icebox Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 It has never been official between me and my ex. We dated for about 2 months, lots of fights and arguments, break ups the make ups all in a short period of time. Dating her was like a roller coaster ride... there were moment when I fell extremely happy but then extremely sad the next... she never said she loved me and I were okay with it because like she said love takes a lot of time. I knew that she just came out of a 2 and a half year relationship with this dude and I had a feeling we might have jumped in relationship too quick and I may have just been a rebound guy. I didnt know the dude but to be honest, I am way better looking and more financially stable and I'm sure I can love her more than he loved her. She told me she thought he was the one but he wasnt and they havent talked, they werent even friends anymore even though she wanted to. Couple weeks ago we had a huge fight, we made up and we agreed to just see each other as friends now but because she said she was suprised by my secret side and she still hope to see more than that and we will hopefully eventually bf gf again. We sent each other cute and silly messages through out the day, we hung out whenever we had time (she was still in last year of college with lots of exams and stress while I am already working) I could tell chemistry was definitely there 2 days ago I got a text from her saying that she can't see me anymore and she said she couldnt talk and she sounds so distressed. I called and texted but got no response. At that point I was extremely exhausted and sick of being played around... so I was like yeah whatever I had enough... Yesterday she we chatted saying she didnt mean what she said and the truth is she can't date anyone right now because she has a lot at stake if she does like she will litterally lose an a leg (what does that even mean??? she was the one who rushed it and now she completely said the opposite) but she said she still wants to hang out with me because she missed me and she truly likes me.... I was really tired and felt really underappreciated for everything I did for her so I said we wont be haning out anymore and I need to think about this before I get back to you... then I signed off... then she sent me lots of texts saying we should hang out and she just cant date and it is nothing personal... this morning she sent me a text wishing me a good day at work... I havent replied because I was so confused... I like this girl and of course I want to take her back but at the same time I dont want to get fooled again... what should I do?
cerridwen Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 (edited) You should read through all the stories on here. It will help. You'll recognize this girl's pattern of being hot then cold as something lots of people do. You'll see how such Hot and Cold people put others through hurt and how holding onto these relationships end in great pain. You'll start to see your situation a little more objectively and it will help you start the process of leaving it behind so you can have some happiness. I also have to recommend the thread Post Here Instead of Contacting Your Ex. There are some great posts on there! They range from brutally mean to touchingly loving. Some made me LOL but all made me recognize so many people are experiencing what I'm going through RIGHT NOW. You'll feel less alone. Edited November 12, 2010 by cerridwen
Am4Real Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 You should read through all the stories on here. It will help. You'll recognize this girl's pattern of being hot then cold as something lots of people do. You'll see how such Hot and Cold people put others through hurt and how holding onto these relationships end in great pain. You'll start to see your situation a little more objectively and it will help you start the process of leaving it behind so you can have some happiness. I also have to recommend the thread Post Here Instead of Contacting Your Ex. There are some great posts on there! They range from brutally mean to touchingly loving. Some made me LOL but all made me recognize so many people are experiencing what I'm going through RIGHT NOW. You'll feel less alone. Good advice; I hope it was helpful to him following his first-time post on Loveshack.org
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