scared to move on

[jokesoflife]

Is this just my problem or does everyone dread at the idea of moving on finding someone else..fearing that the same mistake will happen the next time we put ourselves out in the love game. I saw some of my ex and his new girlfriends pic..and I feel like if I was in his shoes I would have done the same thing.Its not like he had or will be currently having feelings for me and watching him move on is painful when I'm sitting here sobbing over how unfair life is on me.My friends around me are also struggling like me to find a boyfriend and are scared to move on,they somehow discourage me even more. What do most girls do in such situations..I'm still wondering how to move on?Where do I find the confidence to find another guy who is inexperienced(Yeah I have never even kissed my ex) like me and is looking for a real relationship?:love:My parents are indians and I don't want to get trapped up in settling for arranged mairraige in the future

[thatsonlyme]

Yes, I guess everybody does, but it will pass. Now I'm already looking forward to that initial passion that one can only experience in the beginning of the relationship!

 

You didn't say how old are you but I'm not sure if I can really understand what kind of relationship you had? Some sort of platonic boyfriend/girlfriend relationship that I've never heard of? I mean you never even kissed him, what made him you boyfriend? Maybe it's just a cultural difference but for me relationship without passion is not a relationship, it's just a friendship.

 

Normally girls have it a lot easier when it comes to picking up guys but it seems as though you're looking for somebody with very uncommon traditional values and unless you live surrounded by people who share the same values you're out of luck. I'm a guy and if a girl doesn't wanna kiss she belongs in a friend category, nothing more.

 

You can either become more open and accept that the world we live in has different values or settle down for prearranged marriage in spirit of your traditions. I know it's not the answer you want to hear but I can't see it any other way. Think about it, you may think about your innocence as a virtue, but most guys want to at least make out with their girlfriends and if you're over 20 it will be hard to find a guy who want's anything less than sex! There is plenty of girls out there ready to have sex, what do you have to offer?

 

I don't wanna sound like a d**k, it's not all about sex, but for me and I believe most other guys (and girls) it's a very important aspect of a relationship.