durkadurka Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 I think everyone here knows how I feel about my ex, most people viewed the situation as being toxic, and it's brutal. Yesterday, she called and texted me. I ignored them. Today she texted me saying that she made an offer on the companies I encouraged her to work on buying, because it would save her family from a financial oblivion. That sacrifice, and telling her to go, was without a doubt the hardest thing I've ever had to do, knowing that she finished it with the help of someone else (another man) has made it even harder. Last Thursday, I called her and followed up on a text she sent me the day previous, telling her she cannot talk to me anymore. I won't stand for this limbo pseudo friendship we have. The amount of raw effort I put into the relationship precludes a friendship. It was either all, or nothing. I don't know how to convey what I've got on my mind. But, I want her to leave me alone.
sacg Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 Good for you Durka, save you a lot of heartache and further pain man. I just hope I'm as strong when mine comes knocking, if she ever does now she's found Mr Right (No. 14ish).
TaraMaiden Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 I think everyone here knows how I feel about my ex, most people viewed the situation as being toxic, and it's brutal. Yesterday, she called and texted me. I ignored them. Today she texted me saying that she made an offer on the companies I encouraged her to work on buying, because it would save her family from a financial oblivion. That sacrifice, and telling her to go, was without a doubt the hardest thing I've ever had to do, knowing that she finished it with the help of someone else (another man) has made it even harder. Last Thursday, I called her and followed up on a text she sent me the day previous, telling her she cannot talk to me anymore. I won't stand for this limbo pseudo friendship we have. The amount of raw effort I put into the relationship precludes a friendship. It was either all, or nothing. I don't know how to convey what I've got on my mind. But, I want her to leave me alone. Is there any way you'd consider changing your e-mail, telephone and mobile 'phone numbers? It's the only sure-fire way I can think of, to prevent her ever getting through - or getting to - you again.
Author durkadurka Posted November 8, 2010 Author Posted November 8, 2010 (edited) I should add that the content of the voicemail was hilarious. She said she's been thinking about me for the last few days, but that she's been really busy and hasn't had a chance to get a hold of me. To call her if I want, but she's going to bed soon, and not to laugh at her for going to bed early. She also said she wanted to talk about a facebook message I sent her last week. She hasn't had the chance to respond but she's been thinking about it. What a joke. Edited November 8, 2010 by durkadurka
WTRanger Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 Hopefully you've deleted her off of your Facebook since you told her not to talk to you anymore. What exactly did you tell her when you said not to talk to you? Either she's dense, stubborn, or you were vague.
Author durkadurka Posted November 8, 2010 Author Posted November 8, 2010 (edited) Hopefully you've deleted her off of your Facebook since you told her not to talk to you anymore. What exactly did you tell her when you said not to talk to you? Either she's dense, stubborn, or you were vague. I deleted her off of facebook over a month ago. She got upset about it when I talked to her two weeks ago. No, on Wednesday she sent me a text message saying 'I gave up eating citrus, you of all people could appreciate how hard that is for me.' I didn't respond. The next day I called her and was like 'We're not friends anymore, you said you were miserable with me, and we both have our opinions on the relationship, we don't need to rehash anything, and I'm unhappy with you, so what's the point in talking? Don't call me anymore.' I followed it up with a fbook msg saying, we had a great relationship, here's why we can't be friends, leave me alone please. Still, apparently she doesn't grasp what I said. 'I put everything I could muster into coming to visit you, I have nothing left in the tank. Leave me alone.' Edited November 8, 2010 by durkadurka
112233 Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 Is there any way you'd consider changing your e-mail, telephone and mobile 'phone numbers? It's the only sure-fire way I can think of, to prevent her ever getting through - or getting to - you again. Probably better for him to just grow a set rather than hiding. No offense but you're giving him girl advice. Give her the finger and mean it, sonny.
Author durkadurka Posted November 8, 2010 Author Posted November 8, 2010 Probably better for him to just grow a set rather than hiding. No offense but you're giving him girl advice. Give her the finger and mean it, sonny. It's funny, the second I started to stand up for myself when I visited her and said 'We both have stuff we need to work on, I want us to fix this before we discuss getting back together.' She bailed.. lol.
112233 Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 It's funny, the second I started to stand up for myself when I visited her and said 'We both have stuff we need to work on, I want us to fix this before we discuss getting back together.' She bailed.. lol. OK so far so good. Now, go out and get a few new ones.
Sonolumino Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 durkadurka, are you quoting Jean-Luc Picard right now in the thread title, specifically this scene?: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lRmmHPE8EvA If not, it's a crazy coincidence.
Author durkadurka Posted November 8, 2010 Author Posted November 8, 2010 durkadurka, are you quoting Jean-Luc Picard right now in the thread title, specifically this scene?: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lRmmHPE8EvA If not, it's a crazy coincidence. No, I'm quoting it, the implications of the scene and how I feel now are not coincidental.
WTRanger Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 Well, she's really dense then. You've got to ignore her from here on out. Any reply, even a "F-Off!" reply will only entice her. Block her on Facebook, block her on email, block her on your phone if you can. She's going to keep trying. At the least, can you set your phone to not display texts as you get them? So you can just select and delete without having to read them. You cannot read anything she says, it only further angers you. Simple select and delete.
112233 Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 No, I'm quoting it, the implications of the scene and how I feel now are not coincidental. Oh wow. Stop being a drama queen, you sound like a chick. It's done. It's over. Pick up your duffle bag and get moving.
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