mgene15 Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 My ex broke up with me, we had been going out for 2 years. and very quickly got with another guy right after the breakup. Her birthday is in 2 days. I wanted her back badly and begged and pleaded which did not work so I've been using the NC for 2 and a half weeks. Her birthday is in 2 days, should I text her happy birthday or call her? because I love her and want her back, but at the same time I am on NC... she has not tried to call me either .. :/ ....suggestions?
eminembnja Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 ^ Agree, 2 weeks is not enough. No good can come of it.
mridul_chajilee Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 I understand your condition.But as you are in NC so continue NC do not break it.Just pray to the God on her birthday for her long life.Then you will get a peace of mind and give something to the poors in her name,as you still love her.
Cratsky Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 Each moment you feel like contacting her and feeling that hope that she'll want you back... the longer you should work on letting it go. The only time you can successfully contact the ex is if you're happy at the thought of them finding joy with a new partner.
brown03 Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 I have to agree with this one. She is with someone else and two week's is just not enough you have to do NC and hopefully this guy will screw up or maybe she will just realize that she made a wrong decision. But I did something for my EX's birthday and we were broken up for 4 months and still talking and after I gave her the present and went to her house for the week when she came back all contact was gone. I only did it because she got me something for mine and she had spent a lot of money and in the end it did nothing.
TaraMaiden Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 My ex broke up with me, we had been going out for 2 years. and very quickly got with another guy right after the breakup. Her birthday is in 2 days. I wanted her back badly and begged and pleaded which did not work so I've been using the NC for 2 and a half weeks. Her birthday is in 2 days, should I text her happy birthday or call her? because I love her and want her back, but at the same time I am on NC... she has not tried to call me either .. :/ ....suggestions? Adding my voice of agreement here. Do NOT send anything ever at all, for any reason: Christmas, birthday, anniversary, Easter, whatever. Everything is totally off-limits, without exception. period. NC is exactly that. NC. It does exactly what it says on the tin. NO contact. none.
Ingenue Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 I agree with others here. Do not send a birthday text, email or telephone message. You've initiated NC for the purpose of healing and moving on. You cannot achieve that unless you adhere to NC. Perhaps in later years, after you've healed and no longer have to mull the significance of a birthday message, you may want to send a greeting. But until then, take time for yourself, without her. I posed the same question myself. I had been dating a guy for 5 years and he had dumped me. He had sent me a birthday greeting and I wondered whether I should reciprocate. In the end, I elected to hold fast to NC for my own well-being. I didn't want to assuage his sense of guilt or pretend like I was his friend. I was an ex and I wasn't a friend. I was in no (wo)man's land. Why pretend anything else?
reservoirdog1 Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 Ignore it. Let it pass. If she doesn't notice the fact that you've ignored it, you've lost nothing. And if she DOES notice, you can take some small satisfaction knowing that you're still on her mind, and that she thinks you're not on hers.
Username37 Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 Sounded like me man. GF dumped me, got someone else, then it was her birthday. I broke NC and contacted her....I regret it. She tried string me along and gave me false hope only to bring me down again Forget about it. She wanted you out of her life and you should do so, because no good will happen if you stick around....unless you're a masochist
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