Untouchable_Fire Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 Today I was talking out of a train station and I saw a girl offer her hand bag for her guy to carry and the guy willingly took it off her, put it over his shoulder and carried it. She sort of unwinded her shoulders afterwards. I have seen this around... and I have mixed feelings about it. I have seen some women just shove their bag toward their boyfriends when they are shopping. The boyfriend is left carrying it whilst she shops around. What do you think of this? I was at a forest park yesterday and my GF twisted her ankle. I carried her for about 1/4 mile back to the car. I enjoyed it.
Citizen Erased Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 I was at a forest park yesterday and my GF twisted her ankle. I carried her for about 1/4 mile back to the car. I enjoyed it. But you made sure she still carried her handbag right? I've even had my BIL hold my handbag while I did something. I'm pretty sure he hasn't lost his penis as a result or my sister would have killed me.
112233 Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 But you made sure she still carried her handbag right? I've even had my BIL hold my handbag while I did something. I'm pretty sure he hasn't lost his penis as a result or my sister would have killed me. Of course not, in cases like this we keep it in our pocket until the event is over, and then clip it back on, no harm done.
Author counterman Posted November 11, 2010 Author Posted November 11, 2010 TBH, I wasn't looking for a particular response. Hell, I had second thoughts before creating this thread. I agree, it is silly. Though, having had this brought up by a few of my friends, I thought I would post it. That first event I described could have been interpreted wrong by me. When I said "offer", it was a euphemism. However, others have said there is not enough info there to really get an idea and I have agreed and still agree with that. Back when I was with my ex-girlfriend, I did carry her bag when she needed me to and helped her out a few times. I really didn't care what people thought. I was fine with it, and didn't really know what the big deal was. Apparently it was for my friends. The mixed feelings, as I have said earlier, is pertaining to the shoving and unappreciative behaviour that I do witness and am know of from friends. "Healthy" couples develop this partnership and it is a sincere effort to help each other out. I haven't been in a healthy relationship but from having observed this from my parents and other couples around me, I do see this and do appreciate it. Though, on the other hand, what I was trying to describe, I guess is analogous to the guy getting his girl to hold his drink while he plays with his mates.
Untouchable_Fire Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 But you made sure she still carried her handbag right? I've even had my BIL hold my handbag while I did something. I'm pretty sure he hasn't lost his penis as a result or my sister would have killed me. When did your posts get so..... sarcastic? It was cold outside so I gave her my coat too.
Stung Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 No, but I know what its for *SOB* I know! Besides, I don't want everyone in Target thinking I have sweaty feet. So instead you're the crazy lady in line at Target holding a bottle of Gold Bond and muttering 'Balls balls balls balls balls'? I was at a forest park yesterday and my GF twisted her ankle. I carried her for about 1/4 mile back to the car. I enjoyed it. That's cool. I'm only an inch shorter than my husband and not that much less mass, I don't know if he could carry me very far. He'd make me a pallet out of branches and drag me, though, if he had to. Less romantic, but gets the job done . Back when I was with my ex-girlfriend, I did carry her bag when she needed me to and helped her out a few times. I really didn't care what people thought. I was fine with it, and didn't really know what the big deal was. Apparently it was for my friends. The mixed feelings, as I have said earlier, is pertaining to the shoving and unappreciative behaviour that I do witness and am know of from friends. "Healthy" couples develop this partnership and it is a sincere effort to help each other out. I haven't been in a healthy relationship but from having observed this from my parents and other couples around me, I do see this and do appreciate it. Though, on the other hand, what I was trying to describe, I guess is analogous to the guy getting his girl to hold his drink while he plays with his mates. There are always some immature/insecure males who think the mere act of doing something visibly nice for a female is emasculating. Presumably a good portion of them grow out of it. In case it wasn't clear, I do absolutely agree that just shoving a purse at a man and expecting him to carry it because you don't feel like it, that's rude and juvenile. I don't even put up with that from my stepdaughter, she is generally expected to carry whatever she chooses to leave the house with, barring particular circumstances. I have spent a fair amount of time over the years holding men's drinks while they play pool or whatever, now that you mention it. Sometimes I was happy to do so, sometimes I 'forgot' where I put them, depended on the approach. When did your posts get so..... sarcastic? . Hasn't CE always been sarcastic? She's a sassy little koala, it's one of her endearing, enduring traits.
