TouchedByViolet Posted November 9, 2010 Posted November 9, 2010 So lets say you go on a 1st date with a guy who you only know a little bit. Maybe you met him through friends, at a party, online, etc. You kind of know him and are somewhat interested. After the first date ends you decide that you are not interested in a romantic relationship. What do you do...? 1- Simply ignore him from this point forward 2- Tell him you are interested but really aren't, and keep delaying/stopping responses to him until he doesn't want to deal with it. 3- Text/call/email to let him know you had a good time but are not interested anymore. 4- Make up some lie and tell it to the guy in order to stop seeing him. 5- Tell him you just want to be friends *- Or something totally different! Would be helpful!
TheShyIntrovert Posted November 9, 2010 Posted November 9, 2010 So lets say you go on a 1st date with a guy who you only know a little bit. Maybe you met him through friends, at a party, online, etc. You kind of know him and are somewhat interested. After the first date ends you decide that you are not interested in a romantic relationship. What do you do...? 1- Simply ignore him from this point forward 2- Tell him you are interested but really aren't, and keep delaying/stopping responses to him until he doesn't want to deal with it. 3- Text/call/email to let him know you had a good time but are not interested anymore. 4- Make up some lie and tell it to the guy in order to stop seeing him. 5- Tell him you just want to be friends *- Or something totally different! Would be helpful! Please don't tell me you think anything other than option #3 is a viable option. Jesus Christ.
Titania22 Posted November 9, 2010 Posted November 9, 2010 I start with 3 and resort to 1 if he keeps bothering me.
Rinah Posted November 9, 2010 Posted November 9, 2010 Simply tell him the truth, that you are no longer interested. Never do the others, it's just low.
ReturnToSender Posted November 9, 2010 Posted November 9, 2010 I always do #3, but it seems to not be the norm, cause every time its happened the guy was incredibly appreciative of it and told me that it reveals my character...the last guy even joked that he wishes I had just disappeared, cause by being upfront he knows for a fact that Im as great as he thought I was and now he cant say anything nasty about me to make himself feel better Lol If that doesnt work though, then yeah I just drop all contact. Any amount of contact can be taken as a sign of hope or encouragement to keep trying. As it is, Im still dealing with a guy who calls and texts me and I havnt talked to him since Mar when I told him Im not interested...its been getting less and less but dang, if I had responded to him at all, Id probably be stuck with this guy for life.
Pfiend101 Posted November 9, 2010 Posted November 9, 2010 I wish all would just do #3 with me. However the majority seem to be #1. Just recently she kept coming up with excuses so I just asked her outright. "Are you interested in seeing me again? I'm a big boy just be honest its ok." She told me she was interested and blew me off one more time. I then said **** it. Alot of people are just not honest these days. It seems to be a part of life. :/
walktheline Posted November 9, 2010 Posted November 9, 2010 I got #5 recently, though we were friends to begin with, still total freaking cop out on her part and so f-ing cliche. Always tell the truth. Most guys including myself find that type of honesty nice the rest is just flaky crap IMO.
Titania22 Posted November 9, 2010 Posted November 9, 2010 Any amount of contact can be taken as a sign of hope or encouragement to keep trying. I've had quite a few men who won't give up the dream no matter how plainly i put it.
that girl Posted November 9, 2010 Posted November 9, 2010 I don't know why everyone is going with #3. I don't assume that a guy I went out with once is going to call again, it would be pressumptous to randomly tell him I'm not interested. If he does call for another date, then you say something like "I had a good time, but I don't see a romantic connection here."
Star Gazer Posted November 9, 2010 Posted November 9, 2010 I don't know why everyone is going with #3. I don't assume that a guy I went out with once is going to call again, it would be pressumptous to randomly tell him I'm not interested. If he does call for another date, then you say something like "I had a good time, but I don't see a romantic connection here." This is what I think/do.
befreckled Posted November 9, 2010 Posted November 9, 2010 I would not ignore him but I would sorta of move the communication to a platonic level. So, much less frequent and a lot more general. If he pressed on, I'd tell him that I had a good time but, there was no chemistry in person. That said, I think usually that's more than enough to just shift modes, the guys usually get it and the communication tapers off naturally. I don't mind still keeping contact though, I wouldn't avoid the person unless it's something he wanted.
ReturnToSender Posted November 9, 2010 Posted November 9, 2010 I dont think its presumptuous or random. Usually when a guy thinks that the date went well, he will get in touch to set another one...thats when faced with the choice to be lie, lead on and drag things out, or be honest. But yeah, if he never calls, then you know he wasnt feeling it either, and none of the responses matter anyway cause theres no situation to handle. I don't know why everyone is going with #3. I don't assume that a guy I went out with once is going to call again, it would be pressumptous to randomly tell him I'm not interested. If he does call for another date, then you say something like "I had a good time, but I don't see a romantic connection here."
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