sacg Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 I hear that! I truly do. but you carry some bitterness man, i can tell. Keep the responses coming, that one was quicker than usual???? just think that everyone's not like you, and don't hijack threads that people need!
112233 Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 ... don't hijack threads that people need! NC for the sake of racking up NC days IS stupid. Sorry. Better to concentrate on "NC allowed me too ..." if one "needs" a thread. IMO.
sacg Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 Boy, your tough, and i don't think you truly get it, as obviously wise as you are. Till the next time.............................
Author fun2bewith Posted November 11, 2010 Author Posted November 11, 2010 ............................... 48 days....I like that...you can write a book titled: "48 days later by sacg"...keep it up!!!
Author fun2bewith Posted November 11, 2010 Author Posted November 11, 2010 NC for the sake of racking up NC days IS stupid. Sorry. Better to concentrate on "NC allowed me too ..." if one "needs" a thread. IMO. Just want to thank you , because of your replies, this thread is getting a lot of hits... Something tells me you have great influence on people...If I am right, you would have made a great impact on your x...So if you had to leave this thread, you will be missed...Doesn't it make sense then that once you go NC, she will miss you? You will come back more prepared if you need to..or realize that you do not need to... Step 1 NC Step 2 Step 3 After NC for 28 days or more , you decide what the next steps will be... I am looking FW to see you reach 28 days...
AgeOfUninnocence Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 NC for the sake of racking up NC days IS stupid. Sorry. Better to concentrate on "NC allowed me too ..." if one "needs" a thread. IMO. I personally used to find that counting my NC days made me feel strong. Having a higher number was almost like a prize, something to count up to. Yes, it was for the wrong reasons, but if it got me to continue my NC and not be bothering the ex like an idiot, then why not use that motivation? Eventually that fades and you just find yourself not remembering the days of NC. I'd say I've had four rounds of NC, although these last two times it's not really on purpose, both of us have been busy and just haven't found the need to talk to each other, which is always a positive thing. To be honest, I still do sometimes want to talk to him and just catch up on life since he was a good friend of mine before we dated, but I just have so many other things going on right now that I do feel like it can wait. Right now I'm procrastinating on homework so I'm literally going in my calendar and counting days... oh the procrastination... Round One: 37 days Round Two: 42 days Round Three: 40 days Round Four: 39 days and counting... Huh, look at how close all those numbers are! All of those periods have been broken by him making contact, or a mutual friend gathering, so I almost wonder if he's going to pop up again soon... hopefully not, I'm too busy for that!
Author fun2bewith Posted November 11, 2010 Author Posted November 11, 2010 I personally used to find that counting my NC days made me feel strong. Having a higher number was almost like a prize, something to count up to. Yes, it was for the wrong reasons, but if it got me to continue my NC and not be bothering the ex like an idiot, then why not use that motivation? Eventually that fades and you just find yourself not remembering the days of NC. I'd say I've had four rounds of NC, although these last two times it's not really on purpose, both of us have been busy and just haven't found the need to talk to each other, which is always a positive thing. To be honest, I still do sometimes want to talk to him and just catch up on life since he was a good friend of mine before we dated, but I just have so many other things going on right now that I do feel like it can wait. Right now I'm procrastinating on homework so I'm literally going in my calendar and counting days... oh the procrastination... Round One: 37 days Round Two: 42 days Round Three: 40 days Round Four: 39 days and counting... Huh, look at how close all those numbers are! All of those periods have been broken by him making contact, or a mutual friend gathering, so I almost wonder if he's going to pop up again soon... hopefully not, I'm too busy for that! My word look at that! It's forming an algorithm! I wonder if there could be a social scientific explanation for it...Who knows! Hey great on you! Doesn't it feel great when if happens, when he contacts you! It's almost like you can get closure knowing that you made such an impact on him! You will succeed!
