The Putting Yourself Out There Progress Thread

[eerie_reverie]

What's the chance I'm gonna accomplish my goal of becoming a housewife by age 30 if I spend all my time pursuing hobbies in solitary confinement or hanging out with the same group of friends?

 

Probably 5%.

 

As my mom would say, it'd be shame to let my youth go to waste.

 

I need to put myself out there. We probably all do.

 

Here's a thread where we can post our progress.

 

The rules are: no internet date posts. I'm sorry. It's my thread. I get to make up the rules.

 

So put yourself out there. In the real world. Meet new people, preferably ones of the same sex you like having sex with.

 

And post about it right here!

[Star Gazer]

So I went to this event last Saturday, and a female friend of mine who I hadn't seen in a while came running over, squealing, about how happy she was to see me there at this event, all because she had THE PERFECT GUY for me to meet. She described him, he sounded interesting. She pointed him out. Funny enough, I had already noticed him. Why? Because (1) he's tall, dark, and handsome, and (2) I KNOW I already know him from somewhere, I just can't figure out where.

 

Anyway, I was feeling pretty damn good that night, and not because of some dude. I was just in a really good mood. Comfortable in my own skin. I was there with a group of girlfriends, we weren't there to meet dudes, just enjoy the night. So this cute guy was just icing on the cake, ya know?

 

We end up slowly getting closer to one another in proximity, and ultimately introduce ourselves to one another, without her help. It seems like there's a little bit of flirtation going on. I'm thinking, "Sweet!" We both acknowledge that we know each other, somehow, some way, we just don't know how. We go over every school we've gone to, majors, travel groups, hobbies, everything to try to figure out where and how we know each other. But we just can't figure it out. We're laughing and having fun the entire time.

 

Then he just abruptly ends the conversation and walks away to talk to someone else. I'm left standing there like a dumb arse. I make eye contact with a girlfriend who was watching the whole exchange from about 10 feet away, and we both start cracking up. I literally said outloud, "WTF was that about?"

 

What's the point, you ask? 5 years ago, the way he deserted me would have upset me, and I would have obsessed over it...trying to figure out why he rejected me like that. Now? I just think, "Cute guy, fun conversation. Awesome. Maybe another one will actually ask for my number. ;)"

 

And I leave the place arm and arm with my best girlfriends, and call it a good night.

[northern_sky]

Meet new people, preferably ones of the same sex you like having sex with.

 

Was this intentional?

[Green]

Was this intentional?

 

I think she was trying to make this open to men and women. It came off sounding gay. You know she meant though. If you're a man who likes having sex with women this thread is about meeting a woman in the real world by putting urself out there.

 

In your case sine you are a woman who likes dating men you would post about meeting a guy while flying your kite or some sht.

[eerie_reverie]

In your case sine you are a woman who likes dating men you would post about meeting a guy while flying your kite or some sht.

 

If she actually MET a guy while flying her kite, she should probably start her own thread.

 

This thread is about our attempts. When I go to church for the first time in 20 years to get back in touch with my roots, I will post about it right here.

 

I have never dated a russian, but lately, for some reason, I can't stop looking at russian porn.

 

Is that why I'm so excited about the prospect of church??

[Green]

If she actually MET a guy while flying her kite, she should probably start her own thread.

 

This thread is about our attempts. When I go to church for the first time in 20 years to get back in touch with my roots, I will post about it right here.

 

I have never dated a russian, but lately, for some reason, I can't stop looking at russian porn.

 

Is that why I'm so excited about the prospect of church??

 

Maybe church will cure the fact that you look at porn. It's bad enough when men do it now you

[welikeincrowds]

I have never dated a russian, but lately, for some reason, I can't stop looking at russian porn.

 

There's something seductive about the apathy of Russian porn actors that the apathy of American porn actors can't quite reach.

 

I've dated two Russians. One was more American than the other, having moved while quite young, whereas the other was a straight immigrant studying abroad, but they were both born in Russia. The former was funny and whimsical but mostly immature; the latter was wickedly brilliant and mostly insane, the reason the Russian flag ends in red. I couldn't handle her then. I wish I still knew her now.

[Green]

So I went to this event last Saturday, and a female friend of mine who I hadn't seen in a while came running over, squealing, about how happy she was to see me there at this event, all because she had THE PERFECT GUY for me to meet. She described him, he sounded interesting. She pointed him out. Funny enough, I had already noticed him. Why? Because (1) he's tall, dark, and handsome, and (2) I KNOW I already know him from somewhere, I just can't figure out where.

 

Anyway, I was feeling pretty damn good that night, and not because of some dude. I was just in a really good mood. Comfortable in my own skin. I was there with a group of girlfriends, we weren't there to meet dudes, just enjoy the night. So this cute guy was just icing on the cake, ya know?

