Hopeful30 Posted November 9, 2010 Posted November 9, 2010 When the sex is amazing, he is attracted to you, treats you like a princess, introduces you to everyone including family, sees you as a life partner, is honest about absolutely everything (even if you won't like it), is everything a girl could ask for... ...but never calls you beautiful. Why?
deebeechrisyo Posted November 9, 2010 Posted November 9, 2010 People have different ways of expressing their appreciation/love for someone. He might be the more introverted type who shows his affection through actions rather than words. If he's incredibly attracted to you doesn't that imply that he thinks you are beautiful?
Author Hopeful30 Posted November 9, 2010 Author Posted November 9, 2010 People have different ways of expressing their appreciation/love for someone. He might be the more introverted type who shows his affection through actions rather than words. If he's incredibly attracted to you doesn't that imply that he thinks you are beautiful? I'm only asking because he would shower his exes with compliments...but doesn't with me. I don't understand why this change.
deebeechrisyo Posted November 9, 2010 Posted November 9, 2010 I'm only asking because he would shower his exes with compliments...but doesn't with me. I don't understand why this change. From my experience, endless compliments turn women off. Something about losing the effect after a few times (the boy who cried wolf). You said those were his exes, so maybe he's adapting after a few failed relationships and wants this one to last. I think you should take that as a compliment
JungleLover Posted November 9, 2010 Posted November 9, 2010 People have different ways of expressing their appreciation/love for someone. He might be the more introverted type who shows his affection through actions rather than words. If he's incredibly attracted to you doesn't that imply that he thinks you are beautiful? I Agree. I know this is one of those things where a woman just need to hear it despite that he shows you in every other way. I know with me, sometimes I would not necessarily think of a woman as beautiful but think she is very sexy and strongly sexually attractive. I would rather be very sexually attractive than handsome because simply being handsome doesn't always mean you will get to have sex often.
Author Hopeful30 Posted November 9, 2010 Author Posted November 9, 2010 From my experience, endless compliments turn women off. Something about losing the effect after a few times (the boy who cried wolf). You said those were his exes, so maybe he's adapting after a few failed relationships and wants this one to last. I think you should take that as a compliment Hmmm... I never thought of that actually. Seems to make sense. I hope you are right. Thanks
JungleLover Posted November 9, 2010 Posted November 9, 2010 I'm only asking because he would shower his exes with compliments...but doesn't with me. I don't understand why this change. Are you stuck on yourself or conceited in any type of way? This is one of those things where you just have to be honest with yourself. With these sort of women, I tend to hold of on telling them something they seem to know so well themselves.
Author Hopeful30 Posted November 9, 2010 Author Posted November 9, 2010 I Agree. I know this is one of those things where a woman just need to hear it despite that he shows you in every other way. I know with me, sometimes I would not necessarily think of a woman as beautiful but think she is very sexy and strongly sexually attractive. I would rather be very sexually attractive than handsome because simply being handsome doesn't always mean you will get to have sex often. But wouldn't you feel girls would only want you for sex? A handsome man is one a woman can look at and appreciate. A sexy one is just someone to bang. I personally think handsome is more important.
Author Hopeful30 Posted November 9, 2010 Author Posted November 9, 2010 Are you stuck on yourself or conceited in any type of way? This is one of those things where you just have to be honest with yourself. With these sort of women, I tend to hold of on telling them something they seem to know so well themselves. Actually thats a smart thing to say. I'm not conceited but I do hear it semi-often from others. I don't see how that would make him feel he shouldn't say anything at all though... Even if a woman is conceited, it doesn't mean she doesn't need to hear it...especially from the one person it really matters to hear it from.
deebeechrisyo Posted November 9, 2010 Posted November 9, 2010 But wouldn't you feel girls would only want you for sex? A handsome man is one a woman can look at and appreciate. A sexy one is just someone to bang. I personally think handsome is more important. Haha, this is exactly what most men want.
JungleLover Posted November 9, 2010 Posted November 9, 2010 But wouldn't you feel girls would only want you for sex? A handsome man is one a woman can look at and appreciate. A sexy one is just someone to bang. I personally think handsome is more important. Not really. I figure if I am sexually attractive, my foot is in the door where I can really win you over. I used to get the handsome/cute compliments quite a bit when I was younger and it didn't help me much outside of high school when women started wanting something more besides a boyish face. When I began to age and lose my boyish looks and workout more, I got better results. If a woman "knows" she is beautiful, it just takes some of her charm away, in my view. I just tend to compliment those women less. On the other side of the coin, one who doesn't seem to remind you of how beautiful she is motivates me to tell her here and there. She just seems more charming when she seem to have no clue just how good she looks or seem to really appreciate the compliment. With some women, you can tell that she just hear it too often and it doesn't have much of an effect on her or maybe too much. I had one gf who seem to always remind me of how guys would hit on her all day and how she had the body of a 16 year old. I felt that she was receiving enough compliments throughout the day and that she didn't need to hear much from me.
that girl Posted November 9, 2010 Posted November 9, 2010 You can't guess what is in his head and no one else here can either. If it bothers you, say something. Tell him in a non-aggressive, non-teary way "I really wish you'd tell me how you find me attractive more often." Then leave the ball in his court. You can also try to lead things by saying how you find him attractive, but some people just need to be told what you want.
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