wonderwhy1 Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 This is the opposite of a thread I started a few days ago. So I recieved a bunch of good advice but I'm curious as to what people will say to this one. Say you were in a LTR and broke up. Say either your ex GF or ex BF jumped into a new relationship right after that. Now suppose some time has gone by and all of the sudden they start contacting you. Maybe sayiing they miss you among other things. Why would that be-like example of what could be going on
dreamingoftigers Posted January 4, 2011 Posted January 4, 2011 Exes contact you because on some superficial level they still care but don't want to be with you. Sometimes they miss the old feelings and just want a taste of that at your heartbreaking expense. They try to negotiate between the two and try to keep you in their lives as friends or to stoke their ego or as a backup.
mikeey Posted January 4, 2011 Posted January 4, 2011 Yes, I agree with the above. At other times, I am more cynical and think that they make contact here and there to play with you....not very nice by the way. Whatever it is.......in my opinion, either the two of you are both committed towards working upon things.....or nothing. If the answer is nothing, then being friends or anything similar....is simply a HUGE waste of time and energy which you could be investing in something/anything else more worthwhile. Been there, done that. NC is the only answer.
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