thompscs Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 I am going to keep it simple so I can get some good advice on here. I started dating my ex girlfriend in Feb. 2008 and from the time we started dating, we had a big physical attraction and emotional attraction but religion became an issue. She wanted me to give up some bad habits that are frowned upon by religion and we spent the better part of a year and a half getting back together and breaking up because at that time we loved each other but were unwilling to change for each other. She says I broke her heart twice which is true and we have also said some mean things to each other. I have not seen her for a year but we have communicated off and on via email when I would do impromptu things like send her flowers or something and she would e-mail me to say that was sweet and that her life is complicated right now and that maybe we could talk at some point. She did admit earlier this year she was dating somebody else and had "fallen in love with him." But why would she still be accepting flowers from me until recently if she was dating this guy? I felt like I was making progress and I was trying to change my ways. But then I went to Myrtle Beach and got drunk one night and called her. And since then, she hasn't responded to any of my e-mails and has told me to never contact her again in any form. I did send her a teddy bear recently and confessed my love for her still. She has told me never to contact her again in the past and then after I give her a few months to cool off she starts talking to me again in e-mail. She is also 5 years older than me. I am 28. I know I need to give up the drinking and work on myself right now but my question is when is the right time to contact her? A year. Two. Five? I told her in my last e-mail to her 2 months ago that I enjoy her company and conversation and hope we can talk at some point and be friends but that I would not contact her anymore. So that's the deal. I've dug myself a huge hole. How do I even begin to fix this?
durkadurka Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 A monkey makes sure they have a firm grasp on the next branch before they let go of the last one.
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