sumdude Posted December 3, 2010 Posted December 3, 2010 Sounds awesome D! Hope this thing takes off like a rocket and you don't look back. The way you describe him he sounds a lot like me. So I'm pulling for him too!
LittleTiger Posted December 3, 2010 Posted December 3, 2010 Fantastic news D-Lish, I'm really happy for you. It's great that you are able to talk so honestly with him about what you need. So few people seem to manage that. I hope this turns into something special - it certainly has the marks of it ..... and maybe you could start a new thread about him with a really positive title as this one is clearly no longer accurate!
Green Posted December 3, 2010 Posted December 3, 2010 I still kinda feel this dude might blow it but things look better now...
xpaperxcutx Posted December 4, 2010 Posted December 4, 2010 Wow D, he's clearly not the subject of this thread any longer. I'm happy for you! You deserve this and him.
BobSacamento Posted December 4, 2010 Posted December 4, 2010 It is kind of a funny thread. It's about a guy who is on thin ice because he's pretty much deduced he's on thin ice. It is sort of telling. Perhaps it wasn't lack of confidence but the intimidation that almost had this relationship doomed.
Author D-Lish Posted December 7, 2010 Author Posted December 7, 2010 I should probably start a new thread! Things are going really well. We've been hanging out about 4 times a week, and spending weekends together. He's been so generous with me. I bought him NHL tickets for x-mas to see his favorite team. My parents live in Washington, and his favorite team is playing the Capitals in Feb, so I bought tickets and we can drive or fly down and spend a few days at my parents place in Washington and go to the game since my parents will be in Florida during that time. I'm pretty excited about giving him the tickets- he's been so good to me, I wanted to do something really nice for him:love:. Things seem to be progressing really fast- and normally that would scare me off, but I feel really comfortable being vulnerable with him.
Author D-Lish Posted December 7, 2010 Author Posted December 7, 2010 ................ Thanks Art! I haven't felt this happy in years! My face actually hurts from smiling so much.
Green Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 I should probably start a new thread! Things are going really well. We've been hanging out about 4 times a week, and spending weekends together. He's been so generous with me. I bought him NHL tickets for x-mas to see his favorite team. My parents live in Washington, and his favorite team is playing the Capitals in Feb, so I bought tickets and we can drive or fly down and spend a few days at my parents place in Washington and go to the game since my parents will be in Florida during that time. I'm pretty excited about giving him the tickets- he's been so good to me, I wanted to do something really nice for him:love:. Things seem to be progressing really fast- and normally that would scare me off, but I feel really comfortable being vulnerable with him. When I read "we can drive or fly down and spend a few days at my parents place" I was like HORRIBLE... but then when you were like "since my parents will be in FL durring that time" I was like hmmm better. Don't your parents have hoarder house or something?
Author D-Lish Posted December 7, 2010 Author Posted December 7, 2010 Sounds awesome D! Hope this thing takes off like a rocket and you don't look back. The way you describe him he sounds a lot like me. So I'm pulling for him too! It's just really nice dating someone that treats me so great. He is super nice, and I hate it that he was taken advantage of in the past. I have a history of dating douche-bags- and it's awful, because you never, ever feel confident or secure in those types of relationships. In the past, I've always dated people where I took a back seat - a hobby, a job, someone with kids... In this relationship I actually feel like a priority, it's a really good feeling.
Author D-Lish Posted December 7, 2010 Author Posted December 7, 2010 (edited) When I read "we can drive or fly down and spend a few days at my parents place" I was like HORRIBLE... but then when you were like "since my parents will be in FL durring that time" I was like hmmm better. Don't your parents have hoarder house or something? I met his parents already Green, lol. They happened to stop by to drop off an x-mas tree for him when I was at his house, then we all ended up going out for breakfast. His mom actually asked me if I wanted to come for x-mas dinner already! I agree with you, the whole meeting the parents thing could be putting on pressure! My parents split there time between Canada, Florida, and Washington- but they will be at their condo in Florida during that time, so there place in Washington is free that weekend. He loves this team I bought tickets for, it's his favorite team. Do you think it's a nice gift, or too much? I just wanted to do something really nice for him- he's taken me out for dinner so much this past month, and he never lets me pull out my wallet even thought I try to. On Saturday I tried to go behind his back and pay the tab- which was $200- but our server said he's already given the credit card when I was in the bathroom and told him not to let me pay if I tried. Edited December 7, 2010 by D-Lish
Green Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 sounds like a nice present. I don't like paying for everything so I would by now want to take turns paying for things. But if he's really trying hard to pay for everthing you can't really stop him and you seem to like it so I guess thats good.
Author D-Lish Posted December 7, 2010 Author Posted December 7, 2010 sounds like a nice present. I don't like paying for everything so I would by now want to take turns paying for things. But if he's really trying hard to pay for everthing you can't really stop him and you seem to like it so I guess thats good. I feel guilty that he pays for everything Green, I"ve never dated someone that has done that. Even my exH that made a ridiculous income didn't pay for everything. I do like it, but I want to reciprocate. His fav hockey team is Montreal, and it's impossible to get tickets for a game in our region- either Montreal or Toronto. My brother is a Flyer fan, and my parents always buy him tickets for x-mas to see them play in Washington. We can fly down points for free and go see the game. I don't know if it's too soon to give him such a nice gift, but it's only 200$ bucks for the tickets, and our flight and accomodations will be free. He's easily spent a grand taking me for dinner this past month.
Green Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 I feel guilty that he pays for everything Green, I"ve never dated someone that has done that. Even my exH that made a ridiculous income didn't pay for everything. I do like it, but I want to reciprocate. His fav hockey team is Montreal, and it's impossible to get tickets for a game in our region- either Montreal or Toronto. My brother is a Flyer fan, and my parents always buy him tickets for x-mas to see them play in Washington. We can fly down points for free and go see the game. I don't know if it's too soon to give him such a nice gift, but it's only 200$ bucks for the tickets, and our flight and accomodations will be free. He's easily spent a grand taking me for dinner this past month. should be fine. just be understanding if its to much... but should be a good gift... Good gifts always risk being too much or wrong... so lets just think posotive. Look to his facial reaction when you give him the gift then you'll know. as for the paying thing its kinda cool that he does that I guess, personaly though I like things to be 50/50 unless the girl has no job or something.
Author D-Lish Posted December 7, 2010 Author Posted December 7, 2010 should be fine. just be understanding if its to much... but should be a good gift... Good gifts always risk being too much or wrong... so lets just think posotive. Look to his facial reaction when you give him the gift then you'll know. as for the paying thing its kinda cool that he does that I guess, personaly though I like things to be 50/50 unless the girl has no job or something. Well we both have good jobs, we haven't discussed it, but I am sure he makes more than I do. I think he will like the x-mas present a lot- Canadian boys are crazy about their hockey:).
Seamless74 Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 This thread is still actually going on jeez lol...
Author D-Lish Posted December 7, 2010 Author Posted December 7, 2010 Heehee... I'm loving these updates!!! Do you think it's a good gift Star? I'm struggling with whether or not it's too much. I checked with him to see if he can have a few days off in early feb, because he's in finance, and that's RRSP season. I didn't want to buy the tickets and then find out he couldn't get the time off. I only asked if he could take 3 days off in early feb. I know we'll be together still, he's so awesome.
Star Gazer Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 Do you think it's a good gift Star? I'm struggling with whether or not it's too much. I checked with him to see if he can have a few days off in early feb, because he's in finance, and that's RRSP season. I didn't want to buy the tickets and then find out he couldn't get the time off. I only asked if he could take 3 days off in early feb. It seems like a good fit to me. He seems to handle your concerns well. I think you're growing to appreciate each other for your respective strengths, and you're helping each other grow to be better relationship partners, in part because you trust one another to allow yourselves to be vulnerable. I know we'll be together still, he's so awesome. THIS is the only thing I'd caution you against. It's still very new, don't assume anything.
Author D-Lish Posted December 7, 2010 Author Posted December 7, 2010 THIS is the only thing I'd caution you against. It's still very new, don't assume anything. I know that- things are moving fast. We were lying together on his couch the other day, watching a movie- and just laughing like crazy. It's surreal to be with someone that isn't only on the same wave length, but everything just fits. I mean everything. This guy is so generous- and I want to do something really nice for him in return. BUT- it's essentially booking a trip, ya know? Booking a trip 3 months into a relationship is a bit crazy. It's done, I bought the tickets.
Ruby Slippers Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 I know that- things are moving fast. We were lying together on his couch the other day, watching a movie- and just laughing like crazy. It's surreal to be with someone that isn't only on the same wave length, but everything just fits. I mean everything. This guy is so generous- and I want to do something really nice for him in return. BUT- it's essentially booking a trip, ya know? Booking a trip 3 months into a relationship is a bit crazy. It's done, I bought the tickets. No way! A trip is ALWAYS fun. In most of my relationships, the guy invited me to take a little vacation within a few months, and we did and had a blast every time. I think he's going to LOVE IT! And I am really happy for you! A friend of mine was at a wedding recently, and she said that what both the bride and groom told her was that when they got together, everything was just so EASY. No wondering, no trying to make ill-fitting personalities fit together. It just worked. This is working! ENJOY IT! (I know you are.) It's about time, right?
Jannah Posted December 8, 2010 Posted December 8, 2010 Ah see, you went from thinking he lacked confidence from one text, to this. Dude IS confident after all.
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