Outoftown Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 So I have been going to this bar over the last few months. Every time I go in which is the same night of the week I got speaking to this cute Canadian Waitress. She seemed really nice friendly and outgoing and also seemed to take a genuine interest in me. Spoke to me more than other customers etc. I made the effort to try and get to know her a bit, where she was from, what she was doing and that. Sometimes I would not go in for a few weeks and the next time I came in she would always know my order and chat a fair bit. I know it's their job to be friendly and sociable so maybe I was reading a little much in it but a couple of people who I went there with agreed she seemed to take an interest in me. In the UK tips are not so commonplace in bars (not surprising with our prices!) so people in that line of work are not always so charming. Anyway when I left the bar recently I went for it and left my card with my mobile number and a note asking if she wanted a drink. I did not hear for a few days and then got a text saying "Hey it's ..... from the bar I am really flattered but I have a boyfriend" so I just replied saying thanks for letting me know. As disappointing as it was, I am pleased I gave it a shot and won't ever wonder what if as I really took a shine to her ever since night 1. Also I guess she may get a few numbers so was pleased she actually text me back to let me know. This my favourite bar that I hang out at. I was pleased she was honest and actually text me to let me know. She could have just left it or even emailed me as she had my card. With this in mind do you think it's cool I continue to use the bar? It's not like I have put any pressure on her or anything. I have not been back yet but if I am just polite and friendly it should be fine? If she was comfortable enough to text me I don't see it being a major issue. I will just not engage in so much conversation from my side or anything knowing that she is with someone. I don't want her to feel awkward & want to respect it's her work place and situation. Anyone have any thoughts? Thanks in advance for your advice on my first post
Kinder-Horror Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 I think it's completely fine to keep going to the bar - as long as you are respectful of her and her relationship. It was pretty cool of her to be upfront with you and if there is any awkwardness, it will probably only be the first time you go back, but it sounds like it wont be. Just carry on like you normally do with her (friendly, not flirty) and all should be fine.
Author Outoftown Posted November 10, 2010 Author Posted November 10, 2010 I think it's completely fine to keep going to the bar - as long as you are respectful of her and her relationship. It was pretty cool of her to be upfront with you and if there is any awkwardness, it will probably only be the first time you go back, but it sounds like it wont be. Just carry on like you normally do with her (friendly, not flirty) and all should be fine. Thank you, that's what I thought Done nothing wrong and I like the place so can't be anything wrong with still using it as I will be the respectful gentleman. The reason I actually left my card (rather than asking her straight out) was not to put her on the spot or any pressure on her at her place of work. I didn't know whether she was with someone, even if she wasn't I know I don't go to the office to date so just because she's a waitress doesn't mean it's not her place of employment. So I figure next time I will go in grab my beer, say hi and then continue my night as normal with friends.
LittleTiger Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 Welcome to LS Outoftown. This looks like a simple case of - - boy meets girl in a bar - boys asks girl for a date - girl politely refuses It happens all the time in every bar in London and probably throughout the world. If every guy who was turned down by a pretty girl in a bar stopped going to that bar, half the bars in the world would be empty. Go to the bar if you enjoy it and carry on being friendly. I honestly don't think there's any anything for you to worry about.
Author Outoftown Posted November 10, 2010 Author Posted November 10, 2010 Welcome to LS Outoftown. This looks like a simple case of - - boy meets girl in a bar - boys asks girl for a date - girl politely refuses It happens all the time in every bar in London and probably throughout the world. If every guy who was turned down by a pretty girl in a bar stopped going to that bar, half the bars in the world would be empty. Go to the bar if you enjoy it and carry on being friendly. I honestly don't think there's any anything for you to worry about. Yep and she outlinned her BF as why it wasn't possible. A few people I have spoke to said if she didn't like me she wouldn't have replied so I will just continue as normal and go by the nothing ventured nothing gained moto lol
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