Author fun2bewith Posted November 11, 2010 Author Posted November 11, 2010 It was something said to me by a friend, and a quote by Paul Coelho, I believe: "Change.But start slowly, because direction is more important than speed." Thanks for that!
Banker Chick Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 We've been broken up for 3 months but complete NC for 30 days although I had to go back and count since I don't pay much attention to it anymore. It's so nice to not have it consume my thoughts like it used to. I actually went on a date today with a guy I found I was attracted to and we have a second date scheduled for tomorrow night. The ex is quickly becoming a distant memory!
Author fun2bewith Posted November 12, 2010 Author Posted November 12, 2010 I actually went on a date today with a guy I found I was attracted to and we have a second date scheduled for tomorrow night. Good on you! The same here I also have another date with a girl I am attracted to...Congrats on 3 months NC... By the way I like your quote: "you wil never find the right person until you let go of the wrong one"
carhill Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 I think my NC record was 14 years almost to the day, starting back before some of the posters here were born. Breaking NC would make my former MW an OW and write a whole new chapter in life. Current number with her is 13 months, 26 days. During the first go-around, I'd say it was a good two years before I started making meaningful progress with healing. I keep the definitive LS guide to no contact in my signature line as a reminder of the value of the process, even though it's really not a factor in my life anymore. Best wishes for those on the NC path to find the healing they seek.
northern_sky Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 It's been about two months, and boy is it worth it. 99% over him.
EricaH329 Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 It's been about two months, and boy is it worth it. 99% over him. Woot! Only 1% left to go! At this rate, it should be what... another day? Maybe? :bunny:
Author fun2bewith Posted November 12, 2010 Author Posted November 12, 2010 26. Had to check my emails and use a calendar to count it. You are on 28 days today aren't you? Congratulations man!
PegNosePete Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 You are on 28 days today aren't you? Congratulations man! Yes I am, thanks Going to break it on Monday though, to ask why she hasn't returned the divorce acknowledgement.
heartbroken301 Posted November 13, 2010 Posted November 13, 2010 (edited) Well its been almost 6months and i have almost forgotten her , but sometime when i`m alone the the demons come out , but frankly I`ve forgotten what she looks like , feels like and how she sounds . I`ve gotten a huge upgrade i`m beginning to see a younger lady and it`s just time for me to ask her out , i dont wanna rush into it just take it slow. For me , I was 11yrs with her the memories do fade away , the drug or the Ex Drug is vanishing slowly from me and im really looking forward to the the new lady in my life it only gets better ..... keep your chin up always ..... Edited November 13, 2010 by heartbroken301
cozenedindigo Posted November 13, 2010 Posted November 13, 2010 28 days NC and exactly one month since the breakup. That's right, went completely NC almost immediately. Best thing I ever did. In fact, only right thing I ever did as far as THAT so-called relationship is concerned. And he knows not to come back to mess around with my head, because I made it abundantly clear it was all or nothing. [And by then I knew he was nothing ]
cozenedindigo Posted November 13, 2010 Posted November 13, 2010 28 days NC today, one month since the breakup. Best thing I ever did. In fact, the only right thing I did as far as THAT so-called relationship is concerned. Best part is, he knows not to mess around with me right now because I made it perfectly clear that it was all or nothing. [Knowing fully well by then that he was a nothing ]
LoveTruthChaos Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 7 months, 1 week NC - since the day he broke up with me. I'm 95% over him. The remaining 5% crops up when I have PMS and at no other time, so I can safely say it's just hormones, but it's still a hurdle. NC for life.
Author fun2bewith Posted November 15, 2010 Author Posted November 15, 2010 Well its been almost 6months and i have almost forgotten her , but sometime when i`m alone the the demons come out , but frankly I`ve forgotten what she looks like , feels like and how she sounds . I`ve gotten a huge upgrade i`m beginning to see a younger lady and it`s just time for me to ask her out , i dont wanna rush into it just take it slow. For me , I was 11yrs with her the memories do fade away , the drug or the Ex Drug is vanishing slowly from me and im really looking forward to the the new lady in my life it only gets better ..... keep your chin up always ..... I think maybe life only gives you the problems that you know how to handle..cause you are strong!! congratulations on 6 months NC!