kdark Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 I'll buy tampons for a girlfriend as long as it isn't a regular thing. If it becomes regular, I'll "accidentally" forget to have condoms when she is driving over to my place and tell her to pick some up. That and I also needed a cucumber for the salad I was going to make for us. It goes both ways...
sally4sara Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 So instead you're the crazy lady in line at Target holding a bottle of Gold Bond and muttering 'Balls balls balls balls balls'? The funniest part of a guy not wanting to buy tampons is no one is confused and wondering if he is having his period. Instead, they'd know he has a SO and gets laid. Something they'd usually want people to assume!
112233 Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 The funniest part of a guy not wanting to buy tampons is no one is confused and wondering if he is having his period. Instead, they'd know he has a SO and gets laid. Something they'd usually want people to assume! Yeah, I've done it but it always strikes me as bad planning. Sort of like if I took a big crap and then had to have her drive out to the store for TP. Seriously? You forgot this happens? Really?
Untouchable_Fire Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 That's cool. I'm only an inch shorter than my husband and not that much less mass, I don't know if he could carry me very far. He'd make me a pallet out of branches and drag me, though, if he had to. Less romantic, but gets the job done . My cheating xGF was only 2 inches shorter and sometimes weighed up to 180... and I could still carry her around... I just worked up more of a sweat. That's actually me in my avatar pic. Lifting people has never been an issue for me. Hasn't CE always been sarcastic? She's a sassy little koala, it's one of her endearing, enduring traits. Well it's just when CE changed avatar pics... I got this memory flash of someone I knew from LS back in the day. Like 06' or 07'... Darlin Coco... who was very nice, and rarely as bitterly sarcastic. I remember spending 3 hours one afternoon giving advice on how to handle a situation with her father and step-mom. ... Eh... I'm probably wrong.
phineas Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 If I needed him to get them he better and not balk. I'm usually the one buying his Gold Bond ball sack powder and boxers after all! You buy your man 1,000 Elve's?
that girl Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 I won't buy tampons. I'll eat around them but don't ask me to buy them. Seriously? I find this kind of fussy and unmasculine. I'm not sure I've even asked anyone to buy tampons for me, but if there was some emergency or he was running to the drugstore while I was busy with something, I would assume he would buy tampons without caring. I can't imagine any normal person judging a guy negatively for that, plus it is pretty much an advertisement that you're getting laid.
Feelin Frisky Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 Seriously? I find this kind of fussy and unmasculine. I'm not sure I've even asked anyone to buy tampons for me, but if there was some emergency or he was running to the drugstore while I was busy with something, I would assume he would buy tampons without caring. I can't imagine any normal person judging a guy negatively for that, plus it is pretty much an advertisement that you're getting laid. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showpost.php?p=3093815&postcount=44 So, trotting out and buying tampons like a good little pussywhip is masculine? Whoa, that's news.
that girl Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showpost.php?p=3093815&postcount=44 So, trotting out and buying tampons like a good little pussywhip is masculine? Whoa, that's news. I don't see it as unmasculine to buy tampons or an insane request for a woman to say "Honey, while you're at the store could you also get these?" In my experience, most guys have no problem with it. A guy who does makes me wonder if he's going to be difficult to deal with. The closest comparison I can come up with is if I was with someone who had say, a hemorrhoid problem. Unlike a man buying tampons, I could actually have that problem and it is a semi-embarrassing one. But if he asked me to pick them up when I was already headed to the store, I wouldn't think twice.
EricaH329 Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 I guys that will go out and buy me tampons if i'm unable to do so, or a guy who will hold my purse for me when I need it. It shows that they care about me enough to 'de-masculate' himself. I put quotes around that because I find that to be extremely inaccurate. Does a guy really believe his masculinity is defined as not going out and buying tampons for someone he cares about (or holding their purse, in that case)??? Just as I would hope the guy would me for washing his dirty underwear, or remaining under the covers when he decides to be a 'man' .
Star Gazer Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 I guess I'm the only gal who finds this weird. A piece of luggage, a backpack, a work bag, a laptop bag, some heavy shopping/grocery bags...sure. But a PURSE?
