Ariadne Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 I am so smitten guys. I had such a great night. Cool cool
Art_Critic Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 You need to call him a few times today, D. Send some texts as well. Try to get together for both lunch and dinner and see if you can stay the night at his place. He's going to lose interest if you don't. hahahaha.......
johan Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 It's good to know the guy kept his cool. I'm happy things are looking up, D. That's a great way to go into the winter and holiday season.
Surrealist Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 Ha ha so there's hope for us oldies yet!!
sagetalk Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 Tonight was a defining night for me, I just feel so good!!! You made a good decision here. It pains me to see people sabotage themselves. Dump guys because you aren't attracted to them and they treat you poorly, not because they didn't read and memorize the "How to to be the perfect man" manual. I wish you the best.
Author D-Lish Posted November 13, 2010 Author Posted November 13, 2010 I am glad for you. As one of my faves on here, it will be good to see you happy. I think you deserve it. When I read your post, I could hear this song suddenly blasting in my office....or I thought I did.... Take it one day at a time...and enjoy. James! I don't have sound on this computer, lol, so all I saw was a hippo! But thanks for your sentiment, You're one of my faves too! You need to call him a few times today, D. Send some texts as well. Try to get together for both lunch and dinner and see if you can stay the night at his place. He's going to lose interest if you don't. Lol Jo- I only post my inner-most thoughts and concerns on LS- I keep my self in check in real life. I WANT to do all those things, but I never, ever would act on them. I'm just happy that I met someone that woke me up from a long drought! Even if things don't turn into anything, at least I know I can have butterflies again. For a long, long time, I didn't think I'd ever have butterflies ever again...ever. You made a good decision here. It pains me to see people sabotage themselves. Dump guys because you aren't attracted to them and they treat you poorly, not because they didn't read and memorize the "How to to be the perfect man" manual. I wish you the best. Well, initially, I was super attracted to him because he was so confident. Then, he sort of showed his cards a little too much and I came up with all these reasons to move on, walk away, pull the same old D stuff that really hasn't been working for me that last 8 years since my divorce. It's time for me to make some changes and stop being so afraid. He is really nice, and it's probably time I accepted that I deserve a nice guy. I want him to be more confident- but I also want him to know he has reason to be confident with me- so I have to be vulnerable and open in order to do that too. I think that was the scary part for me. I'm trying to get over it, more importantly, I have to get over it. Good for you, I'm glad you listened to me. Well, the next hurdle is to maintain my composure. I'm not prone to acting crazy, but I am prone to feeling crazy and just walking away because the thought of being vulnerable is a lot to deal with for me. We are going out again tomorrow night. We are meeting for dinner, then perhaps watching a movie at his house. I won't do the sex thing, it's too soon- but perhaps some dry humping:laugh:. I think I can handle him being vulnerable towards me. I think I can maybe let my guard down and be a bit more vulnerable myself. It's about time-It's been 8 freaking years since my divorce. When I started this thread I was all about walking away, looking for excuses. Maybe I'll get hurt again, but maybe I won't...Maybe, I'll find happiness if I let down some of my barriers. The bottom line is, I have to start living again. I'm not throwing all of my eggs into one basket just yet- but I am going to toss some in. It's time, and I owe myself.
johan Posted November 13, 2010 Posted November 13, 2010 For a long, long time, I didn't think I'd ever have butterflies ever again...ever. You aren't the only one who has felt that way. I'm happy you got past it and I hope it works out for you.
Author D-Lish Posted November 13, 2010 Author Posted November 13, 2010 Just like your avatar. D-Lish, I'm very, very happy to hear that things are on the up and up with your guy. Things will only get better. You better believe it. Cause I do. Thanks, I actually had some really great words of advice, encouragement, and self disclosure from a fellow poster that had such a huge impact on me. He didn't post here, in this thread, but, wow, it had such an impact. You aren't the only one who has felt that way. I'm happy you got past it and I hope it works out for you. I hope so too Jo, I'm not past it- but I am searching to find way out of it. It's early- so it's up in the air. However, it's super cool to just know I can "go there". I'm actually getting used to the flattering text messages- and after hanging out with him, the only instincts I feel that are raising a red flag are my own insecurities. I have to shake those and just go with the flow. I already know that I can deal with one of the worst thing that ever happened to me in my life and survive (a husband that cheated and knocked up another woman). So the worst thing that can happen is that I fall in love and get hurt again. Been there, done that- and I am still here. I give advice to others religiously about letting go and finding their inner confidence- and I believe it and mean it when I say it to others- so it's time to start following my own advice and get a life.
threebyfate Posted November 13, 2010 Posted November 13, 2010 I actually had my lunch today with guy #1- our first meeting- I didn't like him at all. He talked about himself non-stop. When I got to my second date of the day with the other dude- I am really into focusing on the second guy. He's awesome!!!No surprise. Guy's a dip for ditching a date with a beautiful woman so he can stuff his face for Thanksgiving. We had a great make out session at my car before we parted and left the pub. He just texted me that he got home safe and he thinks I am hot. I am so smitten guys. I had such a great night. He was on his game tonight. I am smiling ear to ear as I type this. I def think I am going to date him. He's going away on vacation for a week with the guys next Monday for a week. That throws a wrench into getting to know one another further- but I am into him! Tonight was a defining night for me, I just feel so good!!!Happy, so happy for you!! Now just relax and enjoy things.
