northern_sky Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 We never had an exclusive relationship but we dated for about two months, only seeing each other once every week or two. He didn't want a relationship, I did. But our interactions weren't just sexual. I felt a strong intellectual bond with him. I think part of the difficulty in getting over him is feeling like I never fully had him on an emotional level. He doesn't know I don't want to hang out one on one with him again, at least not for a long time. He is most likely going to contact me again next week. I am scared that when he does I will cave and see him. I also fear that if I send him a I don't want to see you again message, I will just go back on that later on and dig an even deeper hole for myself. I am scared I will tell him I don't want to see him when he contacts me and then cave later. So it doesn't feel "over." He is in my thoughts very often. I keep thinking about the other girls he is probably meeting and feeling sick. How do I get over him given that lack of resolution?
shayan Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 good I'm glad you want to be over him. Your want is the most important thing. The best way to move on is by focusing on new things. Invest your mind and body into new efforts and yourself.
Kamille Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 You tell him the truth. That you understand that you two are just seeing casually but that you find yourself developing feelings for him. Then you wait for his answer, which will likely be a variation on the theme of "I like you but I'm not ready for a relationship right now". At which point you say: "I understand. It would be best for me if we stopped seeing each other romantically then, but I do hope we'll still be friends". The end.
skydiveaddict Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 You must to those things you are afraid to do. You mentioned texting him. Don't do it. Delete his # so you can't text him. If he texts you delete it without reading it. Better yet, block his # so he can't. Delete his email address too. Above all, if your are a subscriber to the insanity that is facebook, block him, unfriend him (what ever they call it). Better yet, delete your account. You can always start a new one once you're over him. These things are hard to do I know, but you must start your life over without him. You must believe in yourself, you can do it. And soon, someone else will come along that really loves you.
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