chancellor Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 I'm friends with this girl I really like but only as a friend. She has a boyfriend and I thought there was really nothing going on. We had drinks after classes a few times. One time we were in a noisy bar and she was sitting so close that I could feel her breath. The following time we ended up talking until very late at night. I was not attracted to her but I felt an obvious connection that was making me a bit uncomfortable. Yesterday she mentioned she was not entirely satisfied with her relationship. I told her she shouldn't be going out with other guys to make up for that. She then got mad at me for suggesting that she was a cheater. Was I right to say what I said?
hopesndreams Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 Was I right to say what I said? You get my seal of approval. Hopefully, she'll learn from it.
Mad Max Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 She knows that she's cheating emotionally. That's why she took offense to what you said. What you said was spot on and because she knows she's in the wrong, she took offense. And let's be honest: If she's willing to dump her BF for you so easily, she'll dump you when something better comes along.
Author chancellor Posted November 10, 2010 Author Posted November 10, 2010 Was I right to say what I said? You get my seal of approval. Hopefully, she'll learn from it. So why did she get so mad? She literally chased me for an hour so I can tell her what signs I had to make such a statement.
hopesndreams Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 So why did she get so mad? She literally chased me for an hour so I can tell her what signs I had to make such a statement. What MadMax had to say.
Mad Max Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 So why did she get so mad? She literally chased me for an hour so I can tell her what signs I had to make such a statement. Because she knows what she did was wrong and instead of admitting it, she took offense. She feels justified in what she's doing.
Titania22 Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 It's all good, you did nothing wrong. One thing that cames to mind though, is the perception that there is such a thing as 1 person that is going to satisfy all our social needs. I just don't buy that. No one is capable of being everything (perfect) all the time, and it's too much pressure anyway. (I know I haven't perfectly expressed the sentiment i wished to, but i am having trouble finding words that won't be misconstrued. Hopefully you get where I was going with this.)
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