How do I know if he "loves" me when he tells me?, What can I do do find out??????

[UnconditionalLOVE]

I am a 17 year old girl from Canada and I am so very much confused about what I should do about my current relationship....? I don't know how to tell if my boyfriend for 5 months now is the right guy for me, I wonder every night if he still feels the same as he did when we first met, I feel as though I can't be without him and we had a talk last night in his car about my parents saying I can't stay the night at his house anymore, and he was telling me how much it sucks because now he has to bring me home everynight... I was expecting him to say something as to yeah i miss waking up beside you or anything like that but coming out and saying "oh yeah I know now I HAVE to drive you home now" and it made me feel as though it wasen't worth the struggle to take me home.....He should want to see me and if it means having to pick me up and drop me off then what is the complaining about???...I just feel so much for him that I don't know what to do anymore....I Love him with all my heart and I feel he does not feel the same about me anymore.....I just want him to reassure me sometimes when I need it ...be there for me, and when he tells me he loves me and wants to be with me for a long time and tell "our kids" about the two of us someday and I want that someday with him too but lately he has not made me feel like that special girl I was in the summer, when I was playing hard to get...and now its as if he takes our relationship for grantite or something... I told him in the car last night that I love him with all my heart as I do all the time and he's like "we are only 17" and I was thinking to myself well you say it to me all the time and say it over again if I don't say it back to you right then.....Then I told him well then stop telling me you love me if you don't mean it...then he says to me "well everyone says it"...NO not everyone says it I told him Then I repeated myself..."If you dont mean it then stop telling me that you do.....

 

I don't know what to say or do anymore....Can we really be "in love" or can we not....How can i telll WHen will I know ...whats the sign???

 

When we go off to College I want to be together then... I do not want to have the same college relationship with some idiot that i dont know anything about ....I am his first serious girlfrind and it hurts me to think he may not like me anymore.....

 

What do I do !!!!!!!!??????????

 

Write me back someone -anyone -PLEASE! ...

 

unconditionalLOVE

[moimeme]

Sorry to be the bearer of bad news but it is very, very, VERY common that, in the early stages of a relationship, people think they are in love, whether they are 17 or 37 or 67. The feelings feel real and so they say what they feel. Problem is that a lot of the early 'love' is not the real article. It can be any one of a bunch of things and can feel exactly like love, but it isn't.

 

Your bf is right; 17 is very young to make lifetime decisions, certainly to pick your partner for life. The mistake people make is in believing that the first protestations of love mean that that love will last a lifetime. The chances are very poor that will happen. Now, if the love lasts for a couple of years and the feelings increase rather than fade, you can say for sure you have love.