USCGAviator Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 So after 9 years of getting fed on a silver platter iv'e been tossed out to fend for myself. The independence I feel is awesome, and I don't have any intention of feeling "tied down" anytime soon. I don't BS and I'm very honest with the women I meet. I tell them I'm not interested in a GF at this point. I'm quite surprised how "on call" and "available" they are with me. It's also quite relieving to not worry about when and how I'm gonna break up with them if we were dating. Can anyone relate to this, or any thoughts on how I present myself.
Author USCGAviator Posted November 10, 2010 Author Posted November 10, 2010 No haha. I actually was the sole provider. I meant my other head getting fed
jenniferlm Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 No haha. I actually was the sole provider. I meant my other head getting fed As long as you are honest about not *ever* wanting to date them in a serious way from the get go AND you are honest about the fact that you are going to keep dating other women as well as her you shouldn't run into too many problems/drama. Most men aren't that honest! They don't say out front that they are only out for a piece of tail. Sooo Kudos to you for that. However, it would be nice if all this was said with some tact/class. You could word it like..."It's not that I've just gotten divorced or need a couple months or a couple years, I just don't want any kind of a relationship or want that with you and I. Not that I don't want to see you or that I don't think you're great. I just want to be able to keep my freedom, and my independence. I also want you to know that because I will be seeing other people, that you are more than free to do this as well with no drama or issues from me. This way, she will know from the get-go what she is getting into. You will have kept your integrity, and by being so honest with women, you will end up saving yourself a lot of drama. Heck, I even think if more men were this honest, they'd get laid MORE.
Author USCGAviator Posted November 10, 2010 Author Posted November 10, 2010 (edited) Jen I'm much more tactful than I originally posted haha. I just didn't want to quote the entire demo date convo. But it's similar to what you wrote. I'm fun playful and straight forward with them. It's been very rewarding for my sex life and keeping things drama free. Edited November 10, 2010 by USCGAviator
jenniferlm Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 Well then I can't see you having any issues then! As far as how you "present" yourself, when people ask if you are dating someone, simply say you're just a confirmed bachelor. I have ONE male friend who does this, and gets dates quite a lot. He tells them all he has NO intention of dating them seriously or moving them in or EVER getting married to ANYONE. He doesn't take them to work functions, family get togethers, weddings etc. Doesn't introduce them to co-workers, his kids, or anything like that. In this way, he's never even hinting to any of these women that there is any kind of real relationship.
Author USCGAviator Posted November 10, 2010 Author Posted November 10, 2010 Nice. I find it a good honest way to keep both of us happy. And when I find the woman I finally want to keep I won't leave a trail of disgruntled angry women in my wake. Glad to hear from a woman on this matter. Thanks
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