LK30 Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 Hi all. I wrote a few weeks ago about a girl I have fancied for ages and saw her recently at a friend's birthday night out (I hardly ever see her) and I stupidly didn't chat to her despite getting a couple of smiles from her. She's very pretty, and there's another night out coming up this weekend that she might be going to, but no guarantee. It's more complicated as I'm a few weeks into a r'ship with another girl, who certainly isn't that attractive, but so nice in all other ways. I know it's wrong, but I can't help still feeling attracted to the girl who I really fancy who I rarely see. As a result I'm not making a lot of effort with the current girl and I'm sure it must show. I'm giving it time to kind of 'fall for her' as she is such a better option in the long term, but us blokes usually fall for the stunner, who in the long term is much more likely to be a liability. The girl I'm attracted to I e-mailed recently and got some replies and thought I was making some progress but even they've dried up now as she didn't reply to my last msg a couple of weeks ago for no reason. I am considering not going to the event at the weekend, especially as she may not be there and after all that I bottled it last time, so I'm probably getting hopes up for nothing. The fact we had a few e-mail exchanges may have broken the ice and I may more of a 'way in' to strike up conversation, but my conscience says I'm bad even having these thoughts bearing in mind I'm in the early stages of another relationship that my heart isn't really into at the moment! I'm so shallow as looks aren't everything, but I can't remember the last time I dated a girl who I was REALLY attracted to!! Help!!
Third age Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 I would say get to be friends with the prettier one first. dont get ahead of yourself like breaking up with your gf. give it some time it might fade off. im kind of in the same situation...but my advice is just to become really close friends with the pretty one first and see what signals she gives you. dw man you not shallow everyone goes through this. Oh and good luck!
Author LK30 Posted November 11, 2010 Author Posted November 11, 2010 Thanks my friend - good advice! I think i'm going to go to the event at the weekend that she may be at. If she's no there then so be it as the chances of seeing it again are pretty remote and perhaps that's the point I need to move on from her, because if I don't then I know I won't be able to put my heart into the current relationship and that's not fair on her :-)
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