maxitwist Posted November 9, 2010 Posted November 9, 2010 Not sue if this is the right place but anyway: Theres this girl that really like, but she has a boyfriend. She undertands that i like her as weve talked about it. Strangely, hey boyfriend doesnt seem to actually like her which is what pisses me off the most because i loooove her. I was sitting her before and her bf walked by with just a wave after not seeing her allday! Ive even asked her if shes happy before and she said "i dont know". Its really baffling to me but i suppose from her view ive only know her a week or2 so i cant really expect her to break upwith her bf that shes been seeing (off and on) for 18months Is there anything more i can do to or am i going to have to accept friendship and hope the **** hits the fan? Ive been thinking maybe i should go talk to her bf and see what he thinks of her.. but i dont want to risk destroying everything if i say something wrong.
TaraMaiden Posted November 9, 2010 Posted November 9, 2010 Write her a note. "I really, really like you. If things were different, I would love to go out with you, and be your guy. but I can't because you have a boyfriend. I don't know how really serious you are with him, whether you really love him, or what your relationship is like. if you are really serious about him, and I have no hope, then tell me, and I will back off, but still be a good friend to you. But if ever things don't work out between you and him - I'm here, and waiting for you. because I would do whatever it takes to make you happy." However, don't put your life on hold for her. if she begins to play you like a yo-yo, and goes back and forth, unsure of herself, don't agree to be the 'second option' guy.
bl22 Posted November 9, 2010 Posted November 9, 2010 How about....FINDING YOUR OWN GIRLFRIEND AND LEAVING THIS 1 ALONE these threads on this board make me sick .
TaraMaiden Posted November 9, 2010 Posted November 9, 2010 All life is here. The reasons people have happier second-time around relationships/marriages, is because the first one didn't work. It happens all the time. The forums here are full of these kinds of situations. I'm sorry, but if you don't like it - your option is either to ignore the threads - or not post.
bl22 Posted November 9, 2010 Posted November 9, 2010 Well it is because of guys like the OP which leads to many hurt people coming to this board for support and help, myself included. I dont think he realises just what kind of pain and suffering he will eventually cause. Stuff like this ruins peoples lives, can cause deep depression and even suicide...all for his selfish needs.
bl22 Posted November 9, 2010 Posted November 9, 2010 I think if the OP knew how it felt to find the true love of their life, plan their future together....then have someone actively persue her under your nose then have her go off with him......he doesnt know the feeling of being on the recieving end of that, if he did he wouldnt bother.
Author maxitwist Posted November 9, 2010 Author Posted November 9, 2010 to guy above me: i understand, but the thing is he appears not to give a toss about her. thats why i asked maybe it would be a good idea for me to talk to him and try to find out how he really feels about her
Ella whispers Posted November 9, 2010 Posted November 9, 2010 Happy people don't leave their partners. I say you tell her that you're attracted to her and take it from there. Don't get too far into the FZ or you could end up stuck.
alsk1029 Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 I think if the OP knew how it felt to find the true love of their life, plan their future together....then have someone actively persue her under your nose then have her go off with him......he doesnt know the feeling of being on the recieving end of that, if he did he wouldnt bother. I'm going to have to go and agree with this guy right here! I am guilty of trying to get someone else's girl so I can't really say much else. I will say, though, bl22, what kind of threads did you expect to find in this section?
Author maxitwist Posted December 29, 2010 Author Posted December 29, 2010 to update this; the girl has since broken up withe her boyfriend, or rather he broke up with her.. guess i should have forseen this as an inevitibility, but instead decided to mourn for a bit and then move on. So I since got a girlfriend.. but now that this girl that i felt so much for is single i think some of those feelings have started to resurface. Anyway i had previously resigned to be friends with her and we and a few others will be going out soon. so the one question ive returned to ask is. if i start feeling those feelings coming back; should i 1) embrace them or 2) beat them down as i did before?
Author maxitwist Posted December 30, 2010 Author Posted December 30, 2010 all i want to know is whether i should allow myself to feel (and then decide if i should consider seriously the possibility of breking things of with my gf) or is it to risky to even go that far? As in it will ruin things with my gf and then for all i know she doesnt even like me like that so not sure if i should even test the waters..
Karma20 Posted December 30, 2010 Posted December 30, 2010 Would you want your gf going out with a bunch of people including one boy she had strong feelings for? Probably not. The fact that you are talking about breaking up with your gf if this girl likes you means you buried your feelings for her. You never really got over her. I feel bad for your gf
Author maxitwist Posted December 30, 2010 Author Posted December 30, 2010 Would you want your gf going out with a bunch of people including one boy she had strong feelings for? Probably not. The fact that you are talking about breaking up with your gf if this girl likes you means you buried your feelings for her. You never really got over her. I feel bad for your gf You shouldnt, i treat her right, and she knows that i liked her, were all friends.. i dont know im really confused.. ok, when would be the best time to break up with her if i were to.. ? tbh i dont think i will, ill probaly just ignore the feelings.. do hope were single at the same time at some point though..
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