bl22 Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 I think i've got 28 days, not sure, havent kept count to be honest. Broke up start of october, 2 weeks of pleading/begging...then i decided its useless.. so i guess its been a month - 5 weeks......hmmm really missing her tonight
havehope Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 I'm not on 28 days yet, but every day is one step closer to being 100% over them and being happy. I think we should all be proud of ourselves when we fight the urges (and we know how strong they can be) to break NC. Great thread idea - stay strong everyone! You're worth it
AgeOfUninnocence Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 (edited) My word look at that! It's forming an algorithm! I wonder if there could be a social scientific explanation for it...Who knows! Hey great on you! Doesn't it feel great when if happens, when he contacts you! It's almost like you can get closure knowing that you made such an impact on him! You will succeed! I know, it's really strange, isn't it? Although now that I think about it, I feel like it's more coincidence. The first time he broke it and it was our first civilized conversation since the breakup and another incident around it, the second time was broken because we both went to see some mutual friends, and the third time I had a facebook status that he got really pissed about.... so it's probably more of a coincidence of timing. Still really interesting though... And skydiveaddict, look at you! 14 months is impressive. I'd like to have that number someday. Also I have to wonder, why did you pick the number 28 days? Anything significant about that, besides that it's nearly a month? Edited November 11, 2010 by AgeOfUninnocence
Ajax Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 I'm at nine weeks. I still miss her but have no urge to call anymore. It's worked so well that I'm thinking I'll go NC with my next girlfriend too, whoever she might be
habs53 Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 Its now been over 5 months. That includes deleting her from facebook and msn. If your going to go NC, go all the way or nothing.
Author fun2bewith Posted November 11, 2010 Author Posted November 11, 2010 14 months...... 14 Months? That was the duration of my relationship! Wow!
Author fun2bewith Posted November 11, 2010 Author Posted November 11, 2010 I'm at nine weeks. I still miss her but have no urge to call anymore. It's worked so well that I'm thinking I'll go NC with my next girlfriend too, whoever she might be It sounds like the song from "xzibit" when he says: "tonight I might meet my next x-wife". Awesome! I somedays look at her number on my phone and just think how I want to shout and make her feel my pain...but then I realize she is not in the same mindset as me, and my words might not effect her at all and it will just cause me more pain...Good on you for making it this far!
Author fun2bewith Posted November 11, 2010 Author Posted November 11, 2010 Its now been over 5 months. That includes deleting her from facebook and msn. If your going to go NC, go all the way or nothing. To think that so many of you made it this far is such a motivation for me and everone in the process...Congratulations!
Author fun2bewith Posted November 11, 2010 Author Posted November 11, 2010 (edited) Also I have to wonder, why did you pick the number 28 days? Anything significant about that, besides that it's nearly a month? In every country I visited I found a piece of me but me always missing that final piece. I thought she was the final piece of my life puzzle. A part of me still believes this… 28 The age I was when I met her… 28 The number of countries in the world I went to before I met her… 28 The number of countries in which I wanted to tell her how I love her… 28 The number of days I am willing to spent to get over her… Edited November 11, 2010 by fun2bewith Spelling Mistake
stopthemadness Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 Today is 8 days of n/c of any kind! Am soo proud! cant wait untell it gets to 28 days too!!!
nea clementine Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 33 days and counting. I don't feel great. I don't feel empowered. I still have issues within me I need to resolve. But I do know I'm going somewhere. I do trust the process. After all, direction is more important than speed.
Author fun2bewith Posted November 11, 2010 Author Posted November 11, 2010 Today is 8 days of n/c of any kind! Am soo proud! cant wait untell it gets to 28 days too!!! You know day 8 for me was the hardest! So you have made it to 'day 8'...You are still fresh but I can feel you are positive...Keep it up!
Author fun2bewith Posted November 11, 2010 Author Posted November 11, 2010 After all, direction is more important than speed. May I use your quote on FB, cause it is speaking to me?
PegNosePete Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 Also I have to wonder, why did you pick the number 28 days? Anything significant about that, besides that it's nearly a month? Exes turn into zombies after 28 days. 28 days later...
sacg Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 I'm at nine weeks. I still miss her but have no urge to call anymore. It's worked so well that I'm thinking I'll go NC with my next girlfriend too, whoever she might be LOL Ajax, I would'nt class that as positive thinking.
nea clementine Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 May I use your quote on FB, cause it is speaking to me? It was something said to me by a friend, and a quote by Paul Coelho, I believe: "Change.But start slowly, because direction is more important than speed."
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