Author fun2bewith Posted November 15, 2010 Author Posted November 15, 2010 28 days NC and exactly one month since the breakup. That's right, went completely NC almost immediately. Best thing I ever did. In fact, only right thing I ever did as far as THAT so-called relationship is concerned. And he knows not to come back to mess around with my head, because I made it abundantly clear it was all or nothing. [And by then I knew he was nothing ] I think there was more that you did right! Give yourself more credit...29 days for you today!!! :bunny:
Author fun2bewith Posted November 15, 2010 Author Posted November 15, 2010 7 months, 1 week NC - since the day he broke up with me. I'm 95% over him. The remaining 5% crops up when I have PMS and at no other time, so I can safely say it's just hormones, but it's still a hurdle. NC for life. More than 7 Months !!! WOW you've got will power! After how many months did it get better?
Author fun2bewith Posted November 15, 2010 Author Posted November 15, 2010 NC since June 20th. w00t w00t Almost 5 Months! And you survived! Some people's relationships lasts only 5 months! You have arrived...
Author fun2bewith Posted November 15, 2010 Author Posted November 15, 2010 It's been about two months, and boy is it worth it. 99% over him. You sound happy...I guess after a while you realize that you are better of without the other person...It makes me happy to see so many people that made it this far...It makes me want to do the same...Congratulations...
Margot Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 Hello there! It has been 4 months of me not contacting him but I have found that I can't heal completely if he continues making contact with me. He has been sending me (on a weekly basis for 4 months, man he is strong) text messages and e-mails but I haven't reply to any of them. He broke up with me, broke my heart and I have been dealing with healing my heart. Is not easy ignoring his messages but I know that anything good can come of me replying to them. He may be with the girl I think he cheated on me. And I'm just not stupid to be his back-up plan. Sticking to the ignoring his messages.
LoveTruthChaos Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 More than 7 Months !!! WOW you've got will power! After how many months did it get better? Thanks, but it's not will power, it's self respect. It got better after 6 months. Just when I thought it was at its worst, everything turned around for the better in an instant, mysteriously.
YellowShark Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 Six months NC after 7 years together. It's still really tough, but why would I want to give in to a person who cheated on me twice? What would I gain? It would only validate her misguided sense of power over me. Yet after seeing someone every day for 7 years.... well it's just tough to erase that and move on... takes time. It's funny but I should be mad at her, instead I am sad that she has so totally lost her way in life that she feels the need to hook up with MM - (who are only using her for sex) - to find validation. I guess they are safe for her because they are married. I wish her next man the best of luck, because he will also be dealing with her serial infidelity at some point as well.
Cuchara2 Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 I've been on NC for about 2 months now, however recently she tries to talk to me and well I reply but don't take it any further by asking her something back or trying to continue the conversation.. Idk it throws me off seeing as she broke up with me. Can anyone advise me on what's happening/what to do?
Author fun2bewith Posted November 16, 2010 Author Posted November 16, 2010 I've been on NC for about 2 months now, however recently she tries to talk to me and well I reply but don't take it any further by asking her something back or trying to continue the conversation.. Idk it throws me off seeing as she broke up with me. Can anyone advise me on what's happening/what to do? :cool:Ye I think 2 months NC are pretty tough! You have made it this far!!! Great!
Author fun2bewith Posted November 16, 2010 Author Posted November 16, 2010 Six months NC after 7 years together. It's still really tough, but why would I want to give in to a person who cheated on me twice? What would I gain? It would only validate her misguided sense of power over me. Yet after seeing someone every day for 7 years.... well it's just tough to erase that and move on... takes time. It's funny but I should be mad at her, instead I am sad that she has so totally lost her way in life that she feels the need to hook up with MM - (who are only using her for sex) - to find validation. I guess they are safe for her because they are married. I wish her next man the best of luck, because he will also be dealing with her serial infidelity at some point as well. [sIZE=3]I feel you! I think to try and erase her, would only make you deny your existence for 7 years...I do believe you can figuratively file the memories and pack it away until you are ready to look at it again...6 Months, you are doing great! One day when all the hurt is gone, you can have peace of mind again…Be strong! [/sIZE]
dbmystinkbug Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 It's been a little over nine weeks of zero contact with the ex for me. Unfortunately at this point it still just feels like a test of endurance. Right now I can't imagine a day when I won't be wondering if she thinks about me, or care if I never hear from her again. I wish I could be more upbeat but after four months since the breakup with limited contact, and more than two months no contact, I still see no light at the end of the tunnel.
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