zerovandez Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 So this past weekend I was in NYC. I visited with a friend who already had a date there which we were supposed to stay with. They introduced me to the prettiest girl I've laid my eyes on in a really long time. Long story short, I ended up staying with this girl for the remainder of my trip. The chemistry was perfect and everything felt right. It was soo hard parting ways when my time was up. I felt that she was really sad as was I. We both discussed that this wasn't supposed to happen this way. I think we have really deep feelings for each other at this point. I've been texting her since and we've initiated a video chat for the first time since my return home last night. I can see in her eyes that she had some kind of doubt and I'm sure that she saw the same in mine. I'm in CA and she's in NYC, of course there is doubt. I'm supposed to visit her for the week of New Years in December. She's soo excited to see me she says. And I'm really eager to see her as well. But a month is really far away. I don't know if her doubt will turn into lack of interest. I've already booked a flight ticket for my visit but now I'm questioning if that was such a good idea. Or, am I thinking too much? Has anyone had this much distance between each other? How is this really supposed to work? Any tips or advice would be much appreciated.
aerogurl87 Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 So this past weekend I was in NYC. I visited with a friend who already had a date there which we were supposed to stay with. They introduced me to the prettiest girl I've laid my eyes on in a really long time. Long story short, I ended up staying with this girl for the remainder of my trip. The chemistry was perfect and everything felt right. It was soo hard parting ways when my time was up. I felt that she was really sad as was I. We both discussed that this wasn't supposed to happen this way. I think we have really deep feelings for each other at this point. I've been texting her since and we've initiated a video chat for the first time since my return home last night. I can see in her eyes that she had some kind of doubt and I'm sure that she saw the same in mine. I'm in CA and she's in NYC, of course there is doubt. I'm supposed to visit her for the week of New Years in December. She's soo excited to see me she says. And I'm really eager to see her as well. But a month is really far away. I don't know if her doubt will turn into lack of interest. I've already booked a flight ticket for my visit but now I'm questioning if that was such a good idea. Or, am I thinking too much? Has anyone had this much distance between each other? How is this really supposed to work? Any tips or advice would be much appreciated. There are 2,255 miles between my boyfriend and I and we've been together for 9 months now. If both of you are committed to making your relationship work, it can work. For my boyfriend and I we talk everyday. That means texting each other throughout the day and talking on skype every night before bed. It helps us feel more connected to each other and helps us get a look into each other's everyday life. Also try and visit each other whenever you can. My boyfriend and I were together for 3 months before we met in person (we met online) and then we went another 4 months till we saw each other again. On this visit we've decided that because we can afford it now, we want to see each other at least once every two months. So figure out when you two can visit each other and a frequency that will work for you two. That's my advise and good luck.
xpaperxcutx Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 Given the distance, you have to maintain contact as much as possible. Most people in LDRs on here tend to stick to a long distance phone plan. IM messaging and plenty of Skype. If you don't even have that pats down, then you'll truly be wasting your fly miles.
Author zerovandez Posted November 10, 2010 Author Posted November 10, 2010 Given the distance, you have to maintain contact as much as possible. Most people in LDRs on here tend to stick to a long distance phone plan. IM messaging and plenty of Skype. If you don't even have that pats down, then you'll truly be wasting your fly miles. xpaperxcutx, I remember you from another thread! I recall telling you that I was going to visit NYC and this is the result of the trip! I fell in "like" with somebody! LOL! It's crazy. We've discussed how crazy the situation is and agreed that these feelings were not supposed to happen but they did. We video chatted with iChat already and as always, it was bittersweet. It's even hard to let go of each other online. But we do communicate over text throughout the day. It seems as if I'm heading down the right path with this LDR stuff. I guess we will have some things to discuss in person on my next visit to see her which is about a month away.
folieadeux Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 For what it's worth, my story echoes yours and it really can work if both people are committed to it. My relationship with my SO also started with a chance meeting in NYC and the rest, as they say, is history. We'll be seeing each other next on December 27th. I'm in NJ and he resides in GA. Before committing yourself to flights, visits, etc., my only advise would be to establish where you're at with each other to make sure you're on the same page with things. Alot of people are dealing with distances much greater with oceans inbetween them and still find a way to make it work. Anything can happen and I wish you both the best of luck!
Author zerovandez Posted November 11, 2010 Author Posted November 11, 2010 Wow that's very similar. In fact, I will aslo be heading to NYC on December 27th! I really want to discuss the situation and what we both on this next trip. Do you think that it's a good idea to bring it up? Or is it too soon? It's great to hear success stories or work in progress stories with LDR relationships. I think I'm onto something good and will hold on!
folieadeux Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 Wow that's very similar. In fact, I will aslo be heading to NYC on December 27th! I really want to discuss the situation and what we both on this next trip. Do you think that it's a good idea to bring it up? Or is it too soon? It's great to hear success stories or work in progress stories with LDR relationships. I think I'm onto something good and will hold on! Only you will be able to tell if the time is right. For me and my SO, things progressed quickly and we were both more than okay with that. Different people require different things. Just be sure you're moving at a pace that you are both comfortable with and ready for and everything else will fall into place.
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