hopelane Posted November 9, 2010 Posted November 9, 2010 I've been getting to know this guy for about 7 months now..were not in a commited relationship, we are just dating. However latley he's has not been calling me as often or showing me the sweet affection I'm use to. I'm big on communication, so I spoke to him a few days ago on it and basically told him like I need you to show me more that you want me in your life and just show more action because actions speak louder than words. Well lately I have not seen much improvement, he still contacts me, but he doesn't make the extra effort that I've been asking for. So my question is should I ignore him for awhile so that he can realize how much I matter to him, or just continue to wait to see if he'll make an extra effort. As of now I do not initiate a lot of things because I want him to work for me, normally he texts me first..but it's so impersonal and short. At this point I have already told him to show me more twice..I don't want to continue to repeat myself especially if he is not making attempts. If he continues to not show me what I've been asking for, should I go ahead and start to keep busy and ignore him? What do you think? Thanks!
Mad Max Posted November 9, 2010 Posted November 9, 2010 As of now I do not initiate a lot of things because I want him to work for me Perhaps he sees this attitude as a turn off???
that girl Posted November 9, 2010 Posted November 9, 2010 Perhaps he sees this attitude as a turn off??? Yeah, but if that was the case, why wouldn't he bring it up when she started talking about wanting him to make more effort? I think the most likely issue is that this couple just isn't a match. Seven months without committing and you're unhappy- I don't see why you would stick around. He isn't your boyfriend.
xpaperxcutx Posted November 9, 2010 Posted November 9, 2010 Yeah, but if that was the case, why wouldn't he bring it up when she started talking about wanting him to make more effort? I think the most likely issue is that this couple just isn't a match. Seven months without committing and you're unhappy- I don't see why you would stick around. He isn't your boyfriend. Exactly. I don't know what your standards are, OP, but seven months are pretty for you to figure out you can't " communicate" with this guy.
waynebrady Posted November 9, 2010 Posted November 9, 2010 Perhaps he sees this attitude as a turn off??? Exactly. For me it atleast it would be a huge turn off. She expects him to show all the effort, do all the work, show all the affection and initiate every call and so on.... Why would any man want to be with a woman who is like that and doesn't show any intrest or puts in any effort? No offence but I hope that guy has enough brains to move on and find somebody who actually likes him.
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