qinboxmail Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 I caught my girlfriend flirting with a guy on yahoo messenger. Anyway she promised not to flirt again. She told me that she wants to chat to guys once in a while and not just having girls as friends only. How would you deal this situation ? Thanks
utterer of lies Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 I caught my girlfriend flirting with a guy on yahoo messenger. Anyway she promised not to flirt again. She told me that she wants to chat to guys once in a while and not just having girls as friends only. How would you deal this situation ? Thanks Who cares what she does on chat? How much of a control freak are you?
Author qinboxmail Posted November 11, 2010 Author Posted November 11, 2010 Who cares what she does on chat? How much of a control freak are you? Who cares ? I care. Would you like it if your girlfriend flirts with other guys ? I don't think so buddy.
D-Jam Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 I caught my girlfriend flirting with a guy on yahoo messenger. Anyway she promised not to flirt again. She told me that she wants to chat to guys once in a while and not just having girls as friends only. How would you deal this situation ? Thanks I'd simply then make a cup of coffee and have a calm/rational chat with her on where you draw the line. I can't stop my GF if she talks to a guy or even if she sends a for a compliment. However, I would speak up if the guy is clearly trying to get her to dump me for him or something like that. This is the same ordeal as when a girlfriend has guy friends. If they clearly act like friends, then I won't worry...but if I can see they more want to steal her away, then I expect her to use clear judgment and cut things off. I have female friends...and I'd drop them in a heartbeat if one dared to try to sway me to dump my GF for them. Be calm, rational, and show you trust her. Just simply say where you think the line is so she'll know not to cross it.
sally4sara Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 I caught my girlfriend flirting with a guy on yahoo messenger. Anyway she promised not to flirt again. She told me that she wants to chat to guys once in a while and not just having girls as friends only. How would you deal this situation ? Thanks I'd need to know what your idea of flirting is to make a judgment call. One person's idea of flirting is anothers idea of friendly banter.
Author qinboxmail Posted November 11, 2010 Author Posted November 11, 2010 I'd need to know what your idea of flirting is to make a judgment call. One person's idea of flirting is anothers idea of friendly banter. It started like this My gf tells him to get a job so she can be called as his "wifey". She asks him to be her bf and such. She said she was just kidding around with him and she didn't mean it. How is that considered kidding ?
sally4sara Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 It started like this My gf tells him to get a job so she can be called as his "wifey". She asks him to be her bf and such. She said she was just kidding around with him and she didn't mean it. How is that considered kidding ? Okay thanks. That ****s a no go. Curb her. At the very least, she is taking the risk of confusing this guy about her interest in him and undermining her male friend(s) ability to respect your position. Even if she tried bringing this guy around so you both could be friends - there will be this weird, contentious association between you and the guy getting in the way of you and him really being friends. Platonic friends are fine if they are friends to the relationship and both people involved.
phineas Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 It started like this My gf tells him to get a job so she can be called as his "wifey". She asks him to be her bf and such. She said she was just kidding around with him and she didn't mean it. How is that considered kidding ? How old is she?
SincereOnlineGuy Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 I caught my girlfriend flirting with a guy on yahoo messenger. Anyway she promised not to flirt again. She told me that she wants to chat to guys once in a while and not just having girls as friends only. How would you deal this situation ? Thanks Stop controlling your girlfriend. Had she wanted to be controlled, she'd have gone to rehab. When somebody goes on Yahoo Messenger, in time, most of his or her "friends" there are going to be of their preferred sex. Those long chat sessions with members of the non-preferred gender about macrame and needle point just don't cut it for most people. If what you saw was mere "flirting" and not blatant sexual desire on either side, then do yourself the giant favor of leaving it alone!! (pick your battles - this one is NOT important enough to wage) Then someday, when either of you really does have cause for concern, you'll still be on speaking terms with your girlfriend and you might be able to overcome something in the future.
carhill Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 Rewind Apparently this has been going on for awhile.
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