Shadowburn Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 Well that IS the main thing, but I really like to take things more head on, and NC doesn't help with that. Maybe some people need it but I hate the way it's treated like some sort of goal unto itself here, as witnessed by this thread. Far better to have a party about "I solved my personal issues and don't need NC anymore", don't ya think? Ok, to make things "head on", someone you loved with all your heart and gave yours all to, told you to f@$ck off. What do you do next? Yes, you go NC. You do it to break the terrible cycle of wanting, wishing, hoping, waiting and all that total waste of energy spent on someone who's clearly shown they are not answer to your prayers. Many dumpers are circling back because they don't want to be with you, but don't want you to move on and be with someone else either - they want you as a back up plan in case their next relationship won't work out ot whenever they feel like they need an instant ego boost. So NC cuts it off too.
Author fun2bewith Posted November 10, 2010 Author Posted November 10, 2010 Wow! I'm impressed in two ways. 1. I had to go to my calender and physically count the days, when before, boy, I knew how many...and 2. It's 47 days!!!!!!!!! **** man, that's almost 1.5 months, and I AM starting to feel better, after 2.5 years of ****, that feels good. Had a bad few days recently, but I'm definatley feeling, well, more detached. I think I'm finally moving on. This NC REALLY works, LMFAO! If only I knew this 2.5 years ago. :-) Keep it up chaps, DO NOT CAVE! WOW YE!!! Thats awesome! Congratulations !
Author fun2bewith Posted November 10, 2010 Author Posted November 10, 2010 it will be EXACTLY a month tomorrow for me wow, i am actually quite proud of myself p.s. does it still count if he was trying to contact me and i only responded by text message to tell him to stop? I think if you really meant it when you said stop, then yes it does count...but it is still better to ignore...In fact he broke contact first not you! COOL! keep it up!!!
Author fun2bewith Posted November 10, 2010 Author Posted November 10, 2010 I should be about 2 months into NC, but I have to break NC cause of a debt I have to pay back, should be over soon. But to all out there NC and getting on with your life has really really helped...and as sacg says DO NOT CAVE. Congratulations HEART! You have made it !
Author fun2bewith Posted November 10, 2010 Author Posted November 10, 2010 25 days!!!!!!! 3 more days! You have already gone through 3 days 8 times before... 3X8 = 24 days
Author fun2bewith Posted November 10, 2010 Author Posted November 10, 2010 I think I have the most so far. . 65 days!! Impressive teach me how!
Leandro Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 Impressive teach me how! lol, just take one day at a time and focus on yourself.
Author fun2bewith Posted November 10, 2010 Author Posted November 10, 2010 56 days nc I hate this rollacoster. You have made it twice! I think its not only the time that heals but what you do with your time...If a person can remember how happy they were before they even knew the person existed, and they can focus on that happy feeling, then isn't it easy then to think that you can live again without that someone?
alwayshoping Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 Don't get me wrong the past 56 days have helped but at times I still feel so hurt she left me. I really feel hurt she hasn't even missed me! I'm happy without her and am loving life but thinking about how little an impression I left with her really hurts! I mean so much reminds me of her and makes me smile, everyday I have wanted to call her but with everyday I think well it's been 56 days etc why break it now when she clearly doesn't give a damn. I guess I just expected her to show some compassion. My best friend in the world and she really didn't get me like I thought she did! You know?
Author fun2bewith Posted November 10, 2010 Author Posted November 10, 2010 Pathetic might be too strong, but it's sort of sad. To be clear, it's sad that "it works", why should it matter? Seems like a way to be weak instead of toughening up. Let’s talk battle plans... If you are losing an actual war and your only option is to retrieve and look at the problem from an objective point of view, would you rather retrieve or would you just keep losing men to show how brave you are and then die anyway? One word : Afghanistan
Author fun2bewith Posted November 10, 2010 Author Posted November 10, 2010 1 month and 3 weeks of NC QUOTE] Hang in there! 7 weeks? You have done almost 4 times more than me...
Author fun2bewith Posted November 10, 2010 Author Posted November 10, 2010 BTW -- I've lost count, but if I were to guess i'd say around 3 months. 3 Months? You see and after a while you stop counting the days....Great work...
112233 Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 Let’s talk battle plans... If you are losing an actual war and your only option is to retrieve and look at the problem from an objective point of view, would you rather retrieve or would you just keep losing men to show how brave you are and then die anyway? One word : Afghanistan One word: I'd learn the difference between retrieve and retreat.
alwayshoping Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 I would learn to differentiate between one word and one sentence. Whilst your in the mood to learn!
Author fun2bewith Posted November 10, 2010 Author Posted November 10, 2010 Don't get me wrong the past 56 days have helped but at times I still feel so hurt she left me. I really feel hurt she hasn't even missed me! I'm happy without her and am loving life but thinking about how little an impression I left with her really hurts! I mean so much reminds me of her and makes me smile, everyday I have wanted to call her but with everyday I think well it's been 56 days etc why break it now when she clearly doesn't give a damn. I guess I just expected her to show some compassion. My best friend in the world and she really didn't get me like I thought she did! You know? I am feeling you...I have similar case now...Well think about the butterfly effect... even if you made only an minute effect on her life..does not matter how little, you have changed the course of her life...
112233 Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 I would learn to differentiate between one word and one sentence. Whilst your in the mood to learn! "Retrieve" is one word, he points out for the numerically challenged.
Author fun2bewith Posted November 10, 2010 Author Posted November 10, 2010 One word: I'd learn the difference between retrieve and retreat. Ye sorry man, English is not my first language...
alwayshoping Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 One word: I'd learn the difference between retrieve and retreat. That's one word in the sentence. No quotations. Numerically challenged indeed.
112233 Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 That's one word in the sentence. No quotations. Numerically challenged indead. Indeed. *nods*
alwayshoping Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 I am feeling you...I have similar case now...Well think about the butterfly effect... even if you made only an minute effect on her life..does not matter how little, you have changed the course of her life... I really hope so. I really think I am always going to love her just because she was the first girl I fell in love with. Oh well. Time will do the trick I hope.
112233 Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 I really hope so. I really think I am always going to love her just because she was the first girl I fell in love with. Oh well. Time will do the trick I hope. You know I stayed in contact with the first girl I ever fell in love with. I was not going to marry her until I could support us properly, and she was in a hurry to get out of her parents house. She married one of my acquaintances shortly after we broke up and 20 years later she's divorced, living in borderline poverty, and has a teenage daughter of her own who is a single mom. Chin up. Some things are for the best.
sacg Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 chink in the armour? Maybe you are a little bitter 112233? Love your one sentence retorts tho. :-) So very dry!
112233 Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 chink in the armour? Maybe you are a little bitter 112233? Love your one sentence retorts tho. :-) So very dry! I might be bitter, hard to say, I prefer "realistic", but I'm surely dry, like a good wine. If I am bitter it's not about this woman, in fact I sympathize with her current condition but I also thank my luck that I'm not partnered with someone who routinely makes such poor life choices.
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