Jannah Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 Best advice I've read on this board yet! And thats also why the two girls Jannah (actually 3, 1 more in the rafters waiting to be enlisted). For all I know they each are playing 5 guys a piece. This is so sad.
Author BrianK Posted November 12, 2010 Author Posted November 12, 2010 Personally, I forsee you getting dumped. I don't think anyone should become obsessed, but you sound like a jerk and obviously girl #1 is starting to wonder about you. Personally I see myself 100% single and lonely if I dont do this. Its just dating at this point.
that girl Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 Personally I see myself 100% single and lonely if I dont do this. Its just dating at this point. It would be one thing if you'd been on 4 dates but you weren't sure things would work out. But Girl #1 is acting like a girlfriend and you're sitting here thinking "Ooh, she can see me on MSN with another girl and now she wants to know what is up! Score!" And maybe that is the way things will work out, maybe she has low self-esteem. But it seriously isn't unusual for a woman to bail on a guy because she thinks he is a player or not serious about her.
Sabali Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 Oh I know it exists. But that's not what it's about. Things have been going well for the OP and this woman, so why introduce a second person into the mix? Things have not been going completely well for the OP. That is why he made this thread. He wanted some input because he has seen or still see red flags with girl#1 here and there that lets him know that she is not his yet.
Author BrianK Posted November 12, 2010 Author Posted November 12, 2010 Things have not been going completely well for the OP. That is why he made this thread. He wanted some input because he has seen or still see red flags with girl#1 here and there that lets him know that she is not his yet. Exactly, I was "a nice guy" and her interest dropped to near zero after date 3, now this is operation salvage and its coming along nicely.
Jannah Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 OK, then I must have misunderstood. Carry on.
that girl Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 Things have not been going completely well for the OP. That is why he made this thread. He wanted some input because he has seen or still see red flags with girl#1 here and there that lets him know that she is not his yet. Were these red flags posted somewhere? I don't remembering reading about them. Exactly, I was "a nice guy" and her interest dropped to near zero after date 3, now this is operation salvage and its coming along nicely. Wait huh? That doesn't make any sense. You've only been on four dates, she slept with you somewhere in there and she's talking about going away together. How do you even know her interest plumpeted at some point?
Sabali Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 Watch out, OP. They are about to come after you. Lol.
2sunny Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 Its just dating at this point. it's not really just dating if you are having sex with her. are you honest with her by telling her you are dating others? that's the right thing at this point since she seems to think you are interested in her. i have to say - if she's texting you that much she seems way too needy. i wouldn't find that attractive. and why is she paying? are the man in this dating scene?
Sabali Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 Were these red flags posted somewhere? I don't remembering reading about them. It's called "reading between the lines." These thing are not written in words. That girl, put your sword down. Don't slice the man. I want you to play nicely. The Op has said nothing negative to you.
Author BrianK Posted November 12, 2010 Author Posted November 12, 2010 Were these red flags posted somewhere? I don't remembering reading about them. Wait huh? That doesn't make any sense. You've only been on four dates, she slept with you somewhere in there and she's talking about going away together. How do you even know her interest plumpeted at some point? What happened was we went WAY too fast (making out after an hour of meeting, but had spoken on phone / texted multiple times for 3 weeks before) By the 2nd date she was scared ****less about a potential "long term" very serious relationship and started pulling away. It was over, 3rd date was a reconciliation that ended in the sack and then 4th date was almost "just as friends" but ended up making out again and now we seem to be getting back on track. In the midst I picked up girl 2 because I was certain G1 was done.
Author BrianK Posted November 12, 2010 Author Posted November 12, 2010 it's not really just dating if you are having sex with her. are you honest with her by telling her you are dating others? that's the right thing at this point since she seems to think you are interested in her. i have to say - if she's texting you that much she seems way too needy. i wouldn't find that attractive. and why is she paying? are the man in this dating scene? Every date with her so far have all costed $100 - $200 and I cover them. Shes got this one and rightfully so.
that girl Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 What happened was we went WAY too fast (making out after an hour of meeting, but had spoken on phone / texted multiple times for 3 weeks before) By the 2nd date she was scared ****less about a potential "long term" very serious relationship and started pulling away. It was over, 3rd date was a reconciliation that ended in the sack and then 4th date was almost "just as friends" but ended up making out again and now we seem to be getting back on track. In the midst I picked up girl 2 because I was certain G1 was done. Yeah, I still think she's going to dump you if she finds out about the other girl. You are using advice about getting disinterested girls to be interested. I think it is generally crappy advice, but that isn't what is happening here. This girl said on the second date she was afraid of falling to hard for you and hasn't ever really gone away.
Jannah Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 What happened was we went WAY too fast (making out after an hour of meeting, but had spoken on phone / texted multiple times for 3 weeks before) By the 2nd date she was scared ****less about a potential "long term" very serious relationship and started pulling away. It was over, 3rd date was a reconciliation that ended in the sack and then 4th date was almost "just as friends" but ended up making out again and now we seem to be getting back on track. In the midst I picked up girl 2 because I was certain G1 was done. I wish you would have included this in your initial thread, because the initial thread painted things much differently....
Sabali Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 Op, just walk away. There is no utility in arguing on an internet forum or any where for that matter.
that girl Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 It's called "reading between the lines." These thing are not written in words. That girl, put your sword down. Don't slice the man. I want you to play nicely. The Op has said nothing negative to you. Are you trolling? Because I'm not trying to "slice" anyone. I honestly think he could destroy a potentially good thing. Now you are free to disagree with me but you keep posting these strange, nasty little comments about how I shouldn't offer advice on an advice board, I am out to get him, etc. It seems like trolling.
Jannah Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 Op, just walk away. There is no utility in arguing on an internet forum or any where for that matter. Wah. (#####)
Sabali Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 Are you trolling? Because I'm not trying to "slice" anyone. I honestly think he could destroy a potentially good thing. Now you are free to disagree with me but you keep posting these strange, nasty little comments about how I shouldn't offer advice on an advice board, I am out to get him, etc. It seems like trolling. What??? When have I ever made a strange, nasty little comment about you any where? I recall actually making a couple of good comments about you in the past. This is weird... Do I need one of those restraining orders now? I don't know...
Jannah Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 No reference to you, Jannah. Oh good. Cause Jannah would get mad, Jannah would get real mad.....
Sabali Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 Oh good. Cause Jannah would get mad, Jannah would get real mad..... Lol. We can't have that now!
Jannah Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 Lol. We can't have that now! No way. I turn into Beaker from the Muppets and my head explodes.
Sabali Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 No way. I turn into Beaker from the Muppets and my head explodes. Oh, you shouldn't have told me that now! Now, I have to call your bluff. Jannah, is crazy... ***Runs for cover***
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