Green Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 I guys that will go out and buy me tampons if i'm unable to do so, or a guy who will hold my purse for me when I need it. It shows that they care about me enough to 'de-masculate' himself. I put quotes around that because I find that to be extremely inaccurate. Does a guy really believe his masculinity is defined as not going out and buying tampons for someone he cares about (or holding their purse, in that case)??? Just as I would hope the guy would me for washing his dirty underwear, or remaining under the covers when he decides to be a 'man' . I like girls who go out and by lube and condoms... or even better just lube For the record I have and would get my gf tampons birth control or what ever else she needed as long as she is doing me favors too. I really doesn't make a difference to me whether I'm holding a purse or my gf's luggage I don't mind helping out as long as I feel its a two way street and its respect that matters most
EricaH329 Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 I like girls who go out and by lube and condoms... or even better just lube For the record I have and would get my gf tampons birth control or what ever else she needed as long as she is doing me favors too. I really doesn't make a difference to me whether I'm holding a purse or my gf's luggage I don't mind helping out as long as I feel its a two way street and its respect that matters most I couldn't agree with you more. Everything about a relationship is a two-way street. I suppose that's why I haven't found myself in relationships where a guy absolutely wouldn't carry my purse if necessary.
Green Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 I couldn't agree with you more. Everything about a relationship is a two-way street. I suppose that's why I haven't found myself in relationships where a guy absolutely wouldn't carry my purse if necessary. thats a really insecure person. Things I do refuse to do are torture myself with Chick flicks. I started watching the first Sex and the City movie with my gf and had to walk away from that. Out right told her NO to the second. I didn't see any twighlight movies with her after the First. I don't watch her weding shows with her.
EricaH329 Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 thats a really insecure person. Things I do refuse to do are torture myself with Chick flicks. I started watching the first Sex and the City movie with my gf and had to walk away from that. Out right told her NO to the second. I didn't see any twighlight movies with her after the First. I don't watch her weding shows with her. I don't blame you, I can't sit through a lot of the chick flicks myself
Feelin Frisky Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 I don't see it as unmasculine to buy tampons or an insane request for a woman to say "Honey, while you're at the store could you also get these?" In my experience, most guys have no problem with it. A guy who does makes me wonder if he's going to be difficult to deal with. The closest comparison I can come up with is if I was with someone who had say, a hemorrhoid problem. Unlike a man buying tampons, I could actually have that problem and it is a semi-embarrassing one. But if he asked me to pick them up when I was already headed to the store, I wouldn't think twice. Well, to each his or her own. I think there are some things we need do for ourselves and it's inconsiderate to leave it to one's partner. Tampons are somewhat undignified for a gentlemen to trot out and buy (unless he's spotting:D). As I said, I would go and get her tampons in some rare emergency but the second time she'd ask me, I'd give her the wtf? look.
callingyouuu Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 It kind of depends on the manner in which she does it. In my opinion, if you're asked to hold onto her stuff within 5 minutes of getting out of the car every time you go out, then it becomes less of a gesture and more of an expectation to be a walking coat rack, along with a sign of disrespect towards you. If it's just every once in a while, I don't see an issue with it.
musemaj11 Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 (edited) Making a man carry your purse around is as sweet as a man making you wash his feet when he gets home from work. I dont see any issue with buying tampons however. Edited November 12, 2010 by musemaj11
Green Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 I just want to point out what a BIG LET DOWN this thread has been. I mean with a title like "Men, would you ever do this? Girls, would you let him do it?" I wasn't sure what I was in for, but I was excited... then it turns out to be a thread about "would you hold a purse if for your woman, and women would you ask such a thing of a man" I thought this might be a thread about some risque sexual activity was really what I was hoping for. At a minimum something else exciting
Pyro Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 Hasn't CE always been sarcastic? She's a sassy little koala, it's one of her endearing, enduring traits. :lmao: Well it's just when CE changed avatar pics... I got this memory flash of someone I knew from LS back in the day. Like 06' or 07'... Darlin Coco... who was very nice, and rarely as bitterly sarcastic. I remember spending 3 hours one afternoon giving advice on how to handle a situation with her father and step-mom. ... Eh... I'm probably wrong.
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