Iamnobody Posted November 9, 2010 Posted November 9, 2010 Truth is, its been more than a year and I'm not over my ex. Frankly, I don't think I will be for awhile. Everyone needs their own time to get over someone, maybe I just need a longer time. But there are lots of obstacles that keep getting in the way. For eg. every time I try not to think about her, someone brings her up in conversation. Like how they saw her with her new boyfriend, how despite being attached she's flirting with some other guy. It hurts. They do this because I act like I hate her but deep down I really still love her, though she's proven not to be someone who is worth my affection. What am I supposed to do? Every single time its like a kick in the gut.
PegNosePete Posted November 9, 2010 Posted November 9, 2010 Who is giving you these "updates"? Tell them not to.
Cee Posted November 9, 2010 Posted November 9, 2010 I think that's an age old problem where friends give ex updates. I think they like the drama. You can ask them to stop, but some won't. I've learned to detach from friends who won't respect my boundaries. One time, an ex got in trouble with the law and landed in the police blotter. Since it was the suburbs, it was a long article. People were breaking down my door to give me the news. Naturally, I couldn't resist buying the paper and my head was messed up for weeks. Once you are over your ex, it will hurt a lot less. But yeah, it sucks that people can make it harder for you.
BeagleGal Posted November 9, 2010 Posted November 9, 2010 I have that problem here at work. My exSO and I work for same company but different offices and I still have a couple of people who give me updates on my ex. I've already stated that I have no interest in hearing about him but I still get the occassional update. And it hurts like hell. Despite everything this man has done to me, you'd think some people would have the decency and courtesy to not tell me anything more about him. Especially because said people (well person) knew how badly my ex f*cked me over. It doesn't help either that my ex still contacts me every now and then like if nothing has happened either.
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