marigo Posted November 9, 2010 Posted November 9, 2010 Ugh!!! I feel so frutrated!! My ex and i have been broken up for 8 months now. About 4 months of our break up, he met someone and i dont really know when they started dating but all i know is that they made it official on facebook around first week of August. I was hurt but i was at the point where i didnt cry but more of angry. We've seen each other a few times at work and whenever we have casual conversation, we just joke around and tell random stories. About 2 weeks ago, however, we had a little argument (nothing really big) but basically he's wondering if i have something to say to him that's why i kind of go out of my way to talk to him. I do have some things i needed to clear up and i told him about them and lets just say after that talk, i am not gonna go out of my way to talk to him anymore. Talking to him made me really realize that the new girl is his new life now. I could see how much hes protecting her and his new relationship and it hurts like crazy. It feels unfair. I feel like im the one broken up with and im the one who's hurt but in the end, im still the one suffering while hes having the time of his life with somebody else. The holiday season is coming up and we're both graduating college this coming June. I just hate that she gets to be there in all those occasions with him while im miserable by myself. I hate feeling like this. I deserve to be happy too. Sometimes i feel like nothing is going right in my life and i wonder if there will ever come a time when it will be "my time." My time to be happy.
jquest1280 Posted November 9, 2010 Posted November 9, 2010 It feels unfair. I feel like im the one broken up with and im the one who's hurt but in the end, im still the one suffering while hes having the time of his life with somebody else. It IS unfair. They get away with everything. They don't ever suffer, they don't even give you a thought...so we think. It's so hard to get away from these thoughts; I used to have them too. Focus on yourself now, what makes YOU happy. Don't look to see how he's doing. One day things will be clear to you. We don't know what the future has in store, but one thing for sure, one day, you'll stop being affected by what and how he is doing. Before there was him, there was you, and you were happy.
davisc123 Posted November 9, 2010 Posted November 9, 2010 We've seen each other a few times at work and whenever we have casual conversation, we just joke around and tell random stories. I've been there. I bet when you walk away from him you feel depressed? It's horrible. I can tell you honestly the only time you'll feel better is when you stop talking for good. Don't drag it out uneccessarily. I'm sorry you're going through it I know exactly how it feels. But you owe it to yourself to make you your life's focus from now on.
Heatemyheart89 Posted November 9, 2010 Posted November 9, 2010 you said it yourself 'you deserve to be happy too' you do! I would stop talking to this man and seriously focus on yourself. Have the least amount of contact with him. Screw him and his new chick. Plenty of men out there for you to enjoy yourself with!
hopefulguy Posted November 9, 2010 Posted November 9, 2010 i TOTALLY now how u feel. my ex left me about a year ago. we were together for 5 years and she jumped into a relationship right after me. they are still together....and i am still single. ive been feeling ok as ive been doing alot of me time, adjusted the things i needed to in my life. but now im done with it and im not happy at all. i blocked her on facebook after the breakup, not because we hate eachother, (we still have the utmost respect for one another and are good friends) but cause it was hard to see how happy she was. I forgot about it...got over her...then i unblocked and added her again on fb yesterday cause i feel im over her, and ready to be friends. The only thing is...shes done soo much for herself this past year. she got promoted from her job, has a new car, her and her bf and doing great. as for me...im still in the same dead and job and single. still moping. to be honest...we can have everything in the world...but until we find another person to share it with we wont be truly happy...as our ex'es are. but dont worry, it will happen sooner or later for you. best of luck
hopefulguy Posted November 9, 2010 Posted November 9, 2010 and im also thinking about the holidays....it use to be my favorite time of the year. it still is, but it has that empty feeling. IT SUCKS!!!
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