. Helps to have this forum.
Author pandagirl Posted November 12, 2010 Author Posted November 12, 2010 Thanks guys! My sadness is also being tempered by a total annoyance of him, so at least I have that!
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