pete24 Posted November 9, 2010 Posted November 9, 2010 Hi all, I am new to this so please go easy on me! I am a 24 year old male and recently split from my gf of 3 years after she told me that she wasnt ready to settle down. We broke up 2 months ago but I am still devasted that she has left me. I understand why she wanted to break up and do not blame her at all. In fact I am glad that she was honest with me as opposed to stringing things on when she wasnt actually happy. What really hurts is spending the nights alone with nobody to hold and be intimate with. I lay in bed for hours wishing I just had someone to chat too and my heart sinks everytime I wake up with nobody besides me. Im hoping that by posting this I might meet someone who knows what I am going through and can maybe help me overcome the painful loneliness. Thanks for taking the time to read this.
tgr172 Posted November 9, 2010 Posted November 9, 2010 Believe me, there are lots of us that feel exactly what you are going through. We all thought our situation was unique and different... and it was to an extent but the feelings were and are the same. What you described was, for me, the hardest part... Alone without my friend that I was use to getting affection from. Very empty and to be honest afraid. Man Im with ya. Know how it felt. But thats not any consolidation to you now. Some stuff That I did, and its all mental, to make me actually feel empowered and good. Some of it is a way of thinking about her. To ol the best revenge is to live well and be happy. It does make you feel less lonely. Youll get lots of advice to get over it, move on etc... all good advice but the mechanics of doing that are not as easy. Truth is when you get youre head straight and are ok and agree that the breakup is good for not only her but you she will maybe not be so sure. It somehow gives you an aura that makes her second guess herself. And I always maintain that the ex always thinks about you. Judicious use of NC along with a very jovial demeniour and confidence that you have your own positive future gives you the high ground. So with that knowlege you will not feel quite as bad cause you are now making her regret her decision. doesent always wook overnight but it does work
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