Spending New Year's Eve in two or with others?

[cobyb44]

This is the first time in my life that i feel the need to register on a certain forum to get some oppinions....about my private life.

First I want to say that I am 22 years old and I have a long-term relationship with my boyfriend. We are together for 5 years now and we have big plans together. I love him so much and that is why I need your oppinion guys on my level of possessiveness .

Problem>>> every year we spend New Years Eve together, every year we went to a nice holiday house, just the two of us and it was so great. This is we thought about organizing something with some friends. I agreed, but at some point i felt like saying to my boyfriend that I miss him so much and that I would prefer to be again only with him for the New Year's Eve, like going somewhere AGAIN just us. At least until we leave together (next year we move together in Germany where he will graduate university).

to understand better, we see each other for real like 5 times per year, and in sommer I go in Germany and we are leaving there together 3 months. When he comes in our hometown, Cluj-Romania, we stay at his family house because its bigger than my family's apartment. So every year he comes home and we do not have the chance to be alone like we were in Germany.

Another beautiful thing at our relationship is that we have been speaking everyday, all these years, through Skype with webcam and microphone.

 

My question is....am I being possessive wanting to spend New Year's Eve only with him, but in the same time respecting his idea of bringing more friends? Could it be the need to avoid routine?

I think that when we will move together we will have time to make a lots of friends and to get out eith them with the nice feeling that we will see each other from now on every mornin, every day, without saying goodbye....I can't handle to take him to the airport again and again, its becoming more and more painfully.

Am I possessive?

 

I dont think that I was to explicit in my writing, and maybe none will have the patience to read it....but its fine only writing, its like writing him a letter with a silence reply

[folieadeux]

I don't think you're being possessive at all. Being in an LDR has its own unique set of circumstances with respect to things like this. You have every right to want to spend as much time alone together as possible because you don’t get to see each other on a regular basis like most couples do.

 

My SO and I will be spending New Year’s alone together and we wouldn’t have it any other way. We’ll set aside some time to visit with friends and family sure, but the point for us is to be together as much as we can.

 

I think you’re doing a good job of keeping things balanced.

[cobyb44]

Thank your very much for your reply, folieadeux !