i have been my wifes only sex partner . now she is cuious for other men

[nelson305]

My wife and i have been together for 16 plus years 7 years married... i met her when she was in middle school. I have been her only sex partner. I have had one other.. During high school... she was approached by many girlfriends and had offers to be with another girl... But she never accepted.. So here we are years later... we are done having kids.. and we are both just early 30s ... we are very sexually active with each other...love a lot of kinky stuff... so she told me she was into girls and was very curious... so i gave her the okay to look around in chat areas and dating websites... but i turned out that I caught her with an email account that i didn;t know she had and she was not only chatting with girls.. but now she was also chatting with guys... out of what i saw things got really hot and heavy in some of these chats.. she was doing it for a month.. i know she never met anyone... but my question is if she has never been with another guy and she is very curious about that... SHOULD I GIVE HER A FREE PASS TO EXPLORE HER FANTASY???? oh and once i confronted her about the email.. she was honest and told me everything... we have a very open line of communication and i strongly believe we have a strong relationship.....what should I do?

[Mad Max]

She chose to marry you. If she wanted to have sex with other guys, she shouldn't have married you. Plain simple. You need to make it clear to her. She ends these chatting sessions or you'll file for divorce on grounds of emotional cheating.

[JAGeezer]

She chose to marry you. If she wanted to have sex with other guys, she shouldn't have married you. Plain simple. You need to make it clear to her. She ends these chatting sessions or you'll file for divorce on grounds of emotional cheating.

 

I agree. His wife is WAY over the line. And I guarantee that, if he doesn't put a stop to this right now, her fantasies won't stay fantasies. She'll find a way to make them reality, if she hasn't already.

 

Put a stop to this NOW, unless you're ready to either a) declare your M an "open marriage", or b) end up suing her for divorce on the inevitable grounds of adultery. Your choice. Either make her stick to her vows, or get ready to be cheated on....or for full on swinging.

 

Speaking for myself? If you write her a license to screw around, you'll live to regret it. Both of you. Because once done, it can never be undone.

 

JAG

[TigerCub]

My wife and i have been together for 16 plus years 7 years married... i met her when she was in middle school. I have been her only sex partner. I have had one other.. During high school... she was approached by many girlfriends and had offers to be with another girl... But she never accepted.. So here we are years later... we are done having kids.. and we are both just early 30s ... we are very sexually active with each other...love a lot of kinky stuff... so she told me she was into girls and was very curious... so i gave her the okay to look around in chat areas and dating websites... but i turned out that I caught her with an email account that i didn;t know she had and she was not only chatting with girls.. but now she was also chatting with guys... out of what i saw things got really hot and heavy in some of these chats.. she was doing it for a month.. i know she never met anyone... but my question is if she has never been with another guy and she is very curious about that... SHOULD I GIVE HER A FREE PASS TO EXPLORE HER FANTASY???? oh and once i confronted her about the email.. she was honest and told me everything... we have a very open line of communication and i strongly believe we have a strong relationship.....what should I do?

 

Hey Nelson,

 

See that's the problem when people marry too young and too inexperienced, there will come a time when they think "oh, I've only been with 1 person, I want to experiment"

 

You seem to have an open enough mind to entertain the thought of her fooling around with women.

And now you're questioning if you should give her a "Free pass" to screw around with a man.

 

I say, don't give her that pass unless you are SURE that you will be ok with it. You can't do it, if its going to cause resentment and jealousy.

 

If you guys are at a point in your marriage where you could be happy with it being an open arrangement, then do it, but set ground rules that you both will agree to and respect.

If not, then you have to be clear that she can't cross any lines with other men (no hot&heavy emails, no chats, no nothing).

 

But I think that most importantly you both need to be really honest about what you will accept in your marriage, and how far to draw the line.

 

good luck