durkadurka Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 So, after 3 months of heart ache, I got actually got a phone call worth taking from my ex. On Sunday, she called saying she'd been thinking of me, and wanted to talk. Fortunately, or unfortunately I've been too busy to call her back. I Yesterday, after hearing that she finally put a bid in on the companies she'd been working on buying for a while, I sent her a bouquet of lilies. It hit the spot. She was ecstatic today, texting me telling me how much she loved them. Without getting into too much detail, she wants to meet me in vegas next weekend. I'd elaborate, but I'm that busy and don't have time.
pandagirl Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 So... are you happy or upset about this? You sound.. enthused.
sacg Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 Thought you was done with her Durka? Good luck to you either way!
whatadeer26 Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 Durka after everything do not let your guard down. Think about what YOU really want and do not settle for less. I am happy for you brother and wish you the best.
Author durkadurka Posted November 14, 2010 Author Posted November 14, 2010 Well this has ended up being a small amount of fail. We kind of discussed this, and we were impulsive, excited and ready to go. When it came to planning though, she said she didn't want to explain herself to anyone, she just wanted to go. Then I brought up, how am I supposed to feel, you're seeing someone! Then I suggested we take a day or two to think about it. Today she called, and said she didn't want to set me back in my moving on from her, and that she didn't want me to get depressed after I left Vegas and be sad without her, and see if I would go down as friends. I guess that initial euphoria of being so sweet to her wore off really quickly, she she's already thinking about all of the other stuff. She's also saying that she doesn't know what I meant by saying that she said some pretty interesting things when we chatted on Wednesday like what I would do if she bought the businesses and how I would fit into her life and all of these other things. She has really recoiled and put her guard back up, and I don't know if I can break that down again. I told her I needed to think about it. The reality is I don't know what to say to her.
Author durkadurka Posted November 15, 2010 Author Posted November 15, 2010 (edited) Last Sunday Okay so I thought I might post the entire story since I've been thinking about it a little bit, and I was hoping to get some feedback. Last Sunday my ex called me. I was busy out for dinner with my grandparents because they are going on vacation for two months. I didn't pick up. She left a voice mail saying 'I've been thinking about you, I would really like to talk, I'm sure you're busy but call me back if you would like.' She also sent me a text saying she's doing some reading, but to text her if I wanted to talk. I didn't return her call for a little while, on Monday she sends me a text saying she put a bid on the company she is trying to buy. I wasn't really interested in making contact with her, but I know she's having a hard time down there, so I sent her a bouquet of flowers, unsigned, just saying that she deserves something nice after all of her hard work. Wednesday She receives the flowers, and she texts me asking if they are from me. I don't admit it at first, but eventually cave. She starts freaking out because she's so excited and says she wants to talk to me on the phone tonight. She calls me later on in the evening telling me how it made her day perfect, that she misses me so much, and that she really regrets some of the things that she's done. She was so angry the last time she saw me, that she did whatever she could to move on. She said that she was really angry when I visited and I didn't say what she wanted to hear. I simply asked her, did it ever occur to you to ask what I meant instead of letting your imagination run wild? She started saying that even before I sent the flowers she was looking at flights to come and visit me, and that she really just wants to spend time with me because she's been thinking about all the good times we've had together. She also starts bashing the new guy she's seeing calling him a pansy and a worrier. Anyways, she says that there's been a lot of stuff going on, that her dad was laid off and her brother is joining the army. At this point she's in tears getting angry that we still aren't together, and says she just got sick of defending me to everyone. She really wishes things had worked out and that she didn't know what to do and that she wishes I could move down to be with her but she isn't sure if it would work. I told her that if it was something she really wanted I would make it work. She says she wishes she could run away with me and get some time away from her home, she doesn't want to explain it to anyone, she doesn't want to have to justify her actions of anyone.. she just wants to feel like someone isn't relying on her. She suggests we go to Vegas. At this point she seems really open to kind of seeing where things go, but it's in my heart that this is a big risk for me. Thursday I ask her to give me a call to sort out if she ACTUALLY wants to go or it this is another one of her shenanigans. I told her that given what's happened between us, and the fact she's seeing someone else.. that we should take a day or two to think about what's going on. She says she doesn't want to think about it too much, she just wants to go and see what happens. I tell her that's what I did last time I came to visit and it didn't work out too well. Friday Friday I sent her a text just letting her know prices were going up. That I wish she was up here because I was doing one of her favorite things. Mistake, I started encroaching. Saturday Saturday I get a text from her saying she's out wedding dress shopping with a friend of hers, she would call me later. She calls me later on at night, I said I'm out at my grandparents place drinking a bottle of wine in front of the fire. She reminisces about how much fun that was and asks if I'm with anyone. I say no, I'm doing homework. I start telling her about the trip, some ideas I had and she stops me cold. She says 'I think I want to go as friends, I know you've worked really hard at moving on, I don't want you to get depressed when we go our separate ways, if you can do that, then we can go.' My response was pretty simple, are you kidding? I told her I hadn't really thought about it, but that it's silly to go as friends. I tell her I'll call her back. I never do. Instead, I send her a facebook message outlining what I think. It was pretty much, let's go down, have a wild time, I can't promise I'll be friends with her, I can't promise I won't make a pass at her, but I can promise it will be a memorable time. She texts me asking where I disappeared to and why I haven't called her back. I tell her to check her facebook, and that I'm going to sit in my hottub and have a glass of wine. Annnnnnnnnnnd I haven't heard back from her. LOL. Edited November 15, 2010 by durkadurka
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