Jayerjay Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 Let's say you broke up with your ex girlfriend. She was obviously hurt, but you realized you made a mistake (and had been making mistakes during the relationship) and asked for her back and she denied you. Very quickly she started dating someone new and then pretended like you never existed. 6-8 months later you come back in contact, see each other and then she is interested in giving it another shot. Would you give it another chance if both sides are open to work on the flaws they saw in the previous relationship? On one hand, she chose another man over you for 6 months. On the other hand, you broke up with her and ruined the relationship so can you blame her? Thoughts?
ARISthess Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 If you feel you can avoid the same mistakes and she would make you happy, go for it. Don't linger on what happened while you were apart. I bet you had a couple flings during this period as well.
DustySaltus Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 If you're both willing to go down that road again and work on the issues that lead to the breakup, i'm a firm believer in second chances. The fact of the matter is that when you broke up she was hurt and would've chosen ANYONE else over you...because she felt rejected.
kaycstamper Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 If you're asking if I would, I'd say no. If you 're asking if you should, that's up to you...if you think you're both willing to work on it and you think you have a chance, why not? Me...I don't need the heartache...
Author Jayerjay Posted November 11, 2010 Author Posted November 11, 2010 Thanks for the replies. I mainly just wanted to see if I was crazy for not being bitter about her seeing another person for 6 months, or if I should never look back. So it helps to see I'm not crazy!
pandagirl Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 Honestly, I think the more space and experience you have between breaking up and a reconciliation, the better. It gives both people a change to grow and change. Being in another relationship in the time apart would naturally bug anyone, but you were apart, so it's not fair to hold it against them. I would really only have an issue if they had fallen in love with that person.
skydiveaddict Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 I would like to no, but if she walked back into my life tonite, I don't think I would be able to resist.
Lemontang Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 It really does depend on what led to the break up. I broke up with one girl 11 months back because she was an alcoholic which then stemmed to a whole range of issues because of it. Namely once I broke it off I wanted to fix things as I knew she needed help, but she wiped me off. I found out shortly afterwards she'd been sleeping with randoms behind my back when we were together, and it took me awhile to come to terms with it and accept that I was in an abusive relationship. Would I take her back now if we ran into each other? No, it doesn't bother me that she's seeing other people now, I'm in a great relationship now with someone who doesn't have these issues. But it bothers me to know she was doing this anyway when we were together. Even if she did somehow manage to fix her drinking problem the damage is done, she chose her path. Don't get me wrong I still care very much for her, but I have a little more self respect than to get back into that kind of relationship all over again (also doesn't help she just moved two weeks back a few blocks away from my house now too). So I say analyse why you broke up 1st and the fallout afterwards. If you can get past that then and only then I'd say yes.
heartbroken301 Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 you know im in the same predicament as you , as i was in 6 months ago , where by we tried to make it work then she went on a blind date , and told me never to contact her again and go to bher house because shes madily in love with new bf after one night , which boils down to do u really want her to come back into your life ? i`m not trying to be negative here but i got two case senerios for you ... 1 - Ok fine she comes back slept with half the town and realize`s 3-6 months that the relation is not the same and shes`s out again ... back too heart break again my friend. YOu going back to where u where 6 months ago . 2 - you moved on found even a better woman out there and believe me there are better woman out there than the Ex , thats why she`s your Ex for a reason and showing yourself that you are a handsome loving , outgoing person as u used to be in the past , that makes plenty women attractive to you . it all boils down to your choice if u want her back i`d say , but bare inmind the consequences ... i know its not easy but u have to let them come crawling back too you , after all she broke but with you ? any ways think hard about the decision you make and try and think how would u improve on the relationship IF u got back with her ...
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