Author GivenUp0083 Posted November 12, 2010 Author Posted November 12, 2010 I partially agree. Yes, I can be happy/fulfilled without a significant other. I disagree with the whole "if it's meant to be, it will be" stuff. I don't believe in "meant to be"--who the heck decides what is supposedly meant to be? You are preaching the whole "it'll happen when you aren't looking!" thing, which is true sometimes. The opposite, though, of if I work hard enough to find it, I will find it, is also true sometimes Ok, valid point, but are you the same girl who says "this guy is trying to hard" or "you can tell this guy wants a girlfriend"? Because I believe that is all a bunch of crap too, women being turned off because they think a guy likes them instead of being mysterious about it. Sorry, but there's two sides to the bull**** coin, and that's the otherside of the one you're trying to flip.
refurb Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 Good points. I date in order to meet interesting people. If one of them turn out to be "the one", great. If not? I still had fun. RF
utterer of lies Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 I appreciate your opinion but I guess I just completely see it opposite as you do. Invest time? Into what? I see dating as investing time into people who don't even hold enough respect to even reject you. Gone are the days where people actually tell you how they feel and have the decency to even just say "this isn't working for me I think we should stop dating". You know what people do now? They hide. They just ignore you after weeks of dating. Yeah, I'm gonne keep INVESTING time into that when I could do something more rewarding. Just because you lack the ability to select good women to date doesn't mean there's something wrong with dating in itself.
utterer of lies Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 I really don't think I will enter the game. If it weren't for online dating I wouldn't have been able to go on ANY dates in the last year. I'm not socially awkward, I actually work in outside sales and I get along with people very well. They have to like me to get paid. BUT since college ever girl I've asked out or gotten a phone number from has not lead to a single date. That's at least 4 years in a big city like Chicago that I could not land a date by conventional meeting random people/friends of friends and getting a date. The only dates I can get are from online crazies. So I know now that it is clearly not in the cards for me and I won't go back to "puting in the effort". But again, so the problem is clearly you and not dating.
Author GivenUp0083 Posted November 13, 2010 Author Posted November 13, 2010 Just because you lack the ability to select good women to date doesn't mean there's something wrong with dating in itself. But again, so the problem is clearly you and not dating. If you've read my posts thoroughly on this thread alone (and I'm sorry if there's too much for you to review), then you'd understand that I already stated I am the problem. I already know there is something wrong with me that just does not make me an ideal boyfriend candidate for most women.... But considering your clear intent was to badger and insult me to make up for your lack of a respectful argument in this discussion shows your true intelligence level. You can go crawl back under your bridge now. Unless you want to bring some meaningful discussion to the table.
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