Pepper Potts Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 How long would you guys think it takes to grieve and heal from a 2 year relationship? We broke up last week on Thursday, and already I feel better. I mean, the end was a long time coming because we kept arguing over the same things repeatedly, and couples counseling just made it more clear for us that we could not work. I want marriage and family someday, he does not (we are both 25 years old). So by the time the breakup actually happened I think we were mostly accepting of it and almost over it. I know I deserve to find happiness with someone who wants those things, and he deserves to be with someone who is content to just never formally commit. Neither of us are wrong--it was just a difference that couldn't be compromised without huge resentment. I'm just ready to go on with life, find the person I deserve, and be happy. I don't want to waste months grieving because there's a "rule" of it taking half the time you were in a relationship to get over one or silliness like that. I have a good friend who was married, then divorced, then literally 3 months later found the TRUE love of her life, where it TRULY works for them without a lot of work, or struggle. I'm not a rebound type so I'm the last person you'll find out at bars, or already on dating websites, or whatever. I'm more than happy to take it slow, date different people, and figure things out. So, thoughts? How did you guys deal? How long did it take you?
Ajax Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 It takes as long as it takes. And it's different for everyone. Some people move on more easily and quickly than others. I think it also depends on the intensity of the relationship as much as the length. I've been in longer relationships with girls that I wasn't compatible with that were easier to get over than shorter relationships that were very intense. I think in your case it might be a bit easier since you saw the end comimg and had time to "grieve" the relationship before it actually ended.
just1guy Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 Ajax is right..there is no real official time period. Who ever had it already planted in their mind will get past it faster while the other person who got off guard will go thru it. Plus, how much the relationship means to that person can affect the time as well. When my ex left me after two years, she found someone else a month later, and it took me about ten months to get over her the proper way (no rebound).
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