lexystar Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 Hi, I have posted earlier in -the other man/woman about an affair I had with a sort of sex addict. At the moment, I am working through getting over the affair emotionally, at the same time... I cannot but help sense that my sex life with my husband has been affected, as now I am able to make comparisons while before the affair, I couldn't (my husband was my only sex partner). How do I create sexual chemistry with my husband? how do I teach him what I like without hurting his feelings?
pyroguy Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 Hi, I have posted earlier in -the other man/woman about an affair I had with a sort of sex addict. At the moment, I am working through getting over the affair emotionally, at the same time... I cannot but help sense that my sex life with my husband has been affected, as now I am able to make comparisons while before the affair, I couldn't (my husband was my only sex partner). How do I create sexual chemistry with my husband? how do I teach him what I like without hurting his feelings? Lexy, You may not want to listen to me since I'm now very pessimistic about marriage or even relationships. It just seems like everyone is either cheating, fantasizing about others incessantly, bringing other men for their wives etc.,. It just seems like relationships are now silly. We should all just swing and orgy as singles. that said, you have now opened pandora's box, and this what I say to those who want to swing too. Just like you now compare, it's silly to think it's not about comparing and competition and getting better. Cheaters and swingers are full of it. First, do you want this sexual chemistry with your hubby? is he enough? Does the other man have attributes that the husband doesn't? Don't kid yourself, these will all be factors. I will tell you one thing. Don't assume he does not have a wild side. Some or many husbands aren't comfy being like that with their wives, and/or don't think their wives are like that. You need to somehow convet to him slowly that you are open to different things. If he is just not the type, never was, and doesn't get the hint and engage, you will never get what you want. Also, you need to make him feel like he is viable here-not be thinking of how great the other man is. He's facing a battle he cannot win, isn't he? Last, what things do you want to do? that were exciting with the other man?
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