Back to school "just" for a social life?

[yobynnad]

Hi, so am I the only loser here?

 

I'm in my 30's. I got my first degree in computers - hate it.

 

Did that 10 years. I got NO social life cause I just .. I don't know.. I just don't.

 

I did when I was in school though. Actually, my greatest years were undecided, still thinking of WHAT I wanted to do.

 

 

So, here I am.. really still the same. I think I actually just like the social life. Like I didn't get why it couldn't just be that way forever, like cool, this is fun? Can I major in "undecided-ology"?

 

 

really it's because I'm hopelessly single and I think my sole mission in life is finding a mate.

 

 

I can't seem to 'move on' until that happens.. and so, all this.. back to schoool, unhappy with job, quitting my job, all my 'adult miseries' are because of the fact that when I was 18 or 19 I didn't just get a girlfriend and think, Whew! That part is out of the way. Now, let's focus on life. Work.. career.

 

 

Instead, I just went straight to work. Sorta missed the social bubble. So.. it's real boring have a great career and going home everynight alone with nobody to share that with.

 

 

That's my real reason for going back to school.

 

 

But, it just feels... wrong somehow. Like it's not the reason one should be. It feels impure, childish, sort of demeaning. Yet, it is what it is... I'm freaking lonely and I know my job wasn't going to solve that.

 

I don't know.. I know there's a positve angle in their somewhere but I feel the crappy part.

 

So back to the world of financial aid and awkward dating, hopefully

[dreamingoftigers]

Everyone has broad reasons for pursuing an education, if you find that it helped you dating life, then good for you.

[Arabella]

You're forgetting the fact that you're not 19 years old anymore. I hate to say it, but even if you go back to school, you're not likely to find a lot of people to be friends and/or date.

 

I'm 27 and I went back to school too. It just so happens that I look younger and can easily blend in (people never guess my real age), but I still find most people too immature for me to even consider being friends with.

 

This is also how I ended up with a 20 year old boyfriend. I wasn't looking for one but things kinda just worked out this way. However, I am a woman. You may find that girls in their early 20s are not very interested in guys that much older than them.

 

If you find that going back to school will make you happier, then go for it. But be realistic about what you can expect, so that you are not disappointed. Personally, if the goal is to improve your social life, then I don't think this is the way to go.

 

There are other venues to meet people which are much more likely to result in you finding a mate. Have you heard of websites such as Meetup? You could try joining a couple of groups and attending their meetings and see how that goes.

 

Best of luck,

Arabella

[Nightsky]

What State do you living in? What kind of classes are you taking, and do you plan on getting a degree? How many girls are in your class, and what do you think the age mix is?