Cee Posted November 13, 2010 Posted November 13, 2010 I'm relieved the story ended this way. Gives me hope.
johan Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 LOL what a load of crap that is She should at least sit out in front of his house in her car for a few hours. At least until he notices.
daphne Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 Well, initially, I was super attracted to him because he was so confident. Then, he sort of showed his cards a little too much and I came up with all these reasons to move on, walk away, pull the same old D stuff that really hasn't been working for me that last 8 years since my divorce. It's time for me to make some changes and stop being so afraid. Well, the next hurdle is to maintain my composure. I'm not prone to acting crazy, but I am prone to feeling crazy and just walking away because the thought of being vulnerable is a lot to deal with for me. I'm the same way about walking away. It's just much easier than dealing with drama. But in my experience, I haven't had one relationship with a man that didn't involve some amount of drama, at least early on. Good for you for giving the boy a chance. I was worried you wouldn't.
Banega100 Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 LOL what a load of crap that is Oh dear...
Author D-Lish Posted November 16, 2010 Author Posted November 16, 2010 I'm the same way about walking away. It's just much easier than dealing with drama. But in my experience, I haven't had one relationship with a man that didn't involve some amount of drama, at least early on. Good for you for giving the boy a chance. I was worried you wouldn't. I am glad I am giving it a chance too. We had a great time Saturday night. Watched a movie, hung out, had a few beers and a whole lot of making out. Then he took me to dinner on SUNDAY night- as he was leaving this morning to go away for 6 days. He's back Saturday afternoon and wants to get together Saturday night. He's just incredibly complimentary- in a way no one has ever been before with me. I have to say it makes me feel really good. I also feel he's incredibly genuine about the things he says. We've only been out 4 times, but I can tell he's into getting to know me better- and I am into getting to know him better as well.
Woggle Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 I am glad you are giving this a chance. To be perfectly honest I expected you to have sabotaged this by now.
tigressA Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 I am glad I am giving it a chance too. We had a great time Saturday night. Watched a movie, hung out, had a few beers and a whole lot of making out. Then he took me to dinner on SUNDAY night- as he was leaving this morning to go away for 6 days. He's back Saturday afternoon and wants to get together Saturday night. Oooooh D! Get it, grrrrrrrl!
Author D-Lish Posted November 16, 2010 Author Posted November 16, 2010 I am glad you are giving this a chance. To be perfectly honest I expected you to have sabotaged this by now. Nah, no sabotaging- playing this one differently and trying to keep my head on straight.
OceanGirl Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 Good stuff D-lish. The guy I have a second date with from OKC has reddish hair too. Not what I normally go for and I kept putting off meeting for a month but there is quite a bit of chemistry in person
Author D-Lish Posted November 17, 2010 Author Posted November 17, 2010 Good stuff D-lish. The guy I have a second date with from OKC has reddish hair too. Not what I normally go for and I kept putting off meeting for a month but there is quite a bit of chemistry in person Lol! I never saw it coming! I'm pretty smitten with my little ginger haired boy. I found the chemistry to be immediate with this guy. He's away on a big golf trip with 20 dudes all week- but he's been so attentive with the texting. It's nice being told you're missed. I can honestly say in all the years I've been dating, I've never had someone say such awesome, complimentary things to me!
Author D-Lish Posted November 17, 2010 Author Posted November 17, 2010 Happy, so happy for you!! Now just relax and enjoy things. I actually feel pretty relaxed about the whole thing T, I'm not even all that worried about him being away all week in a party situation. He's playing zero games with me- he's actually putting himself out there, and to a large extent, I am too.
Woggle Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 Good for you. Just enjoy instead of over analyzing it.
Author D-Lish Posted November 17, 2010 Author Posted November 17, 2010 Good for you. Just enjoy instead of over analyzing it. I'm doing my best W. I know he's quite smitten at the moment- and that freaked me out a little initially. What freaked me out more was being equally smitten with him.
Green Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 I'm doing my best W. I know he's quite smitten at the moment- and that freaked me out a little initially. What freaked me out more was being equally smitten with him. So how hot have things got. Any naked touching
Author D-Lish Posted November 20, 2010 Author Posted November 20, 2010 So how hot have things got. Any naked touching Lol Green. No sex yet, just a lot of kissing and some instense dry humping. I haven't seen him since last Sunday because he went on a golfing vacation. He gets back tomorrow and we are having dinner tomorrow night. While he's been away, he's been texting the most awesome things. I don't know if things are moving too fast or not- but the momentum is there on both our ends. It just feels so good to have a big, huge crush on someone that you know is feeling the same. I just want to jump on him tomorrow night and make out with him when I see him.
OceanGirl Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 Hey D-lish, Are you guys texting every day?
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