sunshineinsf Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 Last Tuesday I went out on a date with a guy who works in the same neighborhood that I work in. It was a great date that spanned multiple hours, and ended with a great kiss. We went out on a second date(which was discussed during the first) later on in the week. This second date was great also, but we both had a little too much to drink. I think I may have mentioned going home with him, and he respectfully said he liked me too much to do that. Fast forward to 6 days later, and he hasn't asked me out for another date. I've seen him in the work neighborhood, and he's been acting semi-flirty like he always was. After our second date he went on a short trip(2 days) and he does work multiple jobs. Could this be the reason for the delay? Move on? Wait it out? Any ideas?
Cracker Jack Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 Well, there's a good chance he is kinda busy with his jobs. Anyway, did you ever consider calling him?
kiss_andmakeup Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 It sounds like you may have possibly turned him off with the asking to go to his place thing, and if that's the case, there's really nothing you can say or do to backpedal. I've never understood why people ask things like "should I move on or wait it out?" in reference to the very early stages of dating. You had two dates, there was no sexual intimacy, and certainly no discussion of exclusivity. Go on with your life, date other people if you want, and if he wants to ask you out again then great! If not, no big deal. The only difference between waiting it out and moving on is a mental one. Allowing yourself to go on with your life (including dating) does not necessarily close the door on this guy for good.
waynebrady Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 Well you didn't call or ask him out either. He asked you out for the first date, so why don't you ask him out for the second date? You don't have anything to lose really... If he says yes then he obviously likes you, if he says no then he wasn't that intrested in the first place. Maybe your lack of initiative is making him think you are not that intrested in him.
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