 

We end up slowly getting closer to one another in proximity, and ultimately introduce ourselves to one another, without her help. It seems like there's a little bit of flirtation going on. I'm thinking, "Sweet!" We both acknowledge that we know each other, somehow, some way, we just don't know how. We go over every school we've gone to, majors, travel groups, hobbies, everything to try to figure out where and how we know each other. But we just can't figure it out. We're laughing and having fun the entire time.

 

Then he just abruptly ends the conversation and walks away to talk to someone else. I'm left standing there like a dumb arse. I make eye contact with a girlfriend who was watching the whole exchange from about 10 feet away, and we both start cracking up. I literally said outloud, "WTF was that about?"

 

What's the point, you ask? 5 years ago, the way he deserted me would have upset me, and I would have obsessed over it...trying to figure out why he rejected me like that. Now? I just think, "Cute guy, fun conversation. Awesome. Maybe another one will actually ask for my number. ;)"

 

And I leave the place arm and arm with my best girlfriends, and call it a good night.

 

He might have been to afraid to ask you out. Or maybe he remembered how he knew you and it wasn't great... or he just lost interest

[Star Gazer]

He might have been to afraid to ask you out. Or maybe he remembered how he knew you and it wasn't great... or he just lost interest

 

I'm fully aware of all the permutations of why he acted the way he did. It was just funny... you had to have been there to see how suddenly he turned and walked off. I think it may have even been mid-sentence.

[fishtaco]

He might have been to afraid to ask you out. Or maybe he remembered how he knew you and it wasn't great... or he just lost interest

 

I thought Star Gazer had the right attitude. Who cares? Shrug and have fun. People do weird things all the time.

 

This story goes back almost a year. Her code name is Facebook Girl. Sorry long story.

 

Met Facebook Girl at a club, flirted, asked for number, she said no and turned around stomped away. Ran into her a couple more times, chatted, she remembered me, at least she didn't think I was a creep. Nothing happened, I moved on to other women.

 

Months later, she somehow found me on FB, and gave me her number. I didn't even ask for it. So I called her, she never called me back. Then although we're still FB friends, I pretty much ignored her.

 

Months later, suddenly she was FB stalking me. Replying or "liking" random stuff I posted. So I returned the favor. We got chatting, and she wanted to go out. So this time, she actually returned my call and we setup a date.

 

The day of the date, she canceled. Given her track record, can't say I was surprised. But later I found out supposedly it was because her house got broken into. I decided to giver her the benefit of the doubt.

 

Next week, I managed to get a quickie coffee date out of her. We actually finally met up, after almost a year. We had a blast together. It was supposed to be a quick chat to setup a real date (my plan anyway), we ended up hanging out together for 7 hours, and we were making out by the end of the night.

 

The next week I got the flu, and was out of commission, but we kept in contact almost every day. That was the "hot" week. The week after that (last week), things got cold. I invited her out to watch my band play last Thursday, and we had a tentative date set up Friday. She flaked on Thursday, even though an hour before she txted me that she was going to be there. She also never let me know about the Friday date. I've been in the dating scene long enough to know the value of proper planning, so immediately I had a date with someone else setup Friday.

 

Friday night after my date, I found out as of last Monday, Facebook Girl has a boyfriend. She updated her FB status, but I didn't see it because I don't check FB very often. But she never bothered to tell me, which would have been nice, because that would have made my planning much easier. I didn't want to have multiple women I'm seeing at the time all show up to watch my band play for obvious reasons. If I had known she's no longer available, I'd have invited her and her new boyfriend to come out, and I would have invited one of the other women I was dating to come out. It almost screwed up my Friday too, good thing I was prepared.

 

So she's now off the list. I was going to go out and find a replacement last night, because I happened to be free. But one of my female friends gave me crap for multi-dating, and she's one of my really good friends and what she says carries a lot of weight with me. So I decided to play nice and stay home and play video games instead. I did manage to save the post apocalyptic world from the violent iron-fisted rule of my big brother Raoh.

 

The woman I went on the Friday date with I really like her. We ended up spending Saturday together too. Supposedly, as of now, we're on "good terms", as in I am expecting her to say yes to the next date. But you never know. The dating scene is full of surprises. The Facebook girl story is a tad more dramatic than the usual happenings, but the unpredictability of it is not uncommon. Well see what happens. If the Friday date girl turns into a dud, then I can go back to my friend and say - see? I should have gone out and gotten more dates. Then my friend will have the generic female response - I can't believe it, where do you find these women?! As if I'm psychic enough to only pick out the flakers.