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Hey D-lish,

 

Are you guys texting every day?

 

Yeah, for sure. It's been 2 weeks since we met- and we text back and forth numerous times a day. It's easy and natural. We've texted back and forth daily since before we even met.

 

While he was away, he texted a lot, we communicated back and forth 5-6 times a day. It was mostly him saying he couldn't wait to see me again (and me reciprocating).:)

 

He came back Saturday afternoon and we hung out at his place Saturday evening, then he came to my place Sunday and we went out for dinner and he stayed until 4am this morning.:love: I guess we kinda spent the weekend together.

 

We haven't had sex yet. I am quite confident this is heading toward monogamy- but I want to make sure before we sleep together. I want to sleep with him though- I'm so attracted to him.

 

He's just really nice. I'm not looking for red flags- but I don't think girls have treated him very well in the past. Some of the stories he has told me about his ex's and how they treated him makes my blood boil on his behalf. He's naive though. The last 2 girls he dated were texting back and forth with guys that they both ended up moving on to, but he swears up and down that cheating never happened.

 

I think girls have played him like a fiddle in the past because he's a nice guy. I don't know, I like him because he is so nice to me though. It's not just nice- he's got a lot going for him.

 

I don't know, all we do is laugh when we are together. We laugh, and we smile 90 percent of the time when we're together. He says the nicest things to me- and I say it back, or I say it first sometimes. It's a new D-lish. I'm def feeling vulnerable right now, but I am not even feeling the itch to go into sabotage mode.

 

I feel good about me and where I am at. I think because of that I've allowed someone into my life that is really good for me (and to me).

 

It does bother me how his ex's treated him, and the extent to which he put up with some of the antics in the previous relationships. I can see a little bit of passive in him.

 

It's still early, but right now we're like magnets. It's nice, it's been such a long time.

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Reading about your blossoming new relationship makes me feel good myself!

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We haven't had sex yet. I am quite confident this is heading toward monogamy- but I want to make sure before we sleep together. I want to sleep with him though- I'm so attracted to him.

 

GOOD for YOU!!!

 

Man, I lovvvvvvvvvvvve reading your updates! They excite me and make me all giddy!! :):love::love::love::bunny:

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Reading about your blossoming new relationship makes me feel good myself!

 

 

It should...! Are you in a new relationship?

 

I resolved a long time ago that I would never, ever meet someone that stirred me up ever again. It's been 8 years since my divorce, and I have only dated like a robot.

 

I swear, I have thought for a long time that I was going to die alone without falling in love ever again. I may not fall in love with this guy- but I know now I can feel something really good again.

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It seems the tables have turned, D. Looks like if anyone's going to be "blowing it", it's you.

 

heh heh...

 

Oh yeah, baby! BLOW it...blow it HARD and then SWALLOW your, um, pride. Just wait a lil' longer. :laugh:

 

Wooooohooo!!! I'm loving this entire thing... :love:

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It should...! Are you in a new relationship?

 

Not so new anymore; it's been about a year and a half.

 

I resolved a long time ago that I would never, ever meet someone that stirred me up ever again. It's been 8 years since my divorce, and I have only dated like a robot.

 

I swear, I have thought for a long time that I was going to die alone without falling in love ever again.

 

I was in exactly that place. It is so wonderful to allow yourself to open up and be vulnerable again. Of course it takes the timely arrival of the right person!

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GOOD for YOU!!!

 

Man, I lovvvvvvvvvvvve reading your updates! They excite me and make me all giddy!! :):love::love::love::bunny:

 

 

I don't know Star, I feel really good (I'm almost scared to admit it). It's a little scary, but not bad scary.

 

He's a good soul, I can tell. He has the sexiest smile in the world, it's so awesome. He's got this permanent eye-crinkling smile, and it melts me to the core.

 

We just kinda lay face to face last night, falling in and out of sleep- then we'd stir and smile and make out more.

 

I guess I'll admit it, I gave him a BJ:laugh: I think he likes me way more now:lmao:

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Oh, big deal. It's not like it's the first, second, third date.

 

If/when things happen sexually and whether it will have a negative impact on the relationship depends on the people involved and the context of the relationship. This guy DIGS you, D. He's interested, involved and invested. A good egg. A little suckie suckie won't change that... ;)

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It seems the tables have turned, D. Looks like if anyone's going to be "blowing it", it's you.

 

heh heh...

 

You're not wrong JO- I don't want to sabotage like I normally would.

I'm doing okay so far- but I think he helps, because he's not a player, and he makes me feel really good, and feel secure.

 

But yeah, I don't want to regress to the old Dee.

 

D, I'm so beyond excited for you!!! YAAAAAAAAAY!!!!! :D:bunny::love::love:

 

And me you T- You're in the same boat right?

 

Oh yeah, baby! BLOW it...blow it HARD and then SWALLOW your, um, pride. Just wait a lil' longer. :laugh:

 

Wooooohooo!!! I'm loving this entire thing... :love:

 

Haha- then I go on to actually admit I did....:lmao:

Like 2 weeks in though, and I am 40 (1)...

 

Not so new anymore; it's been about a year and a half.

 

I was in exactly that place. It is so wonderful to allow yourself to open up and be vulnerable again. Of course it takes the timely arrival of the right person!

 

Maybe that's what it is MMe. The arrival of the right person, and maybe (I'm still struggling with it) that I deserve it. So accepting that is also a struggle.

 

A big struggle.

 

Oh, big deal. It's not like it's the first, second, third date.

 

If/when things happen sexually and whether it will have a negative impact on the relationship depends on the people involved and the context of the relationship. This guy DIGS you, D. He's interested, involved and invested. A good egg. A little suckie suckie won't change that... ;)

 

:lmao: I know, there wasn't anything "too soon" about it! Because it happened at 5am- it techincally made it Sunday instead of Saturday, which made it the 5th date:cool:.

 

Meh, I think the only thing I have to worry about is the fact that he's probably a little "too nice".

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And me you T- You're in the same boat right?

 

Eh, not so sure anymore; I think it's starting to fizzle out. Oh well. Not a big deal.

 

Still, YAY for you! :love::bunny:

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Meh, I think the only thing I have to worry about is the fact that he's probably a little "too nice".

 

Really!?? Or does it seem too good to be true and maybe you're starting to look for problems already?

 

Seems like you're happy so far.. go with that.

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Really!?? Or does it seem too good to be true and maybe you're starting to look for problems already?

 

Seems like you're happy so far.. go with that.

 

Don't get me wrong, I like nice- but some of the stories he has told me about his ex's make me cringe. He's been walked all over in the past. I certainly don't intend on doing that, but I need him to be strong and stand up to me when it's required and appropriate.

 

He told me a story about his last ex not being able to hold her alcohol. She'd phone him in the middle of the night from some random guys house where she ended up after a bar passed out- and he'd get out of bed and go get her. A regular pattern apparantly. That's just one of many little things that have come out.

 

I really just want to be the kind of girl that shows him what a kind and loving woman really is. I also want to set the precedence quickly that he needs to stand up for himself when it's appropriate.

 

We've been seeing quite a lot of each other. We took our dating profiles down a couple of days ago.:)

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We've been seeing quite a lot of each other. We took our dating profiles down a couple of days ago.:)

 

Sweet. I was worried you wouldn't give the guy a real chance. Maybe your moxie can rub off on him. :)

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Sweet. I was worried you wouldn't give the guy a real chance. Maybe your moxie can rub off on him. :)

 

Thanks D, I hope so.

Everything is fine so far. We get along so well. It's crazy some of the obscure things we both like.

 

Women have obviously taken advantage of his kindness in the past- then again, he chose to be with those women (kinda in the same way I've chosen to date douchebags from time to time:eek:).

 

I think we might have sex for the first time tonight:).

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If anyone can teach him those things it's you, D! :love::)

 

So when's the big bang?! :lmao:

 

edit: Just saw your post...whoo!

 

Lol! Yes, tonight I think.

I was waiting to see if he was going to take his profile down first, and then he brought it up this week and we both took them down. I wanted that to happen first.

 

:) I'm excited and nervous.

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Maybe he's learned his lesson that you can be a good man but still not put up with that kind of treatment. Most guys who are not jerks have made at least one mistake like that. Most people have to learn the hard way about stuff like that.

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Maybe he's learned his lesson that you can be a good man but still not put up with that kind of treatment. Most guys who are not jerks have made at least one mistake like that. Most people have to learn the hard way about stuff like that.

 

How can I help with that do you think? Is there anything I can do?

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I've been out with someone I like. 2 Dates, we've clicked, I like him. I want to see more of him.

 

All of a sudden he's saying things that make him appear insecure about himself.

 

I accept that everyone is insecure- but you shouldn't showcase it, because it's not attractive.

 

We made out a bit last date- date #2.

 

I originally liked him because he came off as so confident and funny on our dates. I saw a little bit of self deprecating humour initially- but it's getting a bit overboard.

 

We had a great time Sunday and planned to meet again this Wednesday. He text me this morning to firm up the plans for Wednesday and I didn't text him back right away- I was on the road and when I got to my desintation I was jumping into work stuff right away. I got a second text saying "it's okay if you aren't interested, just let me know".

 

I just loved that he was so confident initially, that's what attracted me to him- that and his awesome humour.

 

I text back- "we are on for Wed, looking forward to it". He immediately text back "ok, good, wasn't sure :-("

 

I immediately felt different about him after this exchange.

 

Guys: Take note.

Girls: Same applies to you.

 

Self-confidence is essential.

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How can I help with that do you think? Is there anything I can do?

 

Just treat him well and continue to do what you are doing.

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