dreamer0123 Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 How time flies! I need some advice.... My ex and I broke up over a year ago- we just wanted different things and were not different pages... it ended last 13 months ago. We stayed extremely LC with him mostly trying to stay contact and finally went NC until Sept. It was 5 months of complete NC before I got a call one day... I even had a new phone and didn't have his number in it. We met up and talked about everything- and he wanted to try again. I was leaving to go home for a couple of weeks but told him I'd think about it and get back to him. We met up once when I came back- but he never brought it up. I didn't see or hear from him again until the last couple of weeks where we met a mutual friends' party - we made small talk and he called me again on Sunday "just to talk" So now- I'm confused... I don't know what I want- I'm scared but i love him and would give anything for us to try again- as long as we were on the same page.... I dunno what to do.... it's hard to think logically- especially since we had great relationship but just wanted different things... Any advice?
pandagirl Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 Wow! You guys have been apart long enough to have let go and move on, so I think that is vital. I'd just take things slow and make sure to communicate and discuss the problems you were having that caused you to break up in the first place. You have to let go of past grievances and treat it like a new relationship. Good luck!
WTRanger Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 How time flies! I need some advice.... My ex and I broke up over a year ago- we just wanted different things and were not different pages... it ended last 13 months ago. We stayed extremely LC with him mostly trying to stay contact and finally went NC until Sept. It was 5 months of complete NC before I got a call one day... I even had a new phone and didn't have his number in it. We met up and talked about everything- and he wanted to try again. I was leaving to go home for a couple of weeks but told him I'd think about it and get back to him. We met up once when I came back- but he never brought it up. I didn't see or hear from him again until the last couple of weeks where we met a mutual friends' party - we made small talk and he called me again on Sunday "just to talk" So now- I'm confused... I don't know what I want- I'm scared but i love him and would give anything for us to try again- as long as we were on the same page.... I dunno what to do.... it's hard to think logically- especially since we had great relationship but just wanted different things... Any advice? The bold part above stood out to me. You told him you'd get back to him, so he probably figured you'd decided your answer was no and felt he shouldn't bring it up without looking clingy and needy. In a sense, the ball was in your court to bring it up as you told him you would. At this point, he's as confused as you are and it sounds like he's fishing again. Pandagirl has got it spot on in the fact that you two need to take it slow and above all have good lines of